Umxholo
- Sijonga njani ngesondo
- Ukwabelana ngesondo phakathi kwakho nomntu wakho kuthatha ixesha ukuyila
- Izibonelelo zokulala ngesondo
- Yintoni efunekayo kwisini esigcwele umlilo: iresiphi
- Isiseko esisezantsi (okanye esingekhoyo) sokuqhuba ngesondo
- Yenza ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo, awuyi kuzisola
Ukubaluleka kwesondo kwabasetyhini kuhlala kungananzwa. Ewe kunjalo, kuninzi lwabasetyhini, isini sidlala indima ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane bothando.
Ihlala iyiglue ebopha amaqabane njengesibini. Ayisincedi nje ukuba sizive sinxibelelene neqabane lethu, kodwa isini sivelisa iihomoni "zokuziva zilungile", ezinje nge-Oxytocin, esivumela ukuba sihlale sidlamkile, sinamandla kwaye sonwabile.
Kubalulekile ukuthathela ingqalelo ubushushu bezesondo kubudlelwane bethu, kuba lo luphawu lwendlela isibini esisebenza ngayo.
Ukuba nesondo olukhulu? Olo luphawu oluhle lokuba izinto zihamba kakuhle kuwe neqabane lakho. Ukungabelani ngesondo?
Unamava okusilela kolwaneliseko ngokwesondo? Ukwabelana ngesondo emtshatweni ngokutsala ngasemva?
Inokuba lixesha lokuba ungene kule nto kwaye ubone ukuba kutheni le mfuno isisiseko ingafezekiswa. Kodwa, okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kutheni isondo libalulekile kubafazi.
Sijonga njani ngesondo
Ukwabelana ngesondo sisiphumo sendalo sokuziva sisondele kwiqabane lethu.
Ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni lulwimi ngokwalo, kwaye abafazi bayalusebenzisa ukubonisa uthando lwabo kunye noxabiso kwindoda yabo. Ikwaguqula ukuba ibe nokwabelana ngesondo okunenjongo nokwanelisayo kwabasetyhini.
Sele uyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ufunde ukuba nengxoxo neqabane lakho ukuze ngamnye wenu azive eve. Kubaluleke ngokulinganayo ukuqonda ulwimi lwakho nolwabelana ngesondo ukuze umntu ngamnye azive anelisekile.
Ayisiyonto inokufundiswa ngokukhawuleza, yiyo loo nto kubudlelwane obunothando, bexesha elide, intetho yesondo phakathi kwabantu ababini ityebile, inentsingiselo, kwaye ingenamda: aba bantu babini baneminyaka yokwakha ukuthembana kunye nokufunda nganye Olunye ulwimi "olunomdla".
Ukwabelana ngesondo phakathi kwakho nomntu wakho kuthatha ixesha ukuyila
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho, isini esilungileyo sinokuza ngokulula, njengoko nobabini nikhwele iliza lobutsha benkanuko yenu yenyama. Awudingi kusebenza ukuze uqonde ukubaluleka kwesondo emtshatweni.
Njengoko ukhula neqabane lakho, kwenziwa olunye umaleko wonxibelelwano: icala lengqondo lezesondo, okanye ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuze ube neentlobano zesini ezonwabisayo nomntu obhinqileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba bakuxabise kangakanani ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo namaqabane abo kunye nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo ukulandelwa kwabo kukoneliseka ngokwesondo.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba i-53% yabasetyhini bajonge unxibelelwano lwengqondo olusekwe kubudlelwane bexesha elide njengenxalenye ebalulekileyo yokwoneliseka kwabo ngokwesondo.
Funda ngokugqithisileyo: Lubaluleke kangakanani isondo lomntu
Izibonelelo zokulala ngesondo
Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba neentlobano zesini emtshatweni kubafazi? Kubafazi, isini sibalulekile njengoko sibalulekile endodeni.
Ukubaluleka kwesondo kumfazi akunakugxininiswa. Kuphando lwakutsha nje, uninzi lwabasetyhini luvumile ukuba isini, ayisiyiyo kuphela indlela yokuziva unxibelelana neqabane labo, kodwa luxinzelelo olukhulu.
On "Ngaba isini silungile kumfazi?" Nazi ezinye izibonelelo ezimnandi eziqhubeka nokubonisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba neentlobano zesini kwabasetyhini.
Emva kosuku olude, isondo yindlela elungileyo yokuziva ukhululekile; ikwanceda ukuba ulale ngokukhawuleza.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kukuzilolonga kakhulu kwimisipha yomzimba yomfazi. Ukuba eso ayisosizathu saneleyo sokugxininisa ukubaluleka kwesini kubudlelwane, nantsi enye.
Kutheni le nto abasetyhini befuna isondo kungenxa yokuba isondo sinciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kwaye lenze ukuba owasetyhini azive anelisekile kwaye anelisekile.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokulungileyo kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwamadoda nabafazi ngokufanayo; ibenza bazive befunwa kwaye bethandwa. Ukwabelana ngesondo kulungile kwimpilo yomzimba, yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo.
Ngezibonelelo ezininzi ezimangalisayo zokulala ngesondo, kuya kuba yinto engafunekiyo ukubuza, "Ngaba isini sibalulekile kubantu basetyhini?"
Yintoni efunekayo kwisini esigcwele umlilo: iresiphi
Abasetyhini abazalisekiswe ngokwesondo bayavuma: ukuba awukwazi ukunxibelelana ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala, unxibelelwano lwakho lomzimba ngaphakathi kwigumbi lokulala luya kuba nzima.
Ukuphendula umbuzo, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba neentlobano zesini emtshatweni, kubalulekile kuqala ukuba uqonde ukuba isini esilungileyo siqala entloko. Kuthetha ukuba uyakwazi ukuthetha ngokunyaniseka neqabane lakho.
Ukwakha kubalulekile ukuba wonwabele isondo, kwaye abantu basetyhini bayonwaba malunga nokwabelana ngesondo xa besiva unxibelelwano olunzulu nolomeleleyo kwindoda yabo.
Uninzi lwabafazi ludinga unxibelelwano olunzulu, olomeleleyo kwindoda yabo ukuze bonwabe ngokwenene ngokwabelana ngesondo.
Abasetyhini baluxabisile olu nxibelelwano lweemvakalelo nangaphezulu kunokufezekisa i-orgasm. Oku kufanele ukuba kuphendule umbuzo, "ibaluleke kangakanani isondo kubudlelwane bexesha elide?"
Abasetyhini abaninzi banokwabelana ukuba abathandi ukutsiba bangene kwisenzo ngokwaso (nangona "u-quickie" amaxesha ngamaxesha angonwaba) kodwa bathande ukukhokelela kwezesondo: i-foreplay.
Baye baqiniseke ukuba ezi caresses zangaphambi komtshato ziyonwabile kwindoda yabo ngokunjalo kuba ukubona indoda yabo inemincili yongeza ukonwaba kwabo kunye nemvakalelo yobufazi.
Abasetyhini abonelisekileyo ngokwesondo bayakuqonda ukubaluleka kokulukuhla.
Bayazi ukuba oku kunika ulonwabo njengezinto ezibonakalayo zokulala ebhedini, njengesenzo sokulukuhla, yonke into eyenzekayo ngaphambi kokutyibilika phakathi kwamashiti-inokuba nomtsalane njengomdlalo wokuphela ngokwawo.
Cinga ngezo ntsuku zakuqala zokuthandana xa uchitha ixesha ukhetha iilokhwe zangaphantsi, iziqholo zakho, impahla yakho kunye nezinto zoncedo.
Ungabheja kwangaxeshanye ubusenza i-makeup yakho, umntu wakho ebekhetha ngononophelo indawo yokutyela kwaye efunda into anokuyithetha kuwe ngexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa esinokukusondeza kuye.
Ukwehliswa kuyonwabisa, nokuba yeyiphi inqanaba lolwalamano lwakho.
Ngapha koko, kubaluleke ngakumbi kwizibini ezide ngenxa yokuba ukukhohlisana kunokunceda ekuvuseleleni amadangatye omnqweno.
Abasetyhini bayayidinga le midlalo yangaphambi komdlalo (ngaphezulu kwamadoda, kunokubonakala ngathi) ukuze bangene kwimood, ngakumbi emva kweminyaka yokuba neqabane elifanayo.
Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezinomdla kunokukhunjuzwa ukuba kufanelekile ukuthandana.
Isiseko esisezantsi (okanye esingekhoyo) sokuqhuba ngesondo
Xa kufikwa kwisini, abantu basetyhini baneedrive ezinzima kakhulu zokuqhuba. Zininzi izinto ezinokuba nefuthe kumnqweno.
Kukho iimpembelelo zexesha elifutshane ezinjengosuku olude nabantwana okanye emsebenzini, umlo nomhlobo (okanye iqabane lakho), ukugula, kwaye emva koko kukho iimpembelelo zexesha elide ezinje ngobudala (ukuya exesheni), imiba ebalulekileyo yezempilo, okanye ngokuqhubekayo, uxinzelelo olungapheliyo.
Ukuba uchonge ukuba i-libido yakho iphantsi ngenxa yokucaphuka okwethutyana, akukho sidingo sokukhathazeka.
Umnqweno unendawo yendalo kunye nokuhamba, kwaye akukho mntu ulindele ukuba "sibe" ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kuyanceda ukucacisa kwindoda yakho ukuba kutheni ungekho kwimood, ngalo lonke ixesha uyayiqinisekisa ayinguye, kodwa ufuna nje ukulala kamnandi, umzekelo.
Kwi-libido ebonakala ngathi iyicimile kwaye ayibonakali ngathi iyabuya, licebo elihle ukujonga ugqirha, ngakumbi ukuba usondela kwiminyaka yokuyeka ukuya exesheni.
Zininzi iindlela zonyango kunye nezamayeza ezikhoyo ukunceda ukunciphisa ukwehla kwehomoni zethu zesini. Ugqirha unokuzijonga kunye nawe ukuze akuncede uthathe isigqibo ngeyona ndlela mhle yokwenza.
Ukuba utshintsho lwehomoni alungonobangela wokuncipha komnqweno, kunokuba bubulumko ukuthatha uluhlu lomntu.
Ngaba umnqweno wakho unciphile ngenxa yomzabalazo wokuzibona?
Ukonakala kunxibelelwano neqabane lakho? Ngaba uziva ungaxhaswanga kwiindawo ezithile zobomi bakho? Ngaba uva umkhuba wenkqubo yakho?
Ngoncedo lwengcali yobungcali, ukukhupha uxinzelelo kuyakuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana kwakhona isini sakho kunye nazo zonke iziyolo.
Yenza ixesha lokwabelana ngesondo, awuyi kuzisola
Sonke sinokuninzi kwiipleyiti zethu, phakathi komsebenzi, usapho, ukuzibophelela koluntu, kunye noxanduva lwasentlalweni.
Kunokuba lula kakhulu ukulibazisa okanye ukulibala izibonelelo ezixhomis 'amehlo kunye nezonyusa ubomi zobomi obuzaliswe lulonwabo. Kodwa iya kuba yimpazamo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ubalule indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukuba neentlobano zesini kubudlelwane, ke uhlala ubeka phambili ubomi bakho ngokwesondo, ngaphandle kokubulawa koxanduva kunye nexesha elininzi.
Sukwenza impazamo yokutshintsha kancinci ngokubeka uthando ngakwisitshisi esingasemva.
Njengoko sele kutshiwo, ukubaluleka kwezesondo kwabasetyhini akunakukrwelelwa ngokwaneleyo.
Ukunyusa oya kukufumana kwiseshoni eyonelisayo phantsi kwamaphepha kunye nendoda oyithandayo iya kugqithisela kuzo zonke ezinye iindawo zobomi bakho.
Yenza ixesha lala maxesha asondeleyo, nokunxibelelana. Ufanelekile, kwaye kunjalo nendoda oyithandayo.