Umxholo
- 1. Qhagamshelana rhoqo
- 2. Yiya kumnyama
- 3. Imiyalezo yetshokhwe yesipili
- Bancome esidlangalaleni
- 5. Hlamba iinyawo zakhe
Lonke uthando olukhulu luqala ngebali elimnandi.
UNicholas Sparks, umbhali wenoveli yothando ethengiswa kakhulu Incwadi yokubhalela bendinayo xa esitsho. Yonke imicimbi yothando iqala ngebali elikhethekileyo nelingafaniyo. Ezinye ziyahlekisa, ezinye ziyamangalisa, kwaye ezinye zinomlingo. Ukuba ucinga emva ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho uyakufumanisa ibali elikwenze waziva uthandwa, ukhethekileyo kwaye unemincili ngekamva.
Ngelishwa, kule minyaka idlulileyo uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo ziyalilibala ibali lazo. Baxakeke yimicimbi kunye nemiceli mngeni yobomi abangayikhumbuliyo into eyabahlanganisa kule ndawo yokuqala. Ubudlelwane buhamba buye kwisitshisi esingasemva kwaye ukungakhathali kuseta njengoko beqhubeka neendlela ezifanayo eziya kuthi ekugqibeleni zenze umgama abanokungawunqobi.
Ezothando - kanye ilitye lembombo lobudlelwane - alikho ndawo.
Kodwa akufuneki ibenjalo. Nokuba utshatile iminyaka emithathu okanye engama-30 ungagcina ukuthandana emtshatweni wakho. Kuthatha ukuzinikela kunye nomzamo kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kuyenzeka.
Ezi zilandelayo zindlela ezintlanu ezizodwa zokugcina ezothando kubudlelwane bakho.
1. Qhagamshelana rhoqo
Enye yezona zinto zothando onokuzenza kukubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba baphezulu kwengqondo. Akukho nto ikhethekileyo ngaphezu kokwazi ukuba nangona ungahlali neqabane lakho lilahlekile. Yilapho "ukudibana rhoqo" kudlala khona. Veki nganye cwangcisa ukufikelela kwiqabane lakho xa nithe nahlukana kwaye ubazise ukuba banqwenela. Oku kunokwenziwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kubandakanya: imiyalezo ebhaliweyo; ii-imeyile ezimfutshane; okanye ukufowunela. Shiya izipho ezincinci, amanqaku okanye amakhadi ngasemva ukuze afumaneke, okanye uwaphosa kwisipaji sabo, ibrifkheyisi okanye imoto. Zininzi iindlela onokuzibandakanya ngazo kufuneka uyile. Cwangcisa uqhagamshelo lwakho usebenzisa ikhalenda ye-elektroniki ukuze ikunike izilumkiso ukuba lixesha lokuba uthathe inyathelo kwaye ufikelele. Oku kuthatha umzamo kwinxalenye yakho kodwa kufanelekile ukuba udlale.
2. Yiya kumnyama
Ngobusuku obunye cima yonke into kubandakanya izibane, iiselfowuni, umabonwakude, iikhompyuter kunye noMnyama. Ngokukhanya nje okubonisa amakhandlela, chitha ixesha ekwabelaneni ngeemvakalelo kunye nokuhleka kunye. Slip iwayini, hlala kufutshane kwaye wabelane ngomgangatho othile, ixesha elisondeleyo kunye.
3. Imiyalezo yetshokhwe yesipili
Sebenzisa itshokhwe yesipili ukubhala okuhle, imiyalezo emifutshane yokuvuma kuyamangalisa ukwazisa umntu ukuba umkhathalele. Into elula njengokuthi "Andinakulinda ukukubona ngokuhlwanje" ndibulisa iqabane lakho kusasa xa lijonga esipilini sokuhlambela yinto eza kuhlala nayo imini yonke.
Bancome esidlangalaleni
Amagama amnandi kwiqabane lakho aya kuhamba indlela ende, ngakumbi xa kwabelwana ngaso phakathi kwabanye abantu. Ungathandabuzi ukuxelela umhlaba ukuba ukholelwa njani okanye ukhetheke kangakanani kwiqabane lakho. Yabelana ngamazwi aqinisekileyo okuvuma phakathi kwamalungu osapho, abahlobo, abamelwane kunye nabanye ukubonisa uthando lwakho kunye nokuzinikela.
5. Hlamba iinyawo zakhe
Le yeyabafana. Kukho umbono omangalisayo ovela kumdlalo bhanyabhanya Igumbi leMfazwe, apho umyeni afumana ipani yamanzi ashushu kwaye amthambise ngobunono kwaye ahlambe iinyawo zomfazi wakhe. Ukuba awukwenzi oku ngaphambi kokuba ube ngamava athobisayo anokuzisa iinyembezi emehlweni akho, ngelixa usenza ukuba niziva nisondele ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Zama ezi ngcebiso zothando emtshatweni wakho kwaye undixelele umahluko owwenzileyo kubudlelwane bakho.