Umxholo
- Ukuncancisa
- Lala
- Ukuphinda uhlengahlengise ingqondo / iindima ezintsha
- Iingxaki kubudlelwane
- Ukuphucula ubomi bakho ngokwesondo emva kokubeleka
Kutshanje ndimamele ipodcast malunga noomama nootata kunye nekhefu lokuya kubeleka / likatata kunye nobomi besondo. Yayingumboniso obonisa indlela ekunzima ngayo ukuba neentlobano zesini emva kokubeleka.
Uninzi lwezibini zibuyile kuyo ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ajike enye, kodwa kwabanye, kungathatha ithutyana.
Ngamanye amaxesha isizathu sokuqhuba ngesondo esiphantsi okanye akukho mnqweno wokusondelelana kukungakwazi ukufumana amandla - engqondweni nasemzimbeni.
Okokuqala nokuphambili, kufuneka uyazi ukuba ubomi bezesondo emva kosana kunokuba yinto ekhohlisayo. Into eyakusebenzeleyo kunyaka ophelileyo ayizukusebenza ngoku. Kwaye yintoni esebenzela umyeni wakho ayizukusebenzela wena. Ukwabelana ngesondo kwahlukile, kwaye bunobomi obunqabileyo.
Mna, bendihleli kumagqabi amathathu okubeleka, kwaye amava am ezokwabelana ngesondo ahlukile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Xa ndithetha nabanye abantu basetyhini, bahlala besabelana ukuba bafumene amava abo ukuba atshintshe nawo.
Kungenxa yokuba isini sethu sichaphazeleka zizinto ezahlukeneyo kubomi bethu bonke, kwaye kuninzi kakhulu kwaye akunakubekwa ngokucocekileyo kwiibhokisi ngaphandle kokuba singathanda kangakanani na.
Ndidwelise izizathu ezine eziqhelekileyo zokuqhuba ngesondo esezantsi kwabasetyhini nakumadoda, nto leyo ebangela ukunqongophala kobudlelwane emva kosana, kodwa kukho, ewe, ezinye izinto ezinokuchaphazela ubomi bakho ngokwesondo.
Nceda wazi ukuba ndithe "unako tshintsha ”; mhlawumbi inkanuko yakho okanye ukuqhuba kwakho ngesondo akuchaphazeleki, okanye mhlawumbi isiphumo sihle!
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukuncancisa
Xa uncancisa umntwana wakho, amanqanaba akho eprolactin akhula kakhulu. La manqanaba ade alinganiswa ukuba aphezulu emadodeni akwikhefu lokuzalwa kukatata.
Kwakhona, ifunyanwa emadodeni kanye emva kokuphuma / kwi-orgasm kwaye kukholelwa ukuba yile nto ibangela ukuba afune ikhefu elincinci ngaphambi kokuba alungele ngaphezulu.
Iprolactin ngokuzenzekelayo inciphisa inkanuko yesini, yiyo loo nto ivuselela isini esisezantsi kumyeni wakho. Ewe, uMama Wendalo uyanyhasha!
Ukuqala ukuzala ngqo emva kokubeleka isenokungabi yeyona nto ikrelekrele kakhulu ukuba ungayenza ukuba uhlala kwiLitye Age, ke yep, kule meko, ingcinga yebhayoloji ayinakuphikiswa.
Lala
Xa ubusuku bokulala obaphukileyo bujika bube ziinyanga zokulala okwaphukileyo- okanye ukungabikho kobuthongo- oku kuqala ngokungathandekiyo.
Kufana neakhawunti yebhanki obenayo ngaphezulu, kwaye ngequbuliso igcwele nje ngamanani abomvu, kwaye umcebisi wakho wezezimali ujonge kuwe, ukhathazekile kakhulu.
Makhe ndithethe nje: ewe, kukho into eza kwenzeka kwinkanuko yakho nakubomi bakho bobulili. Amandla anqabile, kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo, ukhetha ukulala.
Ingqondo yakho ibaleka; ubuchule bakho bokuqonda buqala 'amandla phantsi,' kuba nzima ukuba uhlale ugxile, kwaye eyona nto uyifunayo-kukulala.
Ufuna nje ukuvala iliso ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho avuke kwakhona kwaye aqale ukufuna izinto kuwe.
Ukulala kubalulekile ngobuhlanya kwimpilo yabantu ngokubanzi nakwimpilo yabantu. Kwaye sele siyazi ukuba impilo-ntle ngokubanzi kunye nempilo kubalulekile ukuba ufuna ukuba nobomi besondo obusebenzayo kunye nobonelisayo.
Ke-ukuba ukhetha ukulala kwaye ukuba awunawo amandla wayo, nangona ingcinga entle: Wamkelekile kwiklabhu yabazali abadiniweyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo le.
Ukuphinda uhlengahlengise ingqondo / iindima ezintsha
Xa usiba ngabazali (kwakhona, mhlawumbi), kukho into eyenzekayo kuwe njengomntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ngumntwana wakho wesihlanu, uya kuziva ungatshintshi kangako kunomntwana wakho wokuqala.
Nangona kunjalo, oko kutshiwo: ukuba ngumzali (kwakhona) kuhlala kuyinto entsha, kwaye iyakuhlala itshintsha ubudlelwane kunye namaqela osapho. Kwaye wena.
Ke ngoko, ukuphinda usebenze kwakhona ngengqondo kuya kwenzeka, kwaye kuya kukudina, kubangele ukuqhuba ngesondo okuphantsi.
Ngokukodwa, ukuba ufumana iindima ezintsha njengomama okanye utata ocela umngeni, iya kuqala ukuyichaphazela imeko yengqondo yakho.
Ukuba neempendulo ekuzalweni ngokuqinisekileyo akuyona into engaqhelekanga. Ngokwenyani, ixhaphake kakhulu kunendlela abazali abaninzi abathanda ukukholelwa ngayo, ikwayile nto ndiyifumanayo nanini na xa ndibamba iintetho zabazali abatsha kumaqela wabazali (ahlelwe yidolophu endihlala kuyo).
Xa i-psyche 'isebenza ngaphezulu kwexesha,' ubomi besondo akufane kube kwindawo yokuqala.
Iingxaki kubudlelwane
"Ukuba ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba uza kuqhawula umtshato, yiba nomntwana nje" yiloo nto isitsho isibini esasiyinyanga kwikhosi endikhe ndaya kuyo. Kwaye ngelixa oku kunokuba yinyani, kuyinto encinci.
Nangona kunjalo, sijonga amanani oqhawulo-mtshato, iyasibonisa ukuba ubudlelwane buqhekeka xa abantwana beza emhlabeni.
Ukuba nokukhulisa abantwana kunzima ngenene, kwaye ngumsebenzi omninzi owongezelelweyo. Kwaye ngelixa kumnandi, ayizizo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo-ezikude-ezenza ukuba zisebenze.
Kwaye kulapho imingeni kubudlelwane- kunye nayo nayiphi na eminye imiceli mngeni- iya kuqala ukubonakalisa.
Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho alilunganga kakhulu ekusebenzisaneni phantsi koxinzelelo kwaye xa belele ukulala? Okanye mhlawumbi ukugxekwa kukhulu kakhulu?
Okanye mhlawumbi uzifumanisa ulala ngeqhina esiswini sakho kancinci rhoqo? Mhlawumbi izinto nje zebhola ekhephu kwaye kube nzima ukuthetha ngazo? Mhlawumbi ...?
Iingxaki kubudlelwane yinto eqinisekileyo xa kufikwa kumdlalo wesini ophantsi.
Kuqhelekile ukuba ube nemiceli mngeni- iyacaphukisa njengoko injalo- kodwa khumbula zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukwenza unxibelelwano olungcono omnye nomnye nangona ulukhuni. Ukuba, ewe, yile nto uyifunayo.
Ukuphucula ubomi bakho ngokwesondo emva kokubeleka
Nazi izinto ezi-3 onokuzenza ukumelana nesondo lakho eliphantsi emva kokubeleka:
1. Yamkela ukuba kangangexesha elithile, zinje izinto zinje
Khumbula ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye isengqiqweni kakhulu. Ukuba ungazifumana izizathu- okt, ukuba uyazi ukuba ngumba wokulala, mhlawumbi wena neqabane lakho ninokusebenzela ukuba niphumle ngakumbi ukuze nisebenze ngakumbi emini.
Ngokusisiseko, Isimo sokwamkeleka kunye nokufuna ukwazi ngumbono omkhulu Apha.
Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba sinokutshintsha into esala ukuyamkela. Kwaye ke, ukuba ufuna ukuba isondo lakho eliphantsi litshintshe, qala ngokwamkela imeko yangoku kwaye emva koko, sebenza neqabane lakho ekwenzeni utshintsho.
2. Cwangcisa ukusondelelana kwaye uzinike uncedo
Ukuba ukhona ukuphosa ulwalamano olusenyongweni, Emva koko cwangcisa intlanganiso yamaqabane -Uyazi kakuhle ukuba oku kungaphazanyiswa ngumntwana wakho, kodwa ke uya kucwangcisa nje intlanganiso entsha.
Ukuba uyayiva, ungayiphulula (oh, sithandwa sam, yeyiphi into oyithandayo kodwa oh-yam, iyaziva imnandi kwaye iyashukuma nakwezesondo) okanye ungaqala ngokusondela kwaye ze ibhedi kwaye wenze ixesha elide njengoko uthanda.
Oku kunokuba kuninzi kuni bafana, okanye mhlawumbi ungathanda ukuthatha izinto inyathelo eliya phambili.
Ukuba uziva ukhaliphile, unokwenza umyalezo ngesondo okanye unike ukoneliseka ngokwesondo- ukuba yile nto uyithandayo. Mhlawumbi nifanele nibukele ifilimu evuselela inkanuko yesini okanye niphulaphule amabali amanyala kunye okanye mhlawumbi nide nidlale umdlalo ovuselela inkanuko yesini.
3. Fumana uncedo ukulungisa izinto ezifuna ukulungiswa
Ukuba sele uqinisekile ukuba "into" ifuna ingqalelo ethe kratya kwaye mhlawumbi ufuna nolunye uncedo ngesondo lakho eliphantsi, emva koko usabele kuyo.
Ukuba le yindlela yokuphendula emva kokuzalwa, ke fikelela. Ukuba unengxaki yobudlelwane, jonga ukuba ngubani onokukunceda.
Ungalibali ukuba kunqabile ukuba ezi zinto ziyazisebenzela, Kungenxa yoko le nto nizenza ngathi nizisola ngokungathathi amanyathelo kwangoko.
Ngaphandle kwamanyathelo okuqala okuziva unzima kwaye ungagungqi, uqinisekisiwe, mhlawumbi kwiinyanga ezi-3-6 zexesha, enkosi ngokuthatha inyathelo. Ukuba usahleli kwikhefu lokuya kubeleka, umongikazi uhlala ezaliswa zizixhobo kunye nemibono malunga nokuba ungalufumana njani uncedo oludingayo kwisini sakho esisezantsi.
Ingcebiso kaMaj: Ukuba ubomi bakho bezesondo budlala ngexesha lekhefu lokuya kubeleka, nceda uyazi ukuba oku kuqhelekile, kwaye uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo ngokwendalo 'babuyela kulo' kunyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana.