Umxholo
- 1. Sukungxamela ukuthandana
- 2. Cinga ukusebenzisa ukuthandana apps
- 3. Yiya kwiintlobo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zemihla
- 4. Ithemba lokona kulungileyo, lindela okona kubi
- 5. Ungalibali ukuba nguwe
Ukuthandana yinto eyoyikisayo. Ukuthandana emva kokwahlukana yenye into!
Mhlawumbi uye wazibuza umbuzo othi 'Kude kube nini na ukulinda ukuthandana emva kokwahlukana?' Usenokuba ukhangele iimpendulo kwi-intanethi. Kwaye xa ulungile, sinomqolo wakho!
Kule nqaku, sabelana nawe ngeengcebiso ezintlanu ezithembekileyo zokukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba ubuyela nini kuyo!
1. Sukungxamela ukuthandana
Ayisiyo yonke into eyahlukileyo efanayo. Kanye njengokuba ayisiyo yonke imitshato efanayo.
Xa uqala ukuthandana kwakhona, usenokuba nexhala lokuba ngaba kukho impendulo ethile kumbuzo wakho othi 'Kude kube nini na ukulinda ukuthandana emva kokwahlukana?' Kodwa impendulo yalo mbuzo ayinqunyulwanga kwaye yomile-iya kuxhomekeka kuwe ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuqhubela phambili yinkqubo edinisayo, kwaye ayinguye wonke umntu ofanayo xa kufikwa 'kwixesha lokuphilisa.' Ungafumana ubungqina kwi-intanethi obuthe baqala ukuthandana kwakamsinya nje ukuba baqale ngoqhawulo-mtshato, ukanti abanye banokuthi balinda iminyaka emva kokuba uqhawulo-mtshato lugqityiwe.
Impendulo eqinisekileyo yombuzo ixhomekeke kuwe. Lithini ithambo lakho?
Ngokuqinisekileyo kubalulekile ukunqanda ukungxama, kodwa ukuba uqala ukubuza le nto kwaye unaye umntu engqondweni, ayizukukhathaza ukuthatha izinto kancinci kancinci akunjalo? Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ungene zonke ngokukhawuleza.
Kwelinye icala, ingakuthatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ulungele. Akukho mithetho inzima kwaye ikhawulezayo ekukhokelela kwizigqibo zakho zokuba uqale nini ukuthandana kwakhona emva kokwahlukana.
Thatha ixesha lakho ukhululeke ungene kulo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, unabo bonke ubomi bakho ukuba uphonononge ukubuyela kuwe kwakhona.
2. Cinga ukusebenzisa ukuthandana apps
Wamkelekile kwiminyaka yale mihla yokuthandana.
Ukuba uphumile ekukhetheni ukuba ngubani oza kuqala ukuthandana, singacebisa ukuba sisebenzise ii -apps zokuthandana?
Ukuthandana kwii -apps ziyindlela elungileyo yokujonga indawo okuyo ngemihla enokubakho! Sebenzisa enye kunokuba kuhle kakhulu kumntu oqala ukuthandana kwakhona.
Oku kungenxa yokuba ukuthandana zokusebenza zinika ithuba lokuthetha kumhla ezinokubakho ngaphambi nokuba ngenene ukuthandana! Oku ngandlela thile kususa amanqanaba angaqhelekanga okuthetha ngexesha lokuqala.
Ungasisebenzisa esi sixhobo ukuba usaxhonyiwe ekuphenduleni umbuzo wakho 'Kude kube nini ulinda ukuthandana emva kokwahlukana?' Mhlawumbi emva kokutshintshela ezintlanu ngasekunene, uyaqonda ukuba 'Heyi, ndicinga ukuba ndikulungele ukunika oku!'
Ikwayindlela entle yokufumana abantu abacinga ngokufanayo abakwimeko efanayo nawe kwaye ekufuneka bethathe izinto kancinci. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ikhawuleziswe-amathuba anokuphela!
3. Yiya kwiintlobo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zemihla
Umhla wokuqala unokoyikisa, kodwa zikhumbuze ukuba yonke imihla ingonwaba!
Zininzi iindlela zokwenza umhla wokuqala ongabandakanyi naziphi na iziselo ezinxilisayo. Ukusuka kumhla wevenkile yekofu ukuya kwiintsuku zomkhenkce, ukuya kutsho nakwimihla yokuthenga iincwadi.
Akukho sidingo sokucinga ukuba umhla kufuneka ube sebusuku kakhulu kwaye ubandakanya iziselo kuba akukho bantu baninzi abonwabileyo.
Njengoko uqhubeka ngeentsuku zakho uzama ukuphendula 'kukulinda ixesha elingakanani emva kokwahlukana,' mhlawumbi unokwenza uluhlu lwazo zonke izimvo zokuqala zomhla wokuqala onqwenela ukuya kuzo.
Mhlawumbi kumhla wokuqala, ungababuza ukuba ukuya kumasifundisane kunokuhlala kakuhle nabo. Ayizukukwazi nje kuphela usuku lwakho ukuba sober, kodwa uya kuyithanda le ndibano kwaye uyijike ibe yinto oyithandayo yokwenza imali.
4. Ithemba lokona kulungileyo, lindela okona kubi
Ukuba le ayisiyondlela ilungileyo yokusondela emva kokwahlukana, emva koko asazi ukuba yenziwa njani na.
Sonke sinomhlobo ohambe ngomhla wokuqala, ombi kakhulu. Siyaqonda ukuba oku kunokoyikisa ukuba ungathandani.
Njengoko besitshilo, imihla kufanele ukuba iyonwabisa. Nangona kunjalo, ayinguye wonke umntu oza kudibana naye oza kuhlala kakuhle kubuntu bakho okanye okubi; ziya kuba krwada kuwe. (Masithembe ukuba akunjalo)
Ukongeza kwizinto ozilindeleyo, khumbula ukuba uhlala ukhuselekile. Kwimeko apho usuku lwakho luba gadalala kwanomhla wokuqala, yiba neenombolo ezingxamisekileyo ezikulungele.
5. Ungalibali ukuba nguwe
Sonke siyawazi umngeni wokuba sisiqu sakho. Kunzima. Inzima.
Jonga nje isixa seefilitha eziguqula ubuso kunye nezinto ezingafumanekiyo ngoku kwi-intanethi. Singathanda ukubuza nangona kunjalo, awungethandi ukuba uthandwe ngenxa yento oyiyo?
Ukuba uyazivumela ukuba ukhule kwiminqweno yangoku kunye neenqobo onazo, uzivumela ukuba ukhule ube ngulo mntu ubufanelwe kukuba nguye.
Ukuba uvumela le minqweno kunye neenqobo ezisesikweni zizalise ubomi bakho, ukwachaza ubomi bakho ngendlela eyeyakho ngokwenyani. Ngubani owaziyo?
Xa unguye, ungazichaza ngakumbi. Ungabonisa ukuzithemba. Kwaye usithembe, ukuzithemba kuyinto entle.