Umxholo
- 1. Ubuntu obunomdla
- 2. Ulwimi olulungileyo lomzimba
- 3. Ivumba
- 4. Ukuzithemba, ukomelela kunye nesibindi
- 5. Ubukrelekrele nobukrelekrele
- 6. Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo
- 7. Ukuxabisa indalo
- 8. Uburharha
Umtshato liziko elifuna iinzame ezingapheliyo, ukuzinikela nothando. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, uthando lodwa alwanele. Njengabantu abathandanayo ababophelela “kude kube ekufeni sisahlulwa” yinto, bathambekele ekuzonwabiseni nasekujonganeni ngezinto ezahlukeneyo. Omnye wemiceli mngeni ephambili kukuhlala sisondelelene kwaye sinomdla ngokwesondo omnye komnye, njengoko ngaphezulu kwexesha elinokubakho banokufumana amandla okweemvakalelo.
Banokufumanisa ukuba amaqabane abo ayadika ngokwesini okanye imikhwa yabo, ayinamtsalane, kwaye oku kungakhokelela kwelinye ikhondo leziganeko zokufuna ukuphazamiseka, ukulandela ubudlelwane obuninzi bokuthandana okanye ekugqibeleni ukubandakanyeka ekukrexezeni ngenxa yolonwabo lonke.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezithile ezinokukunceda ubambe umtsalane weqabane lakho kunye nokunconywa.
1. Ubuntu obunomdla
UCharisma unefuthe lemagnethi kubuntu. Abantu abanomdla banomdla wokutsala abanye nge-vibe yabo enomdla. Bahlala begqibelele, izakhono zothethathethwano olusebenzayo, imfudumalo kunye nethemba.
Basikelelwe ngobuhle obunzulu, ukuzola, inqanaba elithile lokuzithemba, kunye noncumo olunefuthe, ukudibana kwamehlo okuqinileyo kunye nobukho obuqinileyo obenza amaqabane abo, kunye nabanye abantu ngokwendalo, batsalele kubo.
2. Ulwimi olulungileyo lomzimba
Abantu bahlala befumanisa ukuba batyebile ulwimi lwabo lomzimba kunye namaqabane abo. Ulwimi oluchanekileyo lomzimba lunokubonakalisa kunxibelelwano lwakho ngokubamba ingqalelo kunye nokudlulisela amandla ngendlela enzulu.
Ukuma ngokuthe tye kwaye kubanzi kongeza ubuhle kubuntu bakho kwaye kunceda umzimba wakho ekubangeleni indawo yawo.
Ukutsala ngokwesondo okunxulunyaniswa nokuma komzimba, izijekulo kunye nembonakalo yobuso kunokulindelwa liqabane lakho olithandanayo kumanqanaba amaninzi okutshintsha.
3. Ivumba
Iimvakalelo zabantu zinonxibelelwano olunzulu nevumba olisebenzisa kuwe nakwivumba lomzimba wakho wendalo.
Iphunga olinxibayo linokubonisa iipheromones ezinokubakho zothando kwiqabane lakho ukuba lithathe ngenxa yokuba ulfaction inefuthe elikhulu kwingqondo.
4. Ukuzithemba, ukomelela kunye nesibindi
Abantu batyhafile, badlamkile kwaye bomelele kwiindlela zabo kwaye inyani yokuba oku kongeza imibala ebomini babo kufuneka yamkelwe.
Ukuzithemba nokuzithemba okuphezulu kunceda ekuboniseni iimpawu zakho ezifanelekileyo ngokukuko, oko ke kukunika ukuqaqamba kunye nokwandisa amandla akho ezesondo. Ukuzithemba kubonisa ukwamkelwa komntu buqu ngaphandle kokuzama ukukhohlisa okanye ukungazithembi ngelixa ubonakalisa amandla okubamba kunye nokwabelana ngobuchule bangaphakathi neqabane lakho.
Ngapha koko, ukuba nesibindi sokuzimela, ukuzibophelela kwizinto okanye ukulandela amaphupha amabi kakhulu kubulala isithukuthezi kwaye komeleza ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho. Iingqondo zethu zinentambo yokutsala abantu ababandakanyekayo, abanomdla kunye nabanomdla.
5. Ubukrelekrele nobukrelekrele
Ukuba nobukrelekrele, ukucinga kunye nokuyila kunokunyusa umtsalane kunye nokuseka ukusondelelana kwengqondo phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo. Abantu abane-IQ ephezulu balumkile, banobuchule kwaye banobuchule.
Banokuphembelela ngokwesondo kwaye baqhubeke nolwalamano olucacileyo kunye namaqabane abo.
Ubukrelekrele luphawu oluphezulu lwesini kunye 'nokujika' kubantu abaninzi.
Inika umda owongezelelweyo ekufumaneni imbeko kunye nokuthembana kweqabane lakho.
6. Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo
Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo luphawu olunomdla.
Abantu abakrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo bathambekele ekunxibelelaneni ngakumbi namaqabane abo ngenxa yeempawu zabo ezinjengokugxininisa, ukuxhasa, ukuthembeka, ukuzimela kunye nokukhuseleka ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Bazazi ngokwabo, bomelele ngokweemvakalelo kwaye bazama ukuqonda iimeko zabo kangangoko banakho.
Banobuchule ekusombululeni iingxabano kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye namaqabane abo.
7. Ukuxabisa indalo
Abantu bahlala bejongela phantsi igalelo labanye ebomini babo. Ukuxabisa iqabane lakho yenye yeempawu ezahlukileyo eziyimfuneko ekudaleni ukusondelana kunye nolwalamano olomeleleyo phakathi kwesibini. Ayikhuthazi iqabane lakho kuphela kodwa ikwabasondeza ngokweemvakalelo kuwe.
Njengoko abantu besenza kwizifungo zabo kwaye belahla kwizinto zokuqhuba ubudlelwane, iinzame zabo komnye nomnye zifuna ukwamkelwa, kwaye iingxaki zabo zilungiswe. Oku kukhuthaza ukuzithemba kunye nokuthembana phakathi kwamaqabane kwaye ekugqibeleni kuhlala kuyindawo abanomdla kuyo.
8. Uburharha
Uluvo oluhlekisayo sisitshixo sokuqaqambisa usuku lwakho. Abantu bahambisa uburharha ukukhangela ingqalelo kwaye babasongele abanye. Ngelixa abasetyhini bekhetha ukugcina ubudlelwane kunye namadoda anomdla omkhulu, amadoda andisa ukuthanda kwabo abasetyhini abafumana ukuhlekisa kwabo kunomtsalane.
Ukuhleka kwabasetyhini ekuphenduleni uburharha kukhethwe njengophawu olunomdla ngokwesondo kuninzi lwabantu. Abantu abatshatileyo bafumanisa ukuba uburharha buyonwabisa kwaye banelisekile njengoko ingakhanyisi nje kuphela usuku lwabo kodwa ikwakhupha nesibheno esingathandabuzekiyo sesini.