Umxholo
- 1. Ifuna uqhagamshelo rhoqo
- 2. Ufuna ulwazi oluneenkcukacha
- 3. Ujika umcuphi amaxesha ngamaxesha
- 4. Unomgaqo othi 'akukho mantombazana angqonge'
- 5. Limisela ixesha losapho lwakho
- 6. Soloko ulindele impendulo ekhawulezileyo
- 7. Ukuzonwabisa kwi-PDA egqithisileyo
- 8. Ukuzibandakanya kwi-digital stalking
- 9. Uwela imida yobuqu
- 10. Ufuna ulawulo olupheleleyo
Uthando ngamanye amaxesha luzukiswa kwiimuvi.
Yonke into abayibonisayo yinkalo enye yobudlelwane. Zisixelela ukuba iipali ezimbini ziyatsala kwaye ziyathandana, uthando luyenzeka. Ubukhulu becala, siyazithemba izinto esizibonayo kwiifilimu. Sikuthatha oko njengenyaniso kwaye siqala ukuhlala kwihlabathi lamaphupha. Nangona kunjalo, iphupha liyaphazamiseka xa inyani ifikile.
Kubudlelwane, abantu ababini abaneempawu ezahlukeneyo kunye nezinto abazithandayo bayahlangana. Bafumana ukufana okuthile kwaye baqhubela phambili kunye noko. Abanye abantu abaqhelekanga, abanye babalasele kunxibelelwano, kwaye abanye bayazazisa okanye bayadlulisa. Ungaqala ukuziqhelanisa neempawu ezithile, kodwa ubunini obugqithisileyo ngumgangatho owothusayo kwaye kufuneka ubethe iintsimbi.
Uluhlu olungezantsi luphawu lweentombi onazo ukuze uzichonge ngokulula kwaye ulawule imeko ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
1. Ifuna uqhagamshelo rhoqo
Sonke asikho kwiselfowuni yethu ngalo lonke ixesha. Kukho amaxesha apho ifowuni igcinwe ecaleni okanye ukwintlanganiso ebalulekileyo.
Kulungile ukulindela ukuba intombi yakho iqonde imeko kwaye iziphathe kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abathile abafumana ukungxama xa iifowuni zabo zingaphendulwa okanye baye kwi-voicemail. Baqala ukukholelwa ekubeni uphulukana nomdla kubo okanye uhlala nomnye umntu. Ukuba le meko ihlala ihleli, ujongana nentombi onayo.
2. Ufuna ulwazi oluneenkcukacha
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukutsiba iinkcukacha ezithile ezingeyomfuneko xa uchaza usuku lwakho kwintombi yakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo awufuni ukunika ingxelo yomzuzu ngamnye wosuku lwakho. Intombi yakho onayo, nangona kunjalo, inokulindela ukuba wabelane ngayo yonke into oyenzileyo ngexesha lakho. Yintoni oyityileyo, odibene naye, othethileyo, apho uya khona, yonke into.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ebengathandi ukuba ungatsiba enye yazo.
3. Ujika umcuphi amaxesha ngamaxesha
Umsebenzi womcuphi kukufumana isigebenga.
Bafunda imiqondiso kwaye bajonge ubungqina besenzo esingalunganga ngenjongo yokubeka izaphuli mthetho ngaphaya kwezitshixo. Ukuba intombi yakho inguSherlock kuwe kwaye iyakuhlola okanye ikuphatha njengesikrelemnqa, unentombi engaphaya kwamandla. Banokuphunga ubuxoki kwaye bahlala bekholelwa ukuba awunanyani kubo. Oku ekugqibeleni kuya kukhokelela kulwalamano lwakho kwicala elingalunganga. Kungcono ukujonga isisombululo ngexesha elifanelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba izinto zihambe ngaphaya kolawulo.
4. Unomgaqo othi 'akukho mantombazana angqonge'
Kulungile kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nomhlobo kunye nabahlobo abalungileyo besini esahlukileyo. Naxa useofisini, ubotshiwe ukuba uzakunxibelelana nabantu besini esahlukileyo. Awunakho ukuyilawula kwaye yamkelekile ngokupheleleyo. Hayi emehlweni wentombi yakho onayo.
Kubo, awufanelanga ukuba uthethe namanye amantombazana, nokuba kuseto lobungcali. Baza kuhlala bekujongile kwaye baya kukrokrela ngalo lonke ixesha. Ke, xa ujikeleze intombi yakho onayo, yivale abahlobo bakho besini esahlukileyo.
5. Limisela ixesha losapho lwakho
Olunye lweempawu ezibalaseleyo zentombazana ephethe into kukuba bafuna ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho kunye nabo, kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Banikwe ukhetho, abanakuze bakuvumele ukuba wenze enye into ngaphandle kokuba kunye nabo. Baqala ukuthintela ixesha lakho lokuhlala kwaye umba unganwenwela nakwintsapho yakho. Uya kukuyekisa ukudibana nabazali bakho okanye abantakwenu okanye ubenexesha losapho.
6. Soloko ulindele impendulo ekhawulezileyo
Sonke sidibene nomlinganiswa kumdlalo bhanyabhanya apho intombazana ichwetheza ngesantya esiphezulu kwaye ilindele ukuba isoka lakhe liphendule kwangoko. Kwimeko apho engakwenziyo, iitekisi zakhe azimisi kwaye zikhawuleza zijike kwincoko isoyikise kwaye ziye kwahlukana 'neetekisi. Kuyothusa kakhulu njengoko uza kufuna ixesha lokufunda, ukuqonda, kunye nokuphendula kwisicatshulwa.
Olu lolunye lweempawu zentombi ezingasifanelanga ukuba ziphoswe.
7. Ukuzonwabisa kwi-PDA egqithisileyo
I-PDA ilungile, kuphela ukuba yenziwe ngaphakathi kwemida. Njengoko besitsho, ukugqithisa kwayo nayiphi na into imbi, injalo ne-PDA. Intombi yakho onayo iya kukunyanzela ukuba uyibambe ngesandla kwaye ubonakalise uthando kuluntu, nokuba uziva ungonwabanga okanye uneentloni. Uyonwabela kwizenzo ezinjalo.
8. Ukuzibandakanya kwi-digital stalking
Ukuhamba ngokwasemzimbeni kuthintelwe kunikwe inqaku lokuba nobabini nineendawo zokusebenzela ezahlukeneyo nakwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zesixeko. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhangela kwidijithali kuhlala kunokwenzeka.
Intombi yakho onayo iya kukunyanzela ukuba wabelane ngamaqonga akho eendaba ezentlalo. Ukuba akunjalo, uya kuhlala ekujonga kwiqonga ngalinye, gcina isithuba apho kwaye ungubani, kwaye uya kukubuza kwisithuba ngasinye owabelana ngaso. Iakhawunti yakho ye-Instagram inokuba igcwele iifoto zakhe ngokunjalo.
9. Uwela imida yobuqu
Kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kwentombazana enayo ukuwela imida yakho kunye nokwenza imeko ukuba uyayikhumbuza. Bayayilibala into yokuba ufuna ixesha lakho 'kum' kunye namaxesha akho obathandayo kunye nabantu obathandayo okanye abahlobo. Ukulindela kwabo ukuba nawe ngalo lonke ixesha kunye nabo kuya kukhokelela kwiingxaki ezingaphaya kokuqonda.
10. Ufuna ulawulo olupheleleyo
Okwangoku kuya kufuneka ukuba uqonde ukuba intombi onayo ifuna ukulawula ubomi bakho. Ekuphela kwento abafuna ukuyenza kukuthobela imiyalelo yabo, ubabonise imbeko, kwaye uphendule yonke imibuzo abanayo. Abayi kuthandabuza ukuya kumanyathelo agqithisileyo ukubonisa izinto zabo kuwe.
Ke kuya kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ufumanisa ukuba intombi yakho inazo zonke ezi mpawu? Eyona nto intle onokuyenza kukukophula ukuthula kwakho malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe. Ukunxibelelana naye ngokuzolileyo kwaye ubeke imida ethile. Mxelele ukuba ezinye zehambo yakhe azixatyiswanga kwaye zikwenza uzive ungathandwa. Zama ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni evakalelwa kukuba kulungile ukuba ngowakho kwaye nokuba kutheni ikhona le mfuno ukuze nobabini nisebenze kuyo. Jonga indlela asabela ngayo kuloo nto. Kwimeko apho, atyibilika ngokupheleleyo kwaye akaze asebenzisane nokuba uzama kangakanani, ungazama ukuphuma kubudlelwane kuba uthando alusebenzi ngale ndlela kodwa ukuba uyambona esenza umgudu, ke qhubeka.