Umxholo
- Isitshixo esinye esiya kwenza okanye siphule amathuba akho okufumana uthando
- Uxinzelelo ukuthandana, ukuthandana inkulu
- Musa ukuthandana de wonwabe ngokugqithiseleyo
- Ukuqonda iimpawu zesithandwa esingasoze sisebenze kubo
- Kwaye esinye sezo zitshixo?
- Ukukhupha ingqumbo ngokuchasene nabathandi bangaphambili
Izigidi zamadoda nabafazi ngoku, zifuna uthando. Ukukhangela uthando. Kwaye uninzi lwazo luya kwenza impazamo efanayo naleyo bayenzayo kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Nokuba abazi ukuba benza iimpazamo ezinkulu kwilizwe lokuthandana.
Kule minyaka ingama-29 idlulileyo, umbhali oyena mntu uthengisa kakhulu, umcebisi kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi uDavid Essel ebenceda izigidi zabantu ukuba ziye kumkhondo olungileyo ukuze bafumane olona thando lunzulu.
Isitshixo esinye esiya kwenza okanye siphule amathuba akho okufumana uthando
Apha ngezantsi, uDavid uxoxa ngeyona nto iphambili eyahlulahlula into eya kuthi ichonge, ukuba awutshatanga ngoku ukuba uyalufumana uthando olukhangelayo, okanye hayi. “Kukho uxinzelelo olukhulu kuluntu ukuba bathandane.
Abasetyhini, ngakumbi, bayabhaptizwa mihla le ngamanqaku akwiimagazini, i-Intanethi, unomathotholo kunye nodliwanondlebe bethetha ukuba ungumfazi okhulileyo, ngaphandle kweqabane, kufanele ukuba ikhona into engalunganga kuwe.
Amadoda, amaxesha amaninzi, anokuluva uxinzelelo oluvela kumalungu osapho, kunye noogxa njengoko bejonga-jonga kwaye babone izibini ezibonakala ngathi zonwabile, okanye mhlawumbi ziqala iintsapho, kwaye thina njengamadoda siziva ngathi sisemva kwebhola esibhozo.
Uxinzelelo ukuthandana, ukuthandana inkulu
Ke uxinzelelo lokuthandana, ukuthandana, kwaye nokuba usapho lukhulu kakhulu, kangangokuba uninzi lwethu aluqondi ukuba senza impazamo enkulu enokuthintela ngokulula nawaphi na amathuba okuba nolwalamano olusempilweni nolonwabisayo kwikamva .
Kwaye yeyiphi eyona mpazamo inkulu, ukuba asitshintshi okwangoku, ngaba kuya