Umxholo
- Imithetho yokwahlukana kwetyala
- Ixesha lokuthetha nabantwana
- Ixesha lokulingwa liphelile, ngoku kuza kuthini?
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nigqibe kwelokuba nibe nokwahlukana kwetyala, into yokuqala enokuthi ifike engqondweni yakho yincoko enkulu oza kuba nayo nabantwana bakho. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokuba wabelane nabo ngeendaba, qiniseka ukuba uqala kweli candelo lobomi bakho unolwazi kwaye uzilungiselele.
Ukwahlukana kwesilingo kungaphelisa zombini iindlela, nokuba ngaba nobabini nifumana indlela yokubuyela omnye komnye okanye kuqhawulo mtshato. Kuya kuxhomekeka kuwe wedwa.
Imithetho yokwahlukana kwetyala
Ukwahlukana kwesilingo kungaqala nangaliphi na inani leendlela. Ngamanye amaxesha, yeyona nto iphambili kumlo ombi kakhulu owakhe waba nawo lo mbhangqwana. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuza emva kweminyaka yenkqubo ecothayo kunye neyobuhlungu yeqela. Kwaye, kwezinye iimeko, ukwahlulwa kwesilingo kweenyanga ezintathu okanye ezintandathu kuyacetyiswa kwisibini njengenxalenye yokucebisa emtshatweni.
Ke ngoko, indlela owahlula ngayo inokwahluka kakhulu, kunye nokuzimisela kwakho ukusondela ekwahlukaneni nobuzwe kunye nomdlandla wokwenza ukuba ibe lixesha elifanelekileyo kusapho lwakho. Okanye, elona gatya liphantsi kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Nangona kunjalo, ekubeni ukubize ngokwahlukana kwetyala kwaye hayi uqhawulo-mtshato, ngokuqinisekileyo unenjongo yokwenza izinto zisebenze. Ukwenza njalo, kukho imigaqo ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ilandelwe.
Umgaqo wokuqala kukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo. Ngokufanelekileyo, wena neqabane lakho niya kuvumelana ngeenjongo zokugqibela kunye neminqweno yakho malunga nokwahlukana ngokwako. Kodwa, nokuba awuvumelani, kuya kufuneka uthethe ngokungafihlisiyo malunga nento onayo engqondweni. Njengoko siza kubona kwicandelo elilandelayo, kuya kufuneka ukunyaniseka okufanayo xa uthetha nabantwana bakho.
Ngenxa yokuba unabantwana, umthetho wokuqala kukuqinisekisa ukuba bakulungele kangangoko. Ke ngoko, kuyakufuneka ucoce umoya malunga nezemali kunye nolungiselelo lokuhlala. Xoxa ngobuninzi bexesha oza kulichitha usapho, kunye nohlobo lonxibelelwano eniza kuba nalo. Kuyo yonke into oxoxa ngayo, hlala uhloniphekile kunye nentlalo-ntle yabantwana bakho engqondweni.
Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ukwahlukana kwesilingo kuthetha ukuba omnye wenu okanye nina nobabini nisakholelwa ukuba umtshato unokuhlangulwa. Iya kuba lixesha apho uyakufumana ithuba lokwahlula izinto ezingalunganga kwaye nakwizibhengezo malunga nokuba likucaphukisa kangakanani iqabane lakho. Iya kuba lixesha lokufumana ukuqonda emtshatweni wakho kwaye ungubani wena kwaye ubuyele kumdlalo ngomsindo omtsha.
Ixesha lokuthetha nabantwana
Nje ukuba wena neqabane lakho nivumelane malunga nokuba elixesha liza kuthetha ntoni kwaye liza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani, kwaye nivakalisile amathemba kunye neemfuno zenu, lixesha lokuba wabelane ngako konke oku nabantwana bakho. Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka uthembeke, kwaye ungabalahlekisi. Kodwa, ngokusekwe kubudala babo kunye nobushushu babo, kuya kufuneka ukuba uliguqulele ibali kuhlobo olulungele abantwana.
Ukuba uyahlulahlula ngenxa yokungathembeki, umzekelo, kunye nokungakwazi kweqabane elikhohlisiweyo ukuba liphumelele ngalo mzuzu, abantwana abayifuni kangako loo nto. Into ekufuneka beyivile kukuba umama notata abahambelani kakuhle mva nje (ngokuqinisekileyo bayazi ngoku) kwaye ukuze oko kube kulungisiwe, baya kuthatha ixesha bodwa ngaphandle komnye.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, awungekhe ugxininise ngokungaphezulu ukuba akukho nto mayela nokwahlukana sisiphoso sabantwana bakho.
Bazise ukuba zonke iintlobo zentsebenziswano zingena engxakini ngamanye amaxesha kwaye akukho nto bayenzileyo okanye abangayenzanga enokuba nefuthe kuloo nto.
Kananjalo, yabakho ukuze uphendule yonke imibuzo abanokuba nayo abantwana bakho, ukuze balilungiselele kakuhle eli thuba, kunye nezona zimanga zincinci zinokwenzeka.
Ixesha lokulingwa liphelile, ngoku kuza kuthini?
Xa ukwahlukana kwetyala kuphelile, isibini kufuneka sithathe isigqibo. Nokuba sijolise kwisiphumo esihle, okanye kuqhawulo mtshato, nasiphi na isigqibo sibhetele kunokushiya izinto zikwimeko ekhoyo. Kungenxa yokuba iingxaki emtshatweni azipheli, zithatha umsebenzi omninzi kunye nokuzimisela, njengoko kuboniswa ngumsebenzi.
Kubantwana bakho, kufuneka usazise isigqibo sakho ngendlela efanayo naleyo malunga nokwahlukana. Nantoni na ogqibe kuyo, bazise ukuba bayathandwa nobabini, ukuba baya kukhathalelwa nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, kwaye baya kuhlala bephathwa ngokunyaniseka nangentlonipho.