Yiyiphi inkcazo yobudlelwane obusempilweni?

Umxholo

• 1. Ubuhlobo
• 2. Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo
• 3. Ukuthembeka nokuthembeka
• 4. Inkxaso
• 5. Niyalwa, nixolelane kwaye niyalibala iziphoso zomnye nomnye

Ubudlelwane obusempilweni yinxalenye eyimfuneko yokuphila okunempilo nokuphumelela. Ubudlelwane butyebisa ubomi bethu kwaye bongeza kulonwabo lwethu lokuphila, kodwa sonke siyazi ukuba abukho ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo.

Buyintoni ubudlelwane obuphilileyo?

Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo bubudlelwane obuzaliswe lulonwabo, uvuyo, kwaye-okona kubaluleke kakhulu-luthando. Abantu benziwe ukuba banxibelelane nabanye ngendlela elungileyo neyomeleleyo kodwa ngelishwa oku akusoloko kunjalo. Ngapha koko, ngamanye amaxesha, sivumela abantu abangalunganga ukuba bangene ebomini bethu, kwaye ubudlelwane bethu nabo abunampilo, busempilweni, okanye buyakha kwaye ubukhulu becala, abunasiqhamo kwakhona.

Kukho izinto ezimbalwa malunga nokuba ubudlelwane obunempilo bubukeka njani-

1. Ubuhlobo

Xa ulwalamano olusempilweni, ubona iqabane lakho njengomhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Uyakwazi ukumxelela nantoni na ekukhathazayo. Nobabini niza nezimvo zokusombulula iingxaki ezichaphazela nokuba liqabane okanye ubudlelwane ngokubanzi. Amaqabane asebenza njengabahlobo kwaye abe nobuhlobo obomeleleyo ahlala amandla. Bayathandana kwaye bayathandana ngokwenene njengabahlobo abasenyongweni. Bayakonwabela ukuhlala kunye, ukuya kwiipikniks, ukubukela imovie kunye kwaye bayakonwabela nokwenza izinto kunye.

2. Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo

Ulwalamano olusempilweni xa ukwazi ukuveza elubala iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uphephe ukungcwaba ubuhlungu okanye umsindo. Nobabini uhlala ujongana neemeko ngokukuko ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha.

Ubudlelwane obusempilweni bunezinto ezifanelekileyo nezisebenzayo zonxibelelwano. Ubudlelwane obungenampilo bunezinto ezothusayo zonxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane.

Ngumqondiso wokuba unobudlelwane obusempilweni ukuba wena neqabane lakho niyathetha ulwimi olunye, ukuthetha ngokwasemoyeni, ukuthetha ngokwasemzimbeni nokuthetha ngokwasengqondweni- oku kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukunxibelelana neemfuno zakho, iminqweno, iintlungu kunye nolindelo lwakho ngokukuko.

Akukho qabane lifanele libe neentloni, libe neentloni okanye loyike malunga nokuziqinisekisa xa kufuneka njalo.

3. Ukuthembeka nokuthembeka

Ukuthembana yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kubudlelwane, kuba, ngaphandle kokuthenjwa, akunakubakho ubudlelwane obunempilo. Ukuthembana yeyona nto ibalulekileyo xa kufikwa kumba wokumisela ukuba ubudlelwane bunempilo okanye abunampilo. Kufuneka ube nethemba kwaye uthembele kwiqabane lakho, kwaye iqabane lakho kufuneka likwazi ukuthemba nokuthembela kuwe.

Nobabini kufuneka ninikezane isizathu sokuthembana.

Ukuxhomekeka yinkcazo yobudlelwane obusempilweni. Amaqabane kubudlelwane afuna ukuxhomekeka kwaye axhomekeke komnye komnye. Ukuba amaqabane kubudlelwane angayenza into ayithethayo kwaye ayitsho into ayenzayo, oko kudala imeko yokuthembana nokuthembeka ngokwazi ukuba amazwi nezenzo zabo zithetha okuthile kwelinye iqabane. Amaqabane athembele omnye komnye angaphefumla ukukhululeka ukwazi ukuba amaqabane abo anemqolo.

Ke, ukwakha ukuthembana kunye nokuthembeka kubudlelwane, musani ukugcina iimfihlo omnye komnye, musani ukuqhatha omnye komnye kwaye ikakhulu wenze oko ukutshoyo kwaye uthethe into oyenzayo engakwenzi isithembiso owaziyo ukuba awungekhe usizalisekise.

4. Inkxaso

Isalathiso esicacileyo sokuba ulwalamano olusempilweni ukuba iqabane lakho lixhasa ubomi bakho ngabanye ngaphandle kobudlelwane. Kubalulekile kubudlelwane obuphilileyo ukuba wena neqabane lakho nixhasane 'kwiinjongo kunye namabhongo omnye ebomini.

Ubudlelwane buhlala busebenza kwaye bufuna ukuba wena neqabane lakho nibe nokuzimisela kunye nokukwazi ukusebenza kunye, nincedane ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo, ukuvelisa izimvo kunye kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukhula eluthandweni kunye. Iqabane lakho kufuneka licebise, lisebenze, likuxhase kwaye likuncede ufikelele kwiinjongo ozifunayo kunye namabhongo ojolise kuwo ebomini bakho.

Kubudlelwane obuphilileyo, iqabane lakho liyakwamkela ukuba ungubani. Uyamkela kwaye uyayixhasa indlela ophila ngayo, umhlobo, kunye nosapho kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uzixhasa ngokupheleleyo iinjongo zakho kunye namabhongo

5. Niyalwa, nixolelane kwaye niyalibala iziphoso zomnye nomnye

Kubudlelwane obusempilweni, ungquzulwano, ukungavisisani, kunye nokulwa ayisiyonto yaphula isivumelwano. Ngenxa yokuba ungavumelani okanye uphikisana neqabane lakho akuthethi ukuba lixesha lokwahlukana kwaye uqhubeke. Endaweni yokuba ungquzulwano lubonwe njengethuba lokufunda ngakumbi ngelinye iqabane kunye nokukhula kunye eluthandweni nakwimvisiswano.

Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba lowo usondele kakhulu kuwe, omthandayo kwaye okuthandayo kungenzeka ukuba akwenzakalise kuba usondele kuwe kunaye nabani na. Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo kubandakanya nawe. Ukuba uyazi kwaye uyayiqonda le nyaniso, kuya kufuneka uxolelane ngokulula, iimpazamo kunye nokungangqinelani. Ukuxolela kunye nokulibala kuthetha ukuyeka iziphoso kunye neentlungu; ungenzi intetho ye-snide kubo ngalo lonke ixesha.