Umxholo
- Ngaba ubudlelwane obunengxaki buthetha ntoni ngesi sibini
- Imali
- Uxabiso
- Isimo sengqondo
- Ithemba
- Chaza ubudlelwane obuxineneyo kwaye yintoni eyenza yahluke
- Ukujamelana nolwalamano olubi
- Chonga unobangela wengxaki
- Sebenzani kunye kwisisombululo esisigxina
- Coca lo monakalo
Umtshato uyonwaba, okanye ke sikhokelwa ukuba sikholwe. Ngokwenyani, akukho bantu babini abaya kuhlala bevumelanisa, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala kwindlu enye. Cinga ngabantakwenu ukuba unayo. Umtshato uyinto enjalo, ngaphandle kokuba ahlobene nawe negazi.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha abantu bayatshintsha. Isizathu sotshintsho asibalulekanga kangako. Into ebalulekileyo ngabantu bayatshintsha, kwaye yinyani. Kukho iimeko apho abantu batshintsha ngokwaneleyo ukuba baphele kubudlelwane obuxineneyo. Luyintoni ubudlelwane obunengxaki? Kuxa isibini esi sinengxaki ezininzi kakhulu apho uxinzelelo luthatha ubomi babo bonke.
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo kubudlelwane obunobunzima buyawahlukana kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi babo. Ichaphazela impilo yabo, umsebenzi wabo, kunye nolwalamano nabanye abantu.
Ngaba ubudlelwane obunengxaki buthetha ntoni ngesi sibini
Kukho abantu abakholelwa kwiqabane elinye ebomini kwaye banokuqhubeka nokunamathela kumaqabane abo ebunzimeni nasebubini. Ayisiyonto ilungileyo okanye embi, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba niyazikhumbula izifungo zomtshato, nobabini nithembise ukwenza kanye loo nto.
Yonke imitshato ineminyaka elungileyo kunye neminyaka emibi. Abantu abaninzi abaqolileyo bayayiqonda loo nto kwaye bazimisele ukumelana noqhwithela lolwalamano olonakeleyo. Ngokwe-Strategist yoBomi uRenee Teller, uchaza ubudlelwane obubi xa iingxaki ezivela kubo zibutshabalalisa ubomi bakho kunye nomsebenzi.
Uye wanika nezizathu eziqhelekileyo zonxibelelwano.
Imali
Uthando lwenza umhlaba ujikeleze, kodwa yimali egcina ukuba ungalahlwa ngelixa lijikeleza. Ukuba esi sibini sinengxaki zemali, kukho ithuba lokuba ubudlelwane bakho njengesibini buye baba yingxaki kwaye buba nzima.
Uxabiso
Abantu bakholelwa ukuba xa usebudlelwaneni, kufanele ukuba ibe yeyona nto iphambili ebomini besibini. Ukuba kukho ukungqubana phakathi kolo luvo kunye nenyani, kuya kubangela ubudlelwane obunobunzima.
Isimo sengqondo
Yonke into imalunga nesimo sengqondo. Impumelelo kuyo nayiphi na inzame yokwenyani ichaphazeleka kwisimo sakho sengqondo. Ubudlelwane bexesha elide abukho ngaphandle.
Ithemba
Ukuthembana, okanye endaweni yoko ilahleko okanye ukungabikho kwayo kubudlelwane kunokubonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi ezimbi ezinokuxina ubudlelwane. Iingxaki ezendele ekuthengeni (okanye ukusilela kwako) kububudenge kwaye kuyonakalisa. Kufana nokuhlala endlwini okanye kumakhadi, kwaye uhlala uvula ifeni.
Amaqabane ahlala kubudlelwane obunengxaki acacisa ubomi bawo ngengxaki ephambili anayo nokuba yimali, isimo sengqondo, okanye ukungabikho kokuthenjwa. Idala uninzi lweenkcazo zobudlelwane obunengxaki. Nangona kunjalo, ayitshintshi into yokuba iingxaki kubudlelwane babo zichaphazela kakubi ubomi babo bonke.
Chaza ubudlelwane obuxineneyo kwaye yintoni eyenza yahluke
Isibini ngasinye sineengxaki.
Kukho nezibini ezineengxaki kunye neengxabano yonke imihla. Nokuba ziphi na iingxaki zeengxaki, kwaye ayisiyonyani into yokuba akukho nanye okanye engazange ibe nayo. Ayisiyiyo le nto inika intsingiselo kulwalamano olunengxaki. Isibini sikwinkcazo yencwadi yesikhokelo sobudlelwane obunengxaki xa iingxaki zabo zabucala zigqithela kwezinye iindawo zobomi babo, nokuba bungakanani ubunzima bengxaki.
Kuxhomekeka kubantu ababandakanyekayo. Abantu abane-EQ ephezulu kunye nokomelela ngokweemvakalelo bayakwazi ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wabo kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla nokuba baneengxaki zobudlelwane. Kukho abanye abachitha ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yomlo nje ongenamsebenzi namaqabane abo.
Isibini esineengxaki zobudlelwane asithethi kuthi banolwalamano olonakeleyo, kodwa isibini esitshatileyo esineengxaki ngokuqinisekileyo sinengxaki.
Ingxaki yona ayinamsebenzi. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukusabela ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane ngalinye. Ngokwe-socialthinking.com, kukho uluhlu olubanzi lwempendulo kwindlela abantu abahlangabezana ngayo neengxaki zabo. Ubudlelwane obuxineneyo benzeka xa impendulo zakho kwimiba kubomi bakho obusondeleyo zidala ukungavisisani okutsha ngaphandle kobudlelwane.
Ayinamsebenzi nokuba unobangela uvela ngaphandle. Umzekelo, ngokukaRenee Teller, unobangela wokuqala wobudlelwane obubi yimali. Ubunzima bezezimali budala iingxaki kunye neqabane lakho kwaye zona, zona, zibangela iingxaki kwikhondo lomsebenzi wakho, zenza isangqa esikhohlakeleyo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba ubunzima obufanayo bezezimali benza ukuba ubudlelwane bube yingxaki, kodwa wena neqabane lakho anikuvumeli kuchaphazele ezinye izinto zobomi benu, (ngaphandle kwalezo zichaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo yimali) emva koko awunabudlelane bunzima.
Ukujamelana nolwalamano olubi
Owona mcimbi uphambili kubudlelwane obuxineneyo kukuba banotyekelo lokudala isiphumo sedomino nokwenza ingxaki kube nzima kakhulu ukusombulula. Njengesangqa esikhohlakeleyo kumzekelo ongentla, sinokudala ezazo iingxaki, kwaye ekugqibeleni siya kudlula umda kuninzi lwabantu.
Kungenxa yoko le nto iimeko ezinetyhefu ezinje ngobudlelwane obunobunzima kufuneka zijongiwe ngokukhawuleza. Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela onokuzikhupha ngayo.
Chonga unobangela wengxaki
Uluhlu oluvela kuRenee Teller lunceda kakhulu. Ukuba ingxaki ivela ngaphandle njengemali, izihlobo, okanye ikhondo lomsebenzi. Ukuhlasela ingxaki ngokuthe ngqo njengesibini.
Ukuba ingxaki inxulumene nesimo sengqondo, ukuthembana, kunye nezinye iimbono, ke cinga ukuthetha nomcebisi okanye wenze utshintsho olulungileyo ebomini bakho.
Sebenzani kunye kwisisombululo esisigxina
Abantu abatshatileyo abanolwalamano olufanelekileyo kufuneka bobabini bancedane. Kuyinyani ngokukodwa kule meko kuba ichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo amaqabane omabini. Nxibelelana kwaye uthathe inyathelo ngenyathelo, cela uncedo kubahlobo, kusapho, okanye kwiingcali ezinelayisensi.
Kukwakho neemeko ukuba ubudlelwane ngokwabo buyityhefu, ukuba isisombululo kukuba buchithakale. Lonke ukhetho luya kuba neziphumo ezihle nezingalunganga zexesha elifutshane. Ekunene kulapho izinto ziya kuba ngcono ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwaye ukubuyela umva ziinkxalabo zesibini.
Coca lo monakalo
Ubudlelwane obuxineneyo ngokwenkcazo ngumthombo wezinye iingxaki. Ezo ngxaki zamahlumela kufuneka zisonjululwe zodwa, okanye zinokubuya zize ziphinde zinxunguphale ubudlelwane kwakhona.
Nokuba uphele kunye okanye wahlukene phakathi, qiniseka ukuba ujongana nezinye iingxaki ubudlelwane bakho obuxineneyo obudalwe kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho.
Ulwalamano olugciniweyo zezinye zezinto ebomini ezingafanelekanga ukuhoywa. Ezinye iingxaki ziyaphela xa ungazihoyi. (njengenja yommelwane wakho ekhala ubusuku bonke ikwenza uphuthelwe bubuthongo) Uyabaqhela, babe yinxalenye yemvelaphi yakho. Ubomi buyaqhubeka. Ulwalamano oluqinileyo alufani nolo, kuya kufuneka ulungise kwangoko, okanye baya kudla isiqu sakho.