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Ngaba uyazi nayiphi na iindlela zokwazi ukuba indoda yinto yomtshato usuka kude? Njani xa uvuka usondela kwaye ubuqu?
Kule mihla yanamhlanje kunye nobudala, kunzima kakhulu ukufumanisa ukuba umntu osandula ukudibana naye kwaye unobunzima bokuwela nzima kuye angaliqabane elihle lexesha elide.
Ngaba uyayijonga imbali yakhe yokuthandana? Ukuba unobuhlobo obude kuphela, ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba akoyiki ukuzibophelela? Kuthekani ukuba kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kancinci kwaye azame enye into ngotshintsho? Ngaba uyayazi imiqondiso onayo kunye nendoda oza kutshata nayo?
Xa kuziwa ekutshateni komtshato, zininzi ii-angles ukuba xa uzama ukuzilawula zonke, uya kuzinika intloko ebuhlungu kwaye awuyi kude. Kungenxa yoko le nto sithathe isigqibo sokuyiphula kwiingcebiso ezi-3 ezilula ezisebenza kakhulu ngeepesenti ezingama-99 zexesha.
Nazi iingcebiso ezi-3 eziphezulu wazi njani ukuba uyindoda elungileyo emtshatweni okanye wazi njani ukuba uyinto yomtshato.
1. Jonga kwiminyaka yakhe yoLuntu
Ingcebiso yokuqala yokuqonda indlela yokwazi ukuba nguye oza kutshata kukufumanisa ukuba ukhule kangakanani kuluntu.
Isazisi sakhe sisenokuthi uneminyaka engama-24, 35 okanye engama-46, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yiminyaka yakhe yentlalo, onokuyifumana ukuba uchitha ixesha elaneleyo kunye.
Abanye abantu baziva bonwabile kwaye bakulungele ukuhlala phantsi kwaye bazibophezele kwi-20s yabo ngelixa abanye besaziva ukuba akufuneki bangene kwizinto ezingama-40.
Amadoda aqolileyo ngokwasemphefumlweni ngokwaneleyo ukuba enze nantoni na efunekayo ukwenza ulwalamano lusebenze ngabo banikezela uzinzo kubo nakwabanye.
Kulapho kufuneka ugcine amehlo kunye neendlebe ezivulekileyo kuba izenzo zithetha kakhulu kunamazwi. Unokukuxelela ukuba angathanda ukutshata kwakamsinya kwaye aqale usapho kodwa ngaba ubomi bakhe bumi kakuhle?
Ngaba uhlonitshwe phakathi kwabahlobo bakhe okanye uyathandwa ngenxa yokuba uthatha umngcipheko okanye ubomi beqela?
Ngokucacileyo, ufuna eyangaphambili kuba ukuba libhabhathane elinentlalontle kangangokuba uyaphuma rhoqo ngeempelaveki aye kusela azilibele, qiniseka ukuba akakulungelanga, kwaye ngekhe angabikho.
2. Imicimbi yakhe yobomi
Musa ukulindela ukuba umntu atshintshe kakhulu. Ufikile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kwaye nangona ezokutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha kuba kuya kufuneka alungelelanise iimeko zobomi obutsha ngandlela thile, akazukutshintsha iindlela zakho.
Ngaba unomsebenzi olungileyo ozisa ukhuseleko kunye nozinzo? Ngaba luhlobo lomsebenzi ongathanda ukuthetha nani bazali malunga nesidlo sangokuhlwa? Okanye ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uchukumise udade wakho oneminyaka engama-22 ubudala?
Amadoda akulungeleyo ukuhlala phantsi bachitha ixesha labo elininzi besakha into abaziqhenyayo ngayo. Abahambi rhoqo, batshintsha imisebenzi rhoqo kwiinyanga ezininzi okanye batshintshe isangqa sabahlobo babo.
Umhle wakho omtsha unomtshato engqondweni yakhe xa ekwenza uzive ukhuselekile phambi kwakhe ngokungathi ungamthemba nokuba kunjani. Ngaba uyakwenza uzive ngathi ungasifaka isandla sakhe kuye, kwaye mvumele akuthathe nanini na xa efuna? Ukuba impendulo nguewe, unaye umgcini.
3. Jonga Abahlobo Bakhe
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatayo bakuxelela ukuba ujonge ubudlelwane bakhe nonina, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu okwangoku ahlalisana nabani. Ngaba abahlobo bakhe ikakhulu ngabantu abangatshatanga abathanda ukuya ethekweni ebusuku?
Ngaba batshatile kunye nesibini sabantwana? Ngaba ubudala bakhe okanye uyaqaphela ukungangqinelani ekunzima ukukuchaza, njengaye ukujinga kunye nesihlwele esincinci?
Indlela yethu yokuphila, amaxabiso, iinkolelo, kunye neenjongo zethu zihlala ziboniswa zezihlobo zethu, ukuba nje sinesangqa esiqinileyo ngaphakathi.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kungafuneki ubatyeshele oogxa bakhe xa usenza isigqibo sokuba uxinzelelo lwakho lwakutsha nje lunethuba lokujika lube yinto enzulu ngakumbi. Ukuba bazinzile, maninzi amathuba okuba naye ehle ngaloo ndlela.
Ukuba zizi-DJs, izilwanyana zepati enye okanye oonobumba abadlala imidlalo yevidiyo imini yonke kwaye beshiya indlu kuba ubomi babo buxhomekeke kuyo, mhlawumbi unje kanjalo.