Umxholo
- Ungaze uluthathe lula ulwalamano lwakho
- Yenza ubundlobongela ngesondo ngabom kwaye uyihlukumeze kancinci
- Ukungabanjwa ngesondo yonke imihla
- Thatha into entsha kunye
- Yenza ixesha labo "masitshintshe umhlaba"
- Izibini ezinkulu ziyosulela
Ukuba ukhe wachitha ixesha ujikeleze isibini esitshatileyo sexesha elide, usenokuba ukhe weva oku kulandelayo nokuba kukwindoda okanye inkosikazi: “Owu, nantsi ibhola endala kunye netyathanga”, okanye “Thixo hayi eso siqhulo kwakhona! Abantu bayivile isigidi samaxesha. Yiphumze! ”
Amaxabiso oqhawulo mtshato phakathi kweeseti ezingaphezulu kwama-50 ayenyuka, ukubamanani ziyakholelwa, ngeli candelo labemi abaqhawula umtshato kwinqanaba eliphindwe kabini elabonwa kwii-1990s.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuba yinxalenye yezibini ezizaliswe kukungakhathali, okanye agqibe ukuqhawula umtshato emva kweminyaka engama-30 okanye emtshatweni, ke ukujonga iindlela isibini esinokonyusa uthando lwaso, kunokuba sikubukele kuncipha kule minyaka idlulileyo, kubalulekile kwimpilo nolonwabo kulwalamano lwakho.
Makhe sihlolisise ezinye zeendlela zokunceda uthando lwakho lukhule njengoko wena neqabane lakho niqhubela phambili ebomini.
Ungaze uluthathe lula ulwalamano lwakho
Ngokuqinisekileyo, njengokuba ukhula uya ngokwendalo unganikeli ngqalelo ekwakheni iqhina lobambiswano lwakho kunokuba wawunjalo kwiintsuku zokuqala, kwaye oko kuyaqondakala ngokupheleleyo.
Xa niqala ukudibana "inye", nobabini nisebenza nzima ukubonisa elona cala lilungileyo, ukunika ulwalamano ulwalamano lwenu ngokwenza konke kube phambili. Uyakhathalela ukufika kwimihla yakho ujonge okona kulungileyo, unxibe impahla oyikhethe ngononophelo, iinwele zakho kunye nezithambiso zikhangeleka zingenamakhwiniba, kwaye mhlawumbi nesiqholo esinomtsalane esiza kuchonga nawe.
Ujonge izinto ezinomdla onokuzenza kunye-umboniso wamyuziyam wakutshanje, umdlalo olungileyo, ikonsathi okanye uhambo olucwangciswe kakuhle ngempelaveki. Kwaye okuninzi kokuthetha kunye nokuxoxa, ngamnye kuni ulungelele kwelinye.
Ukunceda ukugcina uthando lwakho nzulu kuyo yonke le minyaka, sukutyeshela ukuqhubeka nokubandakanya imisebenzi "yomhla wokuqala".
Amaqabane akhula enesithukuthezi omnye komnye ngenxa yokuba ewela kwisiqhelo, uhlobo lwe-inertia, apho bayayeka ukuzama ukuziveza kumava amatsha.
Le mpazamo enkulu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uziva ukhululekile ukuhlala nje kunye endlini ngeempelaveki — ngapha koko, udiniwe kukusebenza — kodwa ukuba wenza loo nto, isithukuthezi siza kuqala. Qala ngokuphila ngeempelaveki zakho njengoko wawusenza xa uqala ukuthandana, kwaye uya kuqala ukubona iqabane lakho njengoko wenza ngaloo minyaka yokuqala-njengomntu okhethekileyo, onomtsalane owathandana naye kwaye ngekhe umthabathe lula.
Yenza ubundlobongela ngesondo ngabom kwaye uyihlukumeze kancinci
Ngaba ufuna ukugcina nzulu uthando lwakho omnye komnye? Gcina isondo kwikhalenda.
Nokuba awuziva ngathi uyathanda. Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo ixesha elide abasabelani ngesondo ngaphambili, njengoko ezinye iziganeko zobomi zibonakala ngathi zibeka phambili, njengabantwana, abazali abalupheleyo, uxanduva lwasekhaya.
Kodwa isondo yinto ebalulekileyo yokuhlala kufutshane ngokweemvakalelo komnye nomnye.
Buza nasiphi na isibini esiqhawule umtshato kwaye baya kukuxelela ukuba enye yezinto zokuqala ezinegalelo ekuqhawukeni kobudlelwane babo yayikukungabikho kwesondo okanye iqabane elathi "lahamba nje" kwigumbi lokulala.
Ukomeleza uthando lwakho kule minyaka idlulileyo, nikela ingqalelo kubomi bakho bobulili. Yigcine inomdla ngokudibanisa izinto ezintsha ezothusayo ezinje ngokusetyenziswa kweethoyi, okanye iividiyo ezithandekayo enizonwabelayo nobabini.
Ukwabelana ngesondo yiglue eyothusayo yokunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho kunye, ke sukungakuhoyi oku kunika ubomi kunye nokuzonwabisa okungenasikhalori!
Ukungabanjwa ngesondo yonke imihla
Zininzi iindlela ezingezizo ezesondo onokuthi ubonise iqabane lakho ukuba uziva usondele kuye.
Ungathini malunga nokuthanjiswa okunzulu emva kosuku olude usemsebenzini? Okanye ubeke iivini ezithile uFrank Sinatra kwaye utsalele iqabane lakho kufutshane kuwe, umdaniso wenyama? Ukumanga msinya xa nigqibezela izitya kunye, okanye ukwanga entanyeni yakhe xa nigqitha epasejini?
Zonke ezi zenzo zothando ziindlela zokubonisa ukuba uyaqhubeka nokubona kunye nokuxabisana, kwaye uncede ukugcina iqhina lenu liqinile kwaye liqinile.
Thatha into entsha kunye
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulungile (kwaye kuyimfuneko) ukuba ngamnye wenu abe neenkanuko zakhe ezahlukileyo, kodwa izibini ezimi ixesha elide zingalukhulisa uthando lwazo omnye komnye ngokwenza into entsha kunye nokucela umngeni kunye.
Kukho into malunga neehomoni ezikhutshwe ngokunyuka ziye emsebenzini onzima oya kukwenza ubone iqabane lakho ngelihlo elitsha kunye nokunyusa i-libido.
Ukuba nobabini niyakonwabela ukubaleka, kutheni ungaqeqeshi kwaye ubaleke umdyarho kunye? Ingaba zimbini iigourmets? Thatha iklasi yokupheka kunye kunye nocelomngeni omnye ngeempelaveki ukwenza ukutya okumangalisayo. Ngaba uhlala unomdla kwimidlalo yamanzi? Sayina kwi-sailing okanye nge-kayaking adventure.
Nantoni na entsha kunye nenqanaba lomceli mngeni eyakhelwe-ngaphakathi ngumsebenzi omkhulu wokuzisa isibini sakho kwelinye inqanaba lobumbano.
Yenza ixesha labo "masitshintshe umhlaba"
Mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo yonke imihla ebusuku, kodwa ubuncinci kube kanye ngeveki ibenengxoxo enzulu, nefilosofi kunye neqabane lakho ukuze unxibelelane ngendlela enentsingiselo.
Incoko enkulu yenza imimangaliso yokwandisa iimvakalelo zakho zothando komnye nomnye.
Imibuzo ebonakalisayo enje ngala "Ngaba le nto uyenzayo ngoku iyangqinelana nento obuyiphupha ngobomi bakho xa wawusemncinci?" okanye "Zeziphi iintlobo zezinto esinokuzilwela kule minyaka mihlanu izayo ukuze siqhubeke sonwabile kunye?" iyakuvuselela incoko kwaye nina nobabini nidubule iiseli zengqondo.
Izibini ezinkulu ziyosulela
Ngaba ukhe uchithe ixesha ujikeleze umhlobo odandathekileyo, kwaye uqaphele ukuba uphuma kuloo mvakalelo uphantsi ngokwakho?
Iimvakalelo ziyosulela ngaloo ndlela.
Qiniseka ukuba izibini onxibelelana nazo ziyimodeli yento ofuna ukuba nayo kubudlelwane bakho: izithandane ezinothando, ezixhasanayo ezibeka phambili enye kwenye.