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Musa ukuthatha izinto ngobuqu
Akungam
Ukubukisa ngokweemvakalelo
Bukela umboniso
Akukho mntu oyingcali kwiimvakalelo zam ngaphandle kwam
Tyenza isenzo esichaseneyo
Cinga ngaphambi kokuba usabele
"Ukwala enye" kwangaxeshanye kunokuba "kukuthanda omnye"
Kuhlala kukho enye imvakalelo ebangela umsindo
Mamela nje
Yonke into ayinasiphelo
Andinakusoloko “ndiyilungisa.”
Fumana ilizwi lakho
Yiba wedwa phambi komnye
Thatha uxanduva lweemvakalelo zam kuphela
Imida
Athini amaxabiso am?
Yeka ukuhamba

Ngamanye amaxesha xa ndikunye nomthengi, bajamelana nengxaki yeemvakalelo kubudlelwane.

Nokuba ingxaki inzima okanye ayipheli, kuyanceda ukuba nento endithanda ukuyibiza, "oonotsheluza bengqondo," endinokubuyela kubo ngamaxesha oxinzelelo lweemvakalelo.

Xa umntu ekwingxaki yeemvakalelo kunye nenombolo yokuncamathisela, akukho lula ukuphendula ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Khawufane ucinge ngethuba lokugqibela ubuphikisana neqabane lakho, iqabane lakho, okanye umntu omthandayo malunga nesihloko esishushu.

Ngokwesiqhelo, ubuchopho bakho obunengqondo buyaphangwa.

Oonotsheluza bengqondo sisixhobo esikhulu "sokubamba," xa ubuchopho bethu bugcwele yimvakalelo. Ubudlelwane bunokubangela ezinye zezona nzondo zethu zinzulu, zingabikho zingqondweni. Oonotsheluza bayasebenza kwaye banokuthuthuzela loo maxesha oyiko ngexesha lobunzima.

Nazi ezinye oonotsheluza abaqhelekileyo onokuzisebenzisa xa usiva ukuba uvalo luza ngexesha lengxabano nomntu omthandayo:

Musa ukuthatha izinto ngobuqu

UDon Miguel Ruiz ubandakanya oku njengenye yeziVumelwano zakhe ezine.

Xa abathengi bethatha izinto buqu, bahlala benika abantu abathile amandla ngaphezulu kwabo kunokuba kufanelekile. Bathemba omnye umntu ukuba abaxelele ukuba bangobani, endaweni yokuxhomekeka kwinto abayaziyo ukuba iyinyani ngabo.

Akungam

Uthatha iqabane lakho kuhambo olucwangciswe ngocoselelo olukuchithe imali eninzi, kwaye uchithe iintsuku ujonge phambili kwaye uceba.

Ufika ekhaya ngorhatya kwaye umlingane wakho uthi, "Kulungile, bekudinisa oko." Oku kuqhelekile. Ayisiyongxaki yakho ngawe.

Umlingane wakho unelungelo kwimbono yakhe kunye neemvakalelo malunga nosuku. Kukho ilizwi lakudala ngaphakathi kuthi likhwaza, "lithetha ngam !!" Kuya kufuneka wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukulihoya elo lizwi, kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba ayisoloko iyimpazamo yakho.

* Umbhalo osemazantsi: Ukuba "ububonisa" ngendlela engafanelekanga kubazali bakho xa wawuselusana, wamkela oonotsheluza, “ayithethi ngam,” okanye “sukuzithathela izinto,” kunokuba nzima kuwe.

Ukubukisa ngokweemvakalelo

Ukubukelwa ngokwasemoyeni yinto apho umntu okhathalelayo elinganisa iindlela ezingezozomlomo xa wawuselusana, ezinje ngembonakalo yobuso okanye amagama. Le nkqubo ihlala ingazi nto kodwa ibonisa uvelwano kunye nokuzimisela.

Inceda umntu ukuba avelise imeko yelizwe lakhe langaphakathi, kunye nemvakalelo yesiqu sakhe. Kunqabile ukuba siyazi, kodwa njengosana, ukuba nomama okanye utata "ngokuvumelanisa" nathi kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwethu ngokweemvakalelo.

Ukuba kukho ukusilela kwesibuko rhoqo, siyakhathazeka ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye imeko yethu yesiqu inokukhula ngendlela egqwethekileyo.

Bukela umboniso

Sicinga ukuba ulawulo luphelisa uxinzelelo.

Ngokwenyani, ukufuna "ukulawula" kusibangela uxinzelelo ngakumbi, kunye noxinzelelo kwabo basingqongileyo. Yima ngasemva ubukele umboniso.

Yeka ukuzama ukwalathisa kunye nokulawula iqabane lakho. Xa kukho umzuzu wokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo, jonga indlela oziva ngayo ukuyibuka, kunokuba uthathe inxaxheba ngqo kwisiphithiphithi.

Akukho mntu oyingcali kwiimvakalelo zam ngaphandle kwam

Uyingcali kwiimvakalelo zakho. Akakho omnye umntu onokukuxelela indlela oziva ngayo. Makhe ndiphinde-uyingcali kwiimvakalelo zakho!

Elinye ilungu lesibini liya kuhlala lixelela elinye ilungu lesibini ukuba uziva njani loo mntu, kwilinge lokulawula iimpendulo zempikiswano yeemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, xa elinye lamalungu esi sibini esenza oku, kubonisa ukungabikho kwemida yengqondo kwicala leqabane elihlaselayo, ihlala ikhokelela iqabane elihlaselweyo ukuba linqwenele umgama ngokwasemzimbeni.

Tyenza isenzo esichaseneyo

Xa uziva udandathekile emva kokulwa neqabane, bukela imovie ehlekisayo, okanye uhleke. Fowunela umhlobo okanye uthathe uhambo. Iingqondo zethu zixhunyiwe ukuba ziqhubeke zingakhange ziqonde ukukhanya. Xa sisenza into ngokuchaseneyo, siyeka lo mjikelo kwiindlela zawo.

Cinga ngaphambi kokuba usabele

Oku kuvakala kulula, kodwa xa kusenziwa, kunzima.

Kwakhona, xa sixambulisana nomnye obalulekileyo, kunokuba lula ukukhupha amagama.

Thatha umzuzu wokuphefumla, kwaye uziqokelele ngokwasemoyeni. Buyela umva kwaye ucinge malunga nokuphuma emlonyeni wakho. Ngaba uphosa "wena" ingxelo kwiqabane lakho? Ngaba usabela kwindawo eyadlulayo, okanye unxulumene nobudlelwane bangaphambili? Cotha izinto.

Ngamanye amaxesha zonke izenzo zomnye zenzelwe ukukhuthaza ukuba usabele. Qaphela ukufakwa. Musa ukunyanzelwa!

"Ukwala enye" kwangaxeshanye kunokuba "kukuthanda omnye"

Uninzi lwabantu lunobunzima bokwazi ukuba umntu angabathanda, ngelixa ngaxeshanye befumana iintlungu okanye ukwaliwa ezandleni zaloo mntu. Xa abanye abantu beziva belahliwe okanye belahliwe, iba ngathi uthando aluzange lubekho.

Kuyanceda ukukhumbula ukuba "ukwala omnye" ngalo mzuzu wangoku, isenokuba ngumntu okuthandayo. Zombini uthando kunye nokwaliwa zinokubakho ngaxeshanye!

Kuhlala kukho enye imvakalelo ebangela umsindo

Ngokwesiqhelo, xa abantu bakhohlakele okanye benomsindo, kungenxa yokuba bayoyika okanye benzakele. Umsindo yimvakalelo yesibini.

Oku akuthethi ukuba kwamkelekile ukuba umntu aqalekise okanye athethe izinto ezimbi kuwe. Zimele ngokwakho xa kukho imfuneko.

