Umxholo
- Umtshato wakho mawube yinto ephambili
- Zive ukhululekile xa uhlala nabantwana
- Zama ukulungelelanisa nendlela yabazali bakho yokuba ngumzali
- Fumana umntu okanye into engaphandle kosapho onokuphumla nayo
- Hlonipha abazali bemvelo babantwana
Isiphelo
Ukuba ngumzali lelinye lamava amnandi kwaye asikelelweyo ebomini bomntu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngumzali wesibini kusenokungabi mnandi njengamava kubo bonke.
Ukudityaniswa kwiintsapho ezimbini ezahlukeneyo kunokuba nzima, kwaye wonke umntu unokujongana nezithintelo ezininzi. Rhoqo kuthatha iminyaka ukuba ezo ntsapho zidibane kwaye zikhululeke xa zihlala ndawonye.
Ukukhulisa umntwana ngokunyathela kufuna umzamo omkhulu, ngakumbi kwiminyaka yokuqala. Kule nqanaba, umntu kufuneka asebenze kubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakhe kunye nokukhulisa ubudlelwane babo nomntwana womtshato wesibini.
Ukwamkela abantwana bomnye umntu njengabakho kwaye ubanike uthando olufanayo, inkxalabo kunye nenkxaso linyathelo elikhulu kuye nawuphi na umntu. Ngamanye amaxesha nokuba ungazama kangakanani, kuya kufuneka ujongane namahla ndinyuka.
Zininzi iingxaki ze-step-parenting. Ukuba ngumzali wesibini kudla ngokujongwa njengomsebenzi onzima kwaye kunokufuna umonde omkhulu ngaphambi kokuba uwazi kakuhle.
Ke, ukuba uyazibuza, ukuba ungaba ngumzali wesibini olungileyo njani, kunye nendlela yokujongana nabantwana bomtshato wesibini, sukujonga phambili. Kule nqaku, uya kufumana iingcebiso zomzali wesibini zokukunceda ekujonganeni nabantwana bomtshato wesibini ngothando.
Ukukhankanywa apha ngezantsi zezona zikhokelo zibalulekileyo kuwo nawuphi na umzali omtsha / osokolayo.
Umtshato wakho mawube yinto ephambili
Bobabini abatshatileyo kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba ubudlelwane babo buhlala bungekho mpo nangona umzali wesibini esokola kunye nabantwana bomtshato wesibini.
Iintsapho zomtshato wesibini zidla ngokwahlulahlula phakathi kwabazali bazo ngokwendalo, zibabeka ngokuthembeka abantwana babo ngaphezu komtshato wabo. Oku kunokuhambisa ubudlelwane ngomsindo, inzondo, umona, kunye nokungamkeleki.
Amaqabane kufuneka amanyane kwaye asebenze njengeqela ukunceda ukuvala umsantsa phakathi komzali omtsha nabantwana. Xa ungena kwindima yomzali wesibini, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba umtshato wakho uwubeka kubudlelwane bakho nabantwana.
Yenza ixesha leqabane lakho kwaye nidibane kunye njengesibini, nibe nobusuku bomhla, kwaye nenze igalelo kwinxalenye yenu ekuncedeni ukwenza izigqibo zokuba ngumzali. Oku kuyakusondeza kwiqabane lakho kwaye kuthintele naluphi na uhlobo lwembambano yomtshato okanye uxinzelelo.
Zive ukhululekile xa uhlala nabantwana
Ukukwazi ukunxibelelana kakuhle kwaye ube nexesha elimnandi nabantwana bakho bomtshato wesibini yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kuye nawuphi na umzali wesibini. Ngelixa abanye abantwana kunokuba lula ukukhululeka nabo, abanye abantwana bahlala bebona umzali wesibini njengesoyikiso, ongomnye wemicimbi ebalulekileyo abajamelana nayo abazali bomtshato wesibini.
Ukuze ukhululeke phakathi kwabantwana, into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuba ube nguwe. Ukwamkela ubuntu obungeyonyani ngenxa yokuba uswiti ngakumbi kunokubuyela nje emlilweni, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala nabantwana bokuzalwa.
Endaweni yoko beka phambili oyena mntu unguye kwaye mvumele umntwana akhule ukuthanda loo mntu. Ngokuthe ngcembe, iqhina elisekwe kumdla wendalo kunye nomsa luya kusekwa phakathi kwakho nomntwana.
Ngapha koko, sebenzisa ukuhleka kunye nokudlala ngokwasemzimbeni ukwakha ukusondela kunye nokuphelisa uxinzelelo. Yijonge kwaye ujonge iindlela zokubenza bahleke kwaye baqhubeke nokuhleka. Bayeke boyise ngexesha lomdlalo kunye nemidlalo kwaye ubukele usapho lwakho lomtshato lumanyana.
Zama ukulungelelanisa nendlela yabazali bakho yokuba ngumzali
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba aba ngabantwana beqabane lakho, kwaye banelungelo lokubakhulisa ngokwemigaqo yabo ebekiweyo.
Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuzibumba ngokwendlela yomzali weqabane lakho kwaye usebenzise indlela efanayo.
Ke, enye yezinto umzali wesibini akufuneki ayenze, kukunyanzela iingcinga zabo kunye nendlela yobuzali kulwakhiwo esele lukhona nolusebenzayo losapho.
Ukuba ucela umngeni kuzo naziphi na iindlela zabo okanye ungenise indlela yakho yobuzali, ayizukuphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho kuphela kodwa iya kubangela nokudideka emntwaneni ngenxa yemida eyahlukeneyo kunye nolindelo olujikeleze indlu.
Ukuba awanelisekanga yinto iqabane lakho eliqhelisela kulo njengomzali, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nalo ngayo.
Fumana umntu okanye into engaphandle kosapho onokuphumla nayo
Ukuba ngumzali kunokuba nzima kwaye kube nzima. Unokuzinikela ngokugqithiseleyo kubantwana bakho bomtshato wesibini; uya kuthi ekugqibeleni ufune into ukuze uvuthele umphunga.
Yenza oku ngokubamba inoveli okanye uhambe uhambe ujikeleze ibhloko. Usenokude ufune ukudibana nabahlobo kunye nosapho ozibeke kwisitya esingasemva ngelixa uzama ukuphucula umtshato wakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho nabantwana bakho bomtshato.
Phuma ngesidlo sasemini okanye uye kwiimuvi okanye ufumane umntu osondeleyo onokuthetha naye. Kukonke, wonwabile kwaye ufake ipetroli ngaphandle kwabantwana okanye iqabane lakho.
Hlonipha abazali bemvelo babantwana
Le yeyona nto icacileyo. Akukho mntwana ufuna ukuva abazali bakhe bengahlonitshwa, nokuba izinto zijike kangakanani phakathi kwabo.
Bonke abantwana bafuna ukubona abazali babo bekunye, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha oko akunakwenzeka. Qiniseka ukuba uyabahlonipha abazali kwaye ukhumbuze abantwana ukuba abazali babo bayabathanda nokuba bohlukene okanye abasekho kunye nabo.
Unokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba bachithe ixesha nabazali babo bokwenyani. Oku kuyakumnceda umntwana ukuba abone ukuba uyabuxabisa ubudlelwane bosapho kwaye ugqibe ukomeleza ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho nomntwana.
Bukela le vidiyo ukuze uqonde ubuhle bokuhlala kusapho oludibeneyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akuyonto imbi ukuba ngumzali wesibini okanye umntwana wesibini.
Isiphelo
Ukuba ngumzali wesibini, iimvakalelo ziya kunyuka. Unokuphelisa ukugqithisa ngamanye amaxesha kwaye udlale ngamanye amaxesha. Ukukhulisa umntwana ngokunyathela kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kodwa mnike ixesha; yonke into iya kuwela endaweni yayo.
Unokucinga ngokujoyina amaqela enkxaso yokuba ngumzali ukuba uziva ufuna ukwenza njalo. Akufanele ube neentloni ekufuneni uncedo lweengcali ukuba kukho imfuneko yoko.
Isitshixo sokuba ngumzali wesibini olungileyo kukuba ngumhlobo ngakumbi kubantwana obathandayo nabaxhasayo kunokuba ube ngumntu osongela ulwalamano lwabo nabazali babo okanye umntu okhuphayo ongqongqo okanye ongqwabalala.