Umxholo
- 1. Uluchaphazela ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa
- 2. Usana lwakho aludingi zinto zininzi.
- 3. Iintsana azinazo iindlela zokwenza izinto
- 4. Kulungile ukuvumela umntwana wakho akhale
Kubo bonke ubomi bethu, singena kwizigaba ezitsha kunye namava avavanya ukulungelelana kwethu kunye nomonde. Kodwa zimbalwa izinto ezicela umngeni kuthi njengokukhulisa nokunyamekela umntwana osanda kuzalwa.
Umzali sisifundo ngokwahlukileyo, Igcwele iindawo eziphakamileyo nezisezantsi ezivavanya esona sigulana, sinothando, kwaye sizinikele phakathi kwethu.
Ukuba ngumzali kunye nokuba ngumzali kwimveku emalunga nokunxibelelana, ubudlelwane, uthando kunye nosapho. Kodwa izaliswe ngamanani amangalisayo okuzifumanisa kunye nokuthandabuza.
Kwangelo xesha, sifunda ukuba siyakwazi amanqanaba amatsha othando; Sikwajongana nobuthathaka bethu-ukuzingca, ukungabi namonde, umsindo. Ukuba ngumzali luvuyo olungenamda kunye nothando olunabantu elinamaxesha odandatheko olungenakuthelekiswa nanto.
Kodwa musa ukuziva uwedwa kukungazithembi nokungazi. Nabona bazali babalaseleyo baziva bephambuka ngamanye amaxesha. Bacinga okwesibini malunga nendlela efanelekileyo yokondla, ukunxiba, kunye nokukhathalela lo mntu mtsha ebomini babo.
Ke, ukuthandabuza kunye noxinzelelo ziyinxalenye yako. Kodwa ulwazi kunye nokuqonda kunceda abazali banciphise ukungazithembi, kubenza bahambe kwihlabathi labo elitsha ngokuzithemba.
Nazi izinto ezi-4 zomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa ekufuneka azi ukuba wonke umzali wokuqala kufuneka agcine engqondweni malunga nendlela yokunyamekela umthwalo omtsha wosana oya kubanceda apha endleleni.
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1. Uluchaphazela ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa
Ingqondo yosana ngummangaliso wendalo. Usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa luqala ngeeseli ezili-100 lezigidi zeengqondo. Kwangoko, ezi seli zikhula ziye kwinethiwekhi ye-neural entsonkothileyo yokukhulisa kwengqondo kunye nokukhula kweemvakalelo.
Ngexesha lokhathalelo losana olusandul 'ukuzalwa emva kokuzalwa, into oyenzayo njengomzali ichaphazela le nkqubo yendalo, nokuba uyanceda okanye uyayithintela. Ke, ngelixa ujonga iimfuno zabo zomzimba, qiniseka ukuba nawe Ncedakhulisa ingqondo yomntwana wakho osandul 'ukuzalwa.
Njengoko iimvakalelo ezintlanu zosana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa zikhula, kukho amava athile okuqonda awadingayo kwiindawo eziwajikelezileyo. Inkuthazo enjengolusu lolusu, ukuva ilizwi lakho kunye nokubona ubuso bakho zizinto ezisisiseko.
Ke, uninzi lwamava luza ngemisebenzi yesiqhelo yosana lokuzalwa kwabantwana. Kodwa ezinye azinantlonelo. Umzekelo, usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa lukhetha imifanekiso eyahlukileyo kunye neepateni ezifana nobuso bomntu.
Oku kunceda umntwana wakho ukuba achonge izinto kwindawo abakuyo. Nokuba “ixesha lesisu” libalulekile ekukhuleni kwengqondo yosana lwakho. Ukukunceda ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana wakho osandul 'ukuzalwa, yenza ezi zinto zibalulekileyo zifumaneke kubo ngamaxesha afanelekileyo.
2. Usana lwakho aludingi zinto zininzi.
Kubazali abatsha, kuyalinga ukulayisha izibane zasebusuku zamva nje, iisinki zesinki, kunye nezinye izixhobo zabantwana. Kodwa yiyo Kulula ukuhamba ngaphezulu. Izibizo, mhlawumbi awudingi izinto ezininzi zomntwana njengoko ucinga. Ukukhathalela usana, ngelixa kunzima ekwenzeni, yinto elula.
Iintsana zidinga ukutya, ukulala kunye nokuthungatha. Ukuqokelela ikhaya lakho ngeengxowa zezinto ezingenakwenzeka kuya kwenza kube nzima ukuthambekela kwezi mfuno zisisiseko.
Oko kulayishwa imoto kwezipho zeshawari osizise ekhaya ngokuzingca kungangumngcipheko wezinto zokucoca, ukuthathwa kunye nokulungelelaniswa. Ungayichazanga eyokuba, ukungqubana kakhulu kuyonyusa uxinzelelo lwakho.
Ke, qala encinci kwaye ungeze izinto njengoko uzifuna. Ezinye izinto ezinje ngee-diapers, ifomula, kunye nokusula okumanzi akunangqondo-kokukhona kuya kudityaniswa. Ngapha koko, kulula ukuzigcina ngobuninzi, kwaye unokuhlala unikela ngazo naziphi na izinto ezingasetyenziswanga kwiindawo zokuhlala zabasetyhini balapha.
Kwaye ufunde uphononongo lwemveliso ngaphambi kokuzibophelela ekuthengeni kwanezona zixhobo zincinci zincinci. Gcina isimo sengqondo esincinci, kwaye uya kuyenza lula inkqubo yokukhulisa umntwana.
3. Iintsana azinazo iindlela zokwenza izinto
Abantu bayazithanda iinkqubo, nkqu nezona zingxamisekileyo phakathi kwethu. Kwaye oku kuya kubantwana nabo. Kodwa usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa alunakuba nesiqhelo kwinyanga yokuqala okanye ezimbini. Ngelo xesha, abanakho ngokomzimba ukulandela ipateni eqhelekileyo.
Isizathu esinye soku kukuba iwotshi yabo yebhayiloji (okt, isingqisho se-circadian) ayikaphuhlisi okwangoku. Bona awunako ukwahlula umahluko phakathi kobusuku nemini. Kwakhona, ukulala kwabo kunye nokutya "ishedyuli" ayinakulinganiswa kwaye iqhutywa ngumnqweno (wokumangalisa) ukulala nokutya.
Ke, nini kwaye kutheni begqiba ekubeni benze nantoni na elungiselelwe. Ewe, esi siphithiphithi siza kuhamba ngokuchasene nesiqhelo. Kwaye nayiphi na inzame yokunyanzelisa ukutya / ukulala kwishedyuli yakho kumntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa ayicetyiswa gwenxa kwaye ayisebenzi.
Endaweni yoko, landela ukhokelo losana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa. Lungelelanisa ishedyuli yakho kangangoko unako kwiiveki ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6 zokuqala. Ukungabikho kokulala okungenakuphepheka kunye nokudakumba kuya kulandela, kodwa ubhetyebhetye bakho buya kunceda umntwana wakho osandul 'ukuzalwa ukuba aqhelane nesiqhelo ngokukhawuleza.
Kancinci ukuqala ukwazisa iinkqubo ezinjengeebhafu zasebusuku ngokukhanya okukhanyayo okanye ukukhanya kwelanga kusasa ukunceda umntwana wakho akhe isingqisho se-circadian. Ke, njengoko beqala ukulungelelanisa indlela yesiqhelo, qalisa ukugcina umkhondo wokutya kwabo kunye nemikhwa yabo yokulala.
Umzekelo "wamaxesha amahle" emisebenzi uya kuvela, kwaye ungayisebenzisa ukulungelelanisa umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla.
4. Kulungile ukuvumela umntwana wakho akhale
Ukulila yindlela umntwana wakho athetha ngayo nawe. Kwaye zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni befuna ukuba "nentetho." Umntwana wakho usenokuba ulambile, ulele, umanzi, unesizungu, okanye indibaniselwano yezi.
Abazali abatsha bahlala bekufumanisa kunzima ukuvumela abantwana babo ukuba bakhale nokuba lelona xesha lifutshane, babalekele esibelekweni xa benalo noluncinci uphawu lwentsimbi. Kuqhelekile ukuba abazali abatsha beza ekhaya bevela esibhedlele ukuba babe novakalelo kwiintsana zabo ezililayo.
Kodwa njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, isidingo sakho sokuthuthuzela kwangoko nokucima konke ukukhala kufuneka kuphele. Sukuba nexhala; uyakuba ngcono njengokuba ufunda "ukufunda" izikhalo ezahlukeneyo - ukwahlula phakathi kwesikhalo esithi “Ndimanzi” kunye nesililo esithi “Ndiyozela”.
Ukuvumela umntwana wakho "akhale" ngokwenene ibanceda bafunde ukuzenzela isothotho. Oko akuthethi ukuba mabakhale kangangeyure. Kodwa, ukuba uzame yonke into oyaziyo ukubazolisa, kulungile ukubeka umntwana wakho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo kwaye uhambe imizuzu embalwa.
Zenzele, yenza ikomityi yekofu, kunye noxinzelelo. Akukho nto imbi iya kwenzeka. Ukuzithomalalisa kubaluleke ngakumbi ebusuku.
Ukungalali kakuhle yingxaki enkulu kubazali abatsha. Kwaye abo bavumela abantwana babo ukuba bakhale imizuzu embalwa ngaphambi kokuba bavuke ebhedini bahlala befumana ukulala okungcono ebusuku kwaye benamanqanaba asezantsi oxinzelelo.
Obu buchule bubizwa ngokuba “kukutshabalala okugqityiweyo,” kwaye inceda abantwana bafunde ukulala ngokukhawuleza. Sukuba nexhala, ukuvumela umntwana wakho akhale kancinci akuyi kubachaphazela ngokweemvakalelo okanye kulimaze iqhina lakho lomzali nomntwana. Ngapha koko, iya kuphucula yonke into.
Unokujonga kwakhona kwiindlela zangoku zokuba ngumzali ukuze uqhubeke nokutshintsha iimfuno zomntwana wakho.