Mamela nje

Leli khadi elibalulekileyo.

Ukumamela ngoyena ndoqo wonxibelelwano olusebenzayo neqabane lethu.

Sivame ukulibala oku xa iimvakalelo zethu zivutha. Ukuba umntu uza nomcimbi kwitafile, myeke agqibe ukucinga kwakhe, kwaye azive ebonwa kwaye eve, phambi kokuba uzise ezakho iimvakalelo, iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo kwingxoxo.

Babuze imibuzo malunga nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Shwankathela iimvakalelo zabo kwaye unamathele kule nto bayithethayo, ngaphandle kokungena ngaphakathi. Nje ukuba bagqibe, ungabuza ukuba ungaphinde uxoxe ngempendulo yakho kulo mbandela kwaye njani wena uzive ngayo.

Yonke into ayinasiphelo

Le yenye yeenyaniso ezine ezintle zobuBuddha. Akukho nto ehlala ngonaphakade. Iimvakalelo ziyehla kwaye zihamba njengamaza olwandle. Nokuba ungaziva ungenakoyiswa njani ngalo mzuzu, nako oku kuya kudlula.

Andinakusoloko “ndiyilungisa.”

Awunalawulo. Yekela.

Chwetheza ubuntu bakho banzima kule khadi. Ngamaxesha esiphithiphithi ngokweemvakalelo, kwangoko sifuna ukusombulula ingxaki okanye ukulungisa. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka simamele kwaye senze indawo yosizi, ilahleko, okanye iintlungu. Yenzele indawo.

Fumana ilizwi lakho

Ungalivumeli ilizwi lakho, iminqweno yakho, okanye iminqweno yakho ukuba itshoniswe liqabane lakho.

Qinisekisa ukufumana ilizwi lakho ngamaxesha okungaqiniseki. Ilizwi lakho sisitshixo kubuchule bokuyila, ukubonakalisa nokuzithemba, kwaye ekugqibeleni liyakwenza iqabane elingcono ukuba ulihloniphile.

Yiba wedwa phambi komnye

Esi sesinye isitshixo kubudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nobudlelwane.

Awunakuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho kulonwabo lwakho okanye kwimpilo yakho yeemvakalelo, yezemali, okanye yomzimba. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuba wedwa phambi komnye umntu.

Thatha uxanduva lweemvakalelo zam kuphela

Kuya kufuneka uthathe uxanduva lweemvakalelo zakho.

Bangabakho, kwaye ngabakho wedwa. Awunakuziqonda uza kuzivelisa iimvakalelo zakho kwabanye. Ukuthatha uxanduva lweemvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho kunceda ukuba uqaphele okwakho, kwaye ayingokwakho.

Imida

Kufuneka sibe nemida yengqondo nabanye ukuze sisondele kwabanye kwaye sikhulise ukusondelelana okwenyani.

Ukuba asiyenzi imida yengqondo, sigqiba ukwahlula iinxalenye zobuntu babanye- njengehlazo, inkcaso, uloyiko, njl.

Siba yinto yokwamkelwa apho iimvakalelo ziqikelelwa khona.

Xa umntu ethanda ngokwasemphefumlweni, abanye bathambekele ekubekeni imida ebonakalayo, njengokuphuma kwigumbi okanye ukuphuma, ixesha. Oku kuhlala kuchasene noko kufunwa yenye. Ukuhlaselwa kwemida yethu yengqondo kunokubangela inzondo.

Athini amaxabiso am?

Cacisa ixabiso lakho.

Yenza uluhlu kwaye ubhale ezona zinto zilishumi zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.

Ngawaphi amaxabiso ofuna ukuphila ngawo? Ngaba ulixabisile ixesha losapho kunemali? Ngaba uyawaxabisa amandla ngaphezu kolwazi? Zeziphi iintlobo zabantu ozihloniphayo nabazithandayo? Uzingqonga nabani?