Umxholo
- Ngaba iqabane lakho li-narcissist? Uluhlu lokutshekisha miimpawu ze-ajor
- 1. Ukuziva ukongama
- 2. Isidingo esipheleleyo sokufumana ingqalelo
- 3.Yaphula umthetho
- 4. Ukuphazamisa incoko
- 5. Ukuqikelela umfanekiso wobuxoki
- 6. Umtsalane
- Iimpawu ezincinci
Umtshato owawenzelwe ukuba uzive ukhuselekile kwaye uthandeka ngoku wenza uzive ubuthathaka, uxhatshazwa kwaye uxinezelekile. Nokuba ubonakalisa kangakanani uthando kwiqabane lakho, kuhlala kubonakala kuncinci phambi kweemfuno zabo ezingamkelekanga kunye nolindelo. Ukuhlala narcissist kunzima kwaye kuyonakalisa.
Ngexesha leengxaki zomtshato wokungakhathali, uphulukana nesibindi sokujongana nabantu kunye nesibindi sokwabelana ngombono wakho. Uqala ukubuza ubukho bakho kwaye uchithe ubusuku uzibuza ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Zonke iinkcazo zakho ezisebenzayo nezisengqiqweni zibonakala ziwela kwindlebe xa kuthethwa ngeqabane elithandanayo.
I-narcissist ngumntu ophazamisekile engqondweni; Zibonisa ukuphazamiseka okungathethekiyo kobuntu babo kwaye bayazingca ngokugqithisileyo. Bayakonwabela ukuhlangana nabo babancomayo okanye abalungileyo nabangalunganga kwaye bahlala behambisa incoko kwisihloko, ababona ukuba kubalulekile.
Ekusebenzeni esidlangalaleni, bayabaphepha abantu abanokungavumelani nezimvo zabo njengoko bejonga ukuba zezabo zezona zifezekileyo kwaye zisemthethweni.
Ipateni yobudlelwane be-narcissist iyakhohlisa njenge-maze. Abaze baphathe amaqabane abo ngokulinganayo. Abaze babanike inkululeko yezentlalo okanye yobuqu. Bafuna ukuxelwa ngaso sonke isenzo. Bafuna amaqabane abo ukuba alandele iiodolo zabo kwaye benze izinto abacela ukuba bazenze.
Ngaba iqabane lakho li-narcissist? Uluhlu lokutshekisha miimpawu ze-ajor
Ukuba ubhajwe kubudlelwane obuyinkimbinkimbi, kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ingaba iqabane lakho liyi-narcissist okanye akunjalo kufuneka uhambe ngeempawu zobuntu eziqhelekileyo ezikhoyo kwi-narcissist, njengoko kushwankathelwe apha ngezantsi.
1. Ukuziva ukongama
I-narcissist ikholelwa ukuba ihlala phakathi kwala macala mabini alungile okanye mabi, aphezulu okanye aphantsi; akukho ndlela iphakathi yokugweba umntu.
Bayazithemba kuphela kwaye bazama ukwenza izinto ngokwabo-- nanjengoko bebodwa abanokugqibezela umsebenzi ngokugqibeleleyo.
Ukuba i-narcissist iyacaphuka, yenzakele okanye inomsindo baziva benelungelo lokwenzakalisa amaqabane abo ngokubuyela kulo naliphi na inqanaba. Bacinga ukukhupha iimvakalelo zabo ngokubaluleke ngakumbi kunokujonga iimvakalelo zomntu ongaphambili.
2. Isidingo esipheleleyo sokufumana ingqalelo
I-narcissist ayinakuphila ngaphandle kokufumana ingqalelo abayinqwenelayo. Ukuba bakulwalamano lothando, baya kuhlala bephathwa njengeziko lendalo iphela.
Bayakunqwenela ukuncitshiswa, ukukhuliswa kunye nokukhathalelwa kwaye baziva benyanzelekile ukuba benze nantoni na njengembuyekezo.
Okwesibini, ukungqinisisa kwakho konke kuya kwehla ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho le-narcissist liza kuqwalasela ezo zabanye zibaluleke kwaye ziluncedo kunezakho.
Nantoni na oyithethayo iya kuwela kwindlebe engevayo. Baza kwenza nantoni na abanokuyenza ukuze bafumane ingqalelo yoluntu kunye nokudumisa ngezenzo zabo, nokuba kuya kufuneka banxibe ikati entloko.
3.Yaphula umthetho
Ukuphulwa komthetho yinto eyona nto ithanda ukuyenza. Batyekele ekulandeleni ukuthanda kwabo nokuba umthetho ubabophelela ukuba benze ntoni na nakwiziphumo ezibi kakhulu. Ngokwenza njalo, bazibeka esichengeni kunye nabanye.
4. Ukuphazamisa incoko
Unokuba namabali amaninzi owabelana ngawo, kodwa i-narcissist iyakuthanda ukuthetha kunye nokwabelana kunokumamela uluhlu lwakho olude lweziganeko zobomi. Bavuthela ixilongo labo kaninzi-ninzi.
5. Ukuqikelela umfanekiso wobuxoki
Ukulambela ukunconywa nokubona uxabiso emehlweni abantu kubenza bazenzele umfanekiso wobuxoki ngokupheleleyo ngobuntu babo. Baqamba amabali kwaye bayibumba inyaniso ukuze bafumane uxabiso ngangokunokwenzeka.
6. Umtsalane
AbakwaNarcissist banomtyholi wokwenene ngaphakathi. Banobuntu kwaye ekuqaleni, bakuphathe njengendlu yasebukhosini. Bazakuzibonakalisa njengoyena mntu unenkathalo nothando emhlabeni. Baya kukubeka kuqala kwaye bakubophe ngendlela yokuba ngokungazalisekisi iimfuno zabo egameni lothando.
Kodwa okwangoku inyani iyaqhekeka phambi kwakho kwaye baqala ukubona ukungakhathali kwengqondo yakho; isiqu sabo sokwenene siza kuza phambi kwakho, sikushiye ungakholelwa kwaphela.
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- Kubonisa inkxalabo
- Ukungabi namonde
- Incoko hoarder
- Ulawulo
- Wenza izithembiso ezingenamsebenzi
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