Umxholo
- Ukuya kwisibini ukuya kwisithathu okanye nangaphezulu
- Esi sisiqalo nje
- Lo ngumba wesifundo apho kuye kwakho uphando oluninzi
- Izinto zobudala xa kuziwa kwiziphumo zempikiswano yabazali
- Abantwana babonisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo koko bakubonayo kwimeko-bume yabo
- Ke kufuneka wenze ntoni?
Nditsho nakweyona ndawo intle kakhulu yobudlelwane kunye nemitshato, kukho ukungaboni ngasonye ngamanye amaxesha.
Ezi zinokubakho ukusuka kwelinye okanye omabini amaqabane asebenzise unyango oluthulwayo ukuya kuthi ga ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzalisa iscrreamathons yevolumu ephezulu kunye namaqabane omabini ekhwaza amagama abuhlungu.
Ukuya kwisibini ukuya kwisithathu okanye nangaphezulu
Kulungile, ke le yinxalenye kunye nenxalenye yobomi neqabane xa nibabini kuphela, kodwa xa unabantwana, njengoko abazali besazi, utshintsho kubalo lobomi luphela.
Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, zitshintshile, kunye nesigidi seminye yemicimbi yobuhlobo bakho, kodwa iimpikiswano ziyavela. Oku kuzisa umbuzo ekufuneka uphendulwe: kwenzeka ntoni kubantwana bakho xa wena neqabane lakho nixabana?
Masikhe singene kwaye sibone ukuba zithini iingcali malunga noku.
Esi sisiqalo nje
Njengoko ngokungathandabuzekiyo sele uyazi, ukulwa kwindawo ekufuphi yabantwana kukhokelela kwiziphumo ezininzi.
Kuhlala kufunyaniswa ukuba abazali abaneengxabano ezininzi phambi kwabantwana babo banokutshintsha indlela abantwana babo abaqhuba ngayo ulwazi, ngamanye amagama, indlela abantwana abacinga ngayo.
UAlice Schermerhorn, uNjingalwazi oNcedisayo kwiSebe lezeNzululwazi ngezeMpilo e-UVM, wafumanisa ukuba “abantwana abaphuma kumakhaya anengxabano enkulu, ngokuqeqesha iingqondo zabo ukuba zihlale ziphaphile, basebenzise iimpawu zovakalelo phakathi kwabantu, nokuba ngumsindo okanye ukonwaba, ngokwahlukileyo kunabantwana abaphuma kumakhaya anengxabano. ” Gcina loo nto engqondweni kwixesha elizayo xa uhendwa ukuba ukhale ngento ethile.
Lo ngumba wesifundo apho kuye kwakho uphando oluninzi
Kuba le yindawo ebalulekileyo, abaphandi kwihlabathi liphela bapapashe izigidi zamagama ngayo. Umzekelo, abaphandi uMark Flinn kunye noBarry England bahlalutye iisampulu zehormoni yoxinzelelo, icortisol, ethathwe kubo bonke abantwana kwilali ekwisiqithi saseDominica kwiCaribbean kwisifundo seminyaka engama-20.
Bafumanise ukuba abantwana abahlala nabazali abahlala bexabana banamanqanaba aphezulu e-cortisol abonisa uxinzelelo kunabantwana abahlala kwiintsapho ezinoxolo.
Kwaye enze ntoni la manqanaba aphezulu e-cortisol?
Abantwana abanamanqanaba aphezulu e-cortisol bahlala bediniwe kwaye begula, badlala kancinci, kwaye balala kancinci kunontanga babo abakhulele kumakhaya anoxolo ngakumbi.
Cinga malunga neziseko ezibanzi zoku. Ukuba umntwana uyagula, uyaphoswa sisikolo kwaye angaqala ukubandezeleka ezifundweni. Ukuba abantwana abazibandakanyi nokudlala omnye komnye, abanokukhulisa izakhono zentlalo eziyimfuneko ukuze baphile kamnandi emhlabeni.
Izinto zobudala xa kuziwa kwiziphumo zempikiswano yabazali
Abantwana abancinci njengeenyanga ezintandathu ubudala banokuyibona ingxabano phakathi kwabo.
Uninzi lwabantu abadala luyakhumbula ukuba abazali babo baxabana. Umdala kangakanani umntwana omiselwe kwinxalenye yokuphendula okanye umphumo wengxabano yomzali. Usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa alunakukwazi ukuziva uxinzelelo kubudlelwane bomtshato, kodwa umntu oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala ngokuqinisekileyo unako.
Abantwana babonisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo koko bakubonayo kwimeko-bume yabo
Ngamanye amagama, abantwana bafunda ngokukopa oko bakubonayo nabakuvayo kufutshane. Njengomzali, ulihlabathi kubantwana bakho.
Ukuba ubandakanyeka kwimidlalo yokukhwaza, umntwana wakho uya kuyibona le nto kwaye uya kukhula ecinga ukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo.
Ngenxa yabantwana bakho, kungcono ukugcina ivolumu isezantsi xa ungavumelani neqabane lakho, ukuze ungabi nalo uhlobo lokuziphatha olulinganiswa yinzala yakho. Ayizukuxhamla umntwana wakho kuphela, kuya kuba njalo nakubamelwane bakho!
Nalu uluhlu lwezinye iziphumo ezinokubakho kwaye zininzi
- Abantwana banokungazithembi kwaye bazirhoxise
- Iingxaki zokuziphatha zinokukhula
- Abantwana banokuphuhlisa iingxaki zempilo, eziyinyani okanye abazicingelayo
- Abantwana banokungakwazi ukugxila eklasini nto leyo enokubangela iingxaki ekufundeni nakumabanga aphantsi
- Kusenokuvela iimvakalelo zokuba netyala. Abantwana bahlala becinga ukuba ibangelwe yingxabano yabazali
- Abantwana banokudandatheka
- Ukudibana nabanye abantwana kunokuba yingxaki okanye kukulwa
- Abantwana banokuba ndlongondlongo emzimbeni; banokubetha, ukutyhala, ukutyhala okanye ukuluma abanye abantwana
- Abanye abantwana banokuba ndlongondlongo ngamazwi; Banokuqhula, bathuke, basebenzise intetho engafanelekanga, babize nabanye abantwana ngamagama
- Abantwana banokukhula bengalali kakuhle kwaye babe namaphupha amabi
- Imikhwa yokutya engalunganga inokusekwa. Abantwana banokutya kakhulu okanye batye kancinci.
- Abantwana banokuba ngabantu abakhetha ukutya kwaye baqale ukuphulukana nezondlo ezibalulekileyo zokukhula
Ke kufuneka wenze ntoni?
Abazali abaninzi ngethuku lemvelo bayazi okanye bafunde ukuba ukuxambulisana phambi kwabantwana akuyonto ifanelekileyo.
Abanye abazali banokuzama nje ukuthintela yonke ingxabano, kodwa nayo izenzela eyayo ingxaki. Abanye abazali banokunikezela okanye bathathe inxaxheba kwiqabane labo, ukuze kupheliswe impikiswano, kodwa kwakhona, oku akuyi kukhokelela kwisiphumo esonelisayo.
UMark Cummings, ugqirha wengqondo kwiYunivesithi i-Notre Dame, ubhale ngokubanzi malunga noko kwenzekayo kubantwana abakhula kwiimeko apho kukho ingxabano enkulu emtshatweni, kwaye esithi ngokuba nabantwana babone ukusonjululwa kwengxabano, abantwana baya kuziva ngakumbi ukhuselekile ngokwasemoyeni.
Uqhubeka athi, “Xa abantwana bebona umlo kwaye bebona abazali bewusombulula, bonwaba ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Iqinisekisa abantwana ukuba abazali banokusebenza ngezinto. Sikwazi oku ngeemvakalelo abazibonisayo, abakutshoyo, kunye nokuziphatha kwabo-bayabaleka bayodlala. Ungquzulwano olwakhayo lunxulunyaniswa neziphumo ezibhetele ekuhambeni kwexesha. ”
Indlela ephakathi yeyona ilungileyo onokuyithatha ukuze uphile kakuhle kusapho lonke. Ukulwa, iimpikiswano, ukungavumelani, ungquzulwano, ubabize ngale nto ufuna ukuyenza –yinxalenye yento esenza sibe ngabantu. Ukufunda indlela yokufumana esona siphumo sihle sisitshixo ekukhuleni kunye nokwenza eyona mpilo iphilileyo kubo bobabini abazali nabantwana.