Umxholo
Ubudlelwane bunokuba yityhefu enkulu. Xa isibini sijongana nobunzima obungalindelekanga kunye noxinzelelo kunxibelelwano, iqhina ebelikade liqinile linokuphuma liye kudibaniso olungagungqiyo.
Ngelixa kungekho mntu unqwenela olu hlobo loxinzelelo kubambiswano, kunokwenzeka. Ukusuka kumagama abizayo ukuya ekuziphatheni ngokungalawulekiyo, iqhina ekugqibeleni linokunganyamezeleki.
Xa oku kusenzeka, sidla ngokufuna ukuphuma. Kulapho uqondayo ukuba ngokwenene unobudlelwane obunetyhefu.
Ubudlelwane obunetyhefu bunokuchazwa njengabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane apho omnye okanye bobabini iqabane lingena kwimikhwa ethile, isimilo, okanye isimilo esineemvakalelo kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, sonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni.
Kubudlelwane obunetyhefu, umntu onetyhefu wonakalisa ukuzithemba kweqabane lakhe ngokwenza imeko engakhuselekanga nelawulayo.
Ngaba ubudlelwane obunetyhefu bunokuba sempilweni? Ngokuqinisekileyo kunjalo.Kuthatha ixesha kunye namandla, kodwa sinokwakha ubudlelwane obunokujongana nemicimbi yexesha elizayo kunye neempembelelo.
Yintoni eyona nto iphambili ekususeni ubudlelwane obunetyhefu kwindawo enobuhlobo enempilo? Ukufunda kwixa elidlulileyo.
Kuvakala kulula, kodwa sisona sitshixo sokuqhubeka nobudlelwane obunobungozi. Ukuba sikulungele ukuqaphela ukuba amanyathelo ethu angaphambili asazisa umkhombandlela wethu wexesha elizayo, kukho ithemba lokukhula kunye nomzuzu ofanelekileyo.
Jonga kwakhona:
Iimpawu zobudlelwane obunetyhefu
- Kubudlelwane obunetyhefu, uyaxhalaba, uyacaphuka kwaye uyavutha ngumlingane wakho owakha amandla amabi emzimbeni wakho oya kuthi kamva ukhokelele ekuzondaneni
- Ulwalamano olunetyhefu ukuba awubonakali ngathi wenza into elungileyo, nokuba uzama kangakanani ukuyenza ngokugqibeleleyo.
- Nje ukuba ungaziva wonwabile malunga neqabane lakho, luphawu lwesilumkiso lokuba usebudlelwaneni obunetyhefu.
- Ikhadi lamanqaku olwalamano likhula ngokuhamba kwexesha kuba elinye iqabane okanye omabini amaqabane kubudlelwane asebenzisa ukungalunganga okudlulileyo ukuzama ukuthethelela ubulungisa bangoku.
- Iqabane elinetyhefu liya kufuna ukuba ufunde ngokuzenzekelayo iingqondo zabo ukuze ufumane oko bakufunayo.
- Ukuba iqabane lakho likwenza uzive ngathi kufuneka uthule kwaye uvumeleke ngelixa uhlala ubeka iimfuno zabo kuqala - unobudlelwane obunobungozi.
Zininzi iimpawu ezininzi zobudlelwane obunetyhefu ekufuneka ujonge kuzo.
Ukwazi le miqondiso kuyanceda, kodwa ungadlula njani kubudlelwane obunetyhefu okanye indlela yokuqhubeka ukusuka kubudlelwane obunetyhefu?
Ukuba kunzima ukuyeka abantu abanetyhefu okanye uyeke ubudlelwane obunobungozi kwaye uhlala ujonge iindlela zokuphelisa ubudlelwane obunetyhefu ngokulungileyo okanye ukuphilisa kubudlelwane obunetyhefu.
Kwisiqwenga esingaphambili, sijonga "isifundo semeko" isibini esikwaziyo ukusingatha ubunzima ngenxa yamandla obophelelo lwabo.
Obu budlelwane bakhula busuka kwityhefu kuba esi sibini sasifuna ukwakha usapho olomeleleyo. Ngaba oku kungasebenzisana nawe?
Isifundo esikhawulezayo
Ukudodobala okukhulu kwemali kwabetha usapho ngokuthe ngqo esilevini. UBill, owayenomsebenzi olungileyo wokwakha ii-RV kumzi-mveliso waseIndiana, wayeka emsebenzini kungekho themba lokufumana omnye umsebenzi.
USara, obesebenze isigxina kwithala leencwadi lasekuhlaleni, uthathe iiyure ezininzi ukuzama ukwenza isahlulo sengeniso elahlekileyo.
Uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali losapho luchetyiwe. Ikhefu lirhoxisiwe. Iimpahla zadlula kwabafana benyathelo lesithathu. Indlu ibekwe kwimarike- yibhanki- kuba bekungekho mali yokuhlawula imali mboleko.
Kwelona xesha limfiliba lokwehla kwamandla emali, usapho lwaluhlala kwi-RV Bill ephakathi eqeshwe kumqeshi wakhe wangaphambili.
Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wale meko. Usapho lwantlanu lumise inkampu kwigumbi lokulala elinamavili amabini akwikona kwindawo yeenkampu zaseKOA.
Ukutya okuninzi kwakuphekwa emlilweni. Ukuhlamba impahla kuhlanjwa koomatshini abasebenza ngengqekembe ezantsi kwivenkile yenkampu. UBill wenze imisebenzi engaqhelekanga ejikeleze inkampu, ukuhlawula iindleko zokurenta indawo. Kwakunzima, kodwa bakwazi.
Wonke umntu wenza eyakhe indima. Wonke umntu ukhuthaza omnye. Amehlo ajonge kwithemba lamaxesha angcono.
Ngexesha lenkampu, uSara wadibana nabaxhaphazi apha phakathi kwabahlobo abasenyongweni. Njengokuba “abahlobo” bakhe beva ngemeko yosapho lukaSara, babangxolisa.
Kutheni umyeni wakho engawufumani umsebenzi ofanelekileyo? Kutheni ungamshiyi nje, uthathe abantwana bakho, uqhubeke ngobomi bakho?
Izilwanyana zazingenanceba. Ngenye intsasa, kwimiboniso yokungcungcuthekisa, uSara wakhonkxwa ngumhlobo wakhe owayengathandani nowayenombuzo obukhali:
“Awunqweneli ukuba ubenendlu yokwenene kunye nendoda yokwenene, uSara?”
Impendulo kaSara yalinganiswa kwaye yaqola. Ubhengeze, “Ndinomtshato owonwabisayo, kwaye sinekhaya lokwenene. Asinandawo singayifaka kuyo. ”
Nantsi into malunga nempendulo kaSara. Ukuba uSara wayephendule kwiminyaka emibini ngaphambili, ngewayekhawulezile ukuyigweba indoda yakhe kwaye athobele ingcebiso yomhlobo wakhe yokushiya inqanawa.
Kangangeminyaka, uBill noSara bebetyhafiswa yityhefu. Ulwalamano lwabo lwalusindwa yingxaki yemali, ukungaziphathi ngokwesondo, kunye nokuhamba kude ngokweemvakalelo.
Xa babengaphikisani, bohlukana ngokwasemoyeni nangokwasemzimbeni, babuyela umva bayahlula iikona zendlu. Ngokwenyani, yayingengobudlelwane kwaphela.
Ukutshintsha kwezinto? Ngenye imini uSara noBill bafika kwindawo ekwabelwana ngayo.
USara noBill baqonda ukuba abanakubuyela emini. Yonke imihla babekade bengquzulwano, babephulukana nosuku loqhakamshelwano, ithuba, kunye nemibono ekwabelwana ngayo.
Ezithendeni zesi sityhilelo, uSara noBill bazibophelela omnye komnye. Bazibophezele ekuhloniphaneni izimvo nakwimbono yomnye nomnye.
Bazibophelela ekubandakanyeni iingcebiso ezilungileyo kwaye batsalela abantwana babo kumjikelo wokufumana iingcebiso.
USara noBill bagqibe kwelokuba abasokuze banike olunye usuku kwiingxabano ezingasonjululwanga, iingxabano ezimanyumnyezi, umgama ngokwasemoyeni nangokwasemzimbeni.
Ukufumana kwakhona kubudlelwane obunetyhefu
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba samkele ubudlelwane obuzaliswe ngumsindo, unxunguphalo kunye nobutshaba obukhulu. Ukuba sikulungele ukuzincomela ngokwakho kunyango olulungileyo kunye nencoko, sinako ukuqhubela phambili ngendlela esempilweni kunye neyoqobo.
Ngaba wena kunye nesithandwa sakho nikulungele ukuqhubela phambili? Ke indlela yokuguqula ubudlelwane obunetyhefu bube bobusempilweni, makhe ndicebise ezi zinto ziphambili ngokubaluleka.
- Sukuthetha izinto malunga nokubalulekileyo kwakho ngaphandle kokuba "akunakubuyiselwa". Ukuba ujongana nokuziphatha ongavumelani nako endaweni yokuhlasela umntu, ukwindlela elungileyo.
- Yenza unyango lube yinto ephambili kubudlelwane bakho. Yenza oku ngoku, hayi xa sele lixesha kakhulu.
- Khumbula ukuba unethuba elinye kuphela ngosuku. Musa ukuwunikezela kubukrakra umhla wakho.
- Phinda ubuyise amandla. Yenza into enothando nengalindelekanga ngothandekayo wakho.