Umxholo
- Yazi omnye komnye ngokunzulu
- Thethani ngezinto enizilindeleyo emtshatweni
- Thetha ngekamva lakho
- Zijongisise indlela olulawula ngayo ungquzulwano
- Khumbula usuku lwakho lomtshato
- Yiba nombulelo
Kungekudala ukutshata? Nazi izinto ezithile ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokutshata.
Kwimincili yendlela yokulungiselela umtshato, izibini zinokugxila ngokulula kakhulu kumbandela "womtshato" kwaye zikukhathalele oko kuthethwa "ngumtshato" ngokwenene. Ingayimpazamo leyo.
Umtshato uphelile kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Umtshato uhlala ixesha elide. Ukanti abantu abaninzi bachitha iinyanga belungiselela umtshato bengakhange bacinge kakhulu ukuba bangawenza njani umtshato omhle.
Nazi izinto ekufuneka uzenzile ngaphambi komtshato ezinokukunceda ekulungiseleleni umtshato.
Yazi omnye komnye ngokunzulu
Ixesha eliphakathi phakathi komhla wokuqala kunye nomtshato malunga neenyanga ezingama-25. Yiminyaka emibini apho izibini zisuka “molo” ziye “ndenza njalo.” Sebenzisa elo xesha ukufunda malunga neqabane lakho.
Ezinye izinto ekufuneka uzenzile ngaphambi kokuba nitshate iya kuba kukuhamba kunye, ukwenza izinto ezicela umngeni kunye, ukuzibeka kwimeko apho ungagqibelelanga khona, kwaye ubone indlela eniphatha ngayo omnye nomnye xa udiniwe, udikidiki, ugula.
Inokukunceda njani le nto xa ulungiselela umtshato?
Ngala mava, uya kuthi jonga ukuba iqabane lakho lisabela njani kwiindaba ezimnandi kunye neendaba ezimbi, bajongana njani noxinzelelo, kunye neemeko ezingaziwayo, ezinokuguquguquka abangakwaziyo ukuzilawula.
Ungasichazela okuninzi malunga nendlela obuya kuba ngayo ubomi bakho bomtshato njengoko nifumanana ixesha elininzi. Sukuvumela iintlantsi zentabatheko zikwenze ungaboni nganto kwiiflegi ezibomvu.
Kwaye xa ezo flegi zibomvu zibonisa (kwaye ziya kuthi), zilungise. Sukwenza impazamo yokucinga ukuba izinto ziya kuthi shwaka xa utshatile.
Xa ulungiselela umtshato, ukuthetha ngale micimbi yinto efanelekileyo kuhlobo lwezakhono zonxibelelwano oza kuzifuna ngexesha lobomi bakho bomtshato.
Nika ingqalelo kwindlela osebenza ngayo ngoku, ngaphambi kokuba utshate. Ukuba unengxaki ekusombululeni ungquzulwano, inokuba luphawu lokuba kufuneka uzise inkxaso yangaphandle ngohlobo lomcebisi ngaphambi komtshato.
Umcebisi unokukunceda ukuba ulungele umtshato ngokukufundisa izixhobo ezifunekayo ukulungisa imiba ngendlela enemveliso.
Iyacetyiswa Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato
Thethani ngezinto enizilindeleyo emtshatweni
Zeziphi izinto ekumele nithethe ngazo ngaphambi komtshato? Ungaqala ngokuxoxa ngezinto ozilindeleyo kwifomu yomtshato wakho.
Njengokuba nithandana kwaye nisazana kakuhle, incoko enye oya kufuna ukubuyela kuyo rhoqo yeyolindelo.
Ubujonga njani ubomi bomtshato? Uzahlulahlula njani imisebenzi yasekhaya? Luya kujongeka njani uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali? Ukuba amandla okufumana umvuzo awalingani, ngaba oko kuya kuxela ukuba ngubani ohlawulela ntoni, okanye uza kubekela malini ukonga?
Yintoni oyilindeleyo ngokubhekisele kucwangciso losapho, abantwana kunye nokunakekelwa kwabantwana? Inkolo ifanele ukudlala yiphi indima kubomi bakho bomtshato?
Ukwazi okulindelweyo komnye nomnye kuluncedo ekwenzeni uhlobo lomtshato olwanelisayo nobabini, ngoko gcina incoko ivulekile, ngaphambi nasemva komtshato.
Ukuxoxa ngezinto ozilindeleyo emtshatweni kuya kunceda nasekuqondeni indlela oza kuwulungiselela ngayo imali.
Jonga kwakhona:
Thetha ngekamva lakho
Iimagazini zenza ubomi bomtshato bubonakale bukhazimla kwaye buhle. Ungena kwikhaya elitsha; Yonke into ayinachaphaza nevazi yeentyatyambo ezisandula ukusikwa kuyo yonke indawo.
Kodwa ukusuka ebomini njengomntu ongatshatanga uye kukuphila ngesiquphe njengababini akusoloko kuyinto entle. Unemikhwa yakho (ushiya itawuli yakho yokuhlamba phantsi, umzekelo), kwaye ke nentanda yakho (ngaba uya kuze afunde ukubeka isihlalo sangasese phantsi?).
Ke ulungiselela njani umtshato ungatshatanga? Ilula; sukulinda ukuba imikhwa yakho ibe kukutya kwemilo.
Xa uceba ukutshata, Thethani ngendlela eniza kusebenza ngayo nobabini njengeqela ukudala nokugcina ikhaya apho ungquzulwano lungaqhelekanga, kwaye apho kukho indawo yabantu ababini.
Xa kuvela izinto ezincinci, zilungise. Musa ukulinda de kube li-10 isikhumbuzo somtshato wakho ukuba uxelele iqabane lakho ukuba uyithiyile ngokupheleleyo into yokuba angaze akhuphe inkunkuma okokuqala xa umbuza.
Uya kuzibuza ukuba kutheni ulinde iminyaka eli-10 ukuba ukhalaze.
Zijongisise indlela olulawula ngayo ungquzulwano
Kufuneka wenze ntoni ngaphambi kokuba utshate? Qonda indlela ngamnye wenu alungisa ngayo ukungavisisani. Ukwazi izimbo zomnye nomnye zokujongana nembambano kuya kuba kubaluleke kakhulu njengoko nikhula kunye.
Ngekhe usebenzise indlela efanayo yokuhamba kwiimpikiswano. Ungabambisana ngakumbi ngelixa iqabane lakho, mhlawumbi umntu ofuna ukuphumelela kuzo zonke iindleko.
Okanye, banokuyiphepha kwaphela ingxabano, bekhetha ukunikezela kunokuba baphazamise uxolo.
Nokuba zithini na izimbo zakho, qiniseka ukuba zisebenza kakuhle. Ukuba akunjalo, uya kufuna ukutsala uncedo lwangaphandle ukukufundisa indlela "yokulwa ngokufanelekileyo" kunye nokuphepha iindlela ezingasebenziyo kwiimeko eziphikisanayo.
Ixesha lakho lokuthandana lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuchonga naluphi na utshintsho ekufuneka lwenziwe ukuze nobabini nixhotyiselwe ukuhlangabezana neemeko ezinzima kwaye niphume kwelinye icala ninobabalo kunye nokukhula.
Khumbula usuku lwakho lomtshato
Okwangoku, ukwimeko entle, evelisa i-endorphin yothando. Yonke into oyenzayo intanda intle, kwaye ikamva lakho kunye njengesibini esitshatileyo likhangeleka liqaqambile kwaye likhazimla.
Kodwa ubomi buza kukuphosa ngee-curveballs, kwaye kuya kubakho iintsuku apho uya kuzibuza ukuba kutheni usithi "ndiyakwenza" kulo mntu.
Xa oko kusenzeka, yehla i-albhamu yakho yomtshato, okanye ujonge iwebhusayithi yakho yomtshato, okanye uvule ijenali yakho ... nantoni na onayo engqina ngayo kwiintsuku eziphambili ezikhokelela ekuzinikeleni koluntu komnye nomnye.
Kwaye khumbula zonke izinto ezilungileyo malunga neqabane lakho, zonke izizathu zokuba uzithande, kwaye wazi ukuba akekho omnye umntu onqwenela ukwabelana naye ngekamva.
Ukulungiselela umtshato, rmemember ukubonisa kwiimpawu zeqabane lakho nesizathu sokuba utsaleleke kulo, oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu xa ubetha indawo enzima kuhambo lomtshato.
Yiba nombulelo
Ukuziqhelanisa nokubulela yonke imihla kugxile emtshatweni wakho yindlela entle yokuvuselela ulonwabo lwakho. Oku kunokuba lula okanye kube nzima njengoko ufuna kube njalo.
Ukubulela ngokuvuka ecaleni kweqabane lakho, kushushu kwaye kukhuselekile ebhedini entofontofo yindlela elula yokuqalisa usuku ngalunye ngombulelo.
Ukunika iqabane lakho izixhobo zokukunceda kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, izitya, okanye ukuhlamba yindlela elungileyo yokuphelisa usuku ngombulelo. Inqaku kukugcina ukuhamba kombulelo kuhamba, ke kusebenza njenge-buoy, usuku nosuku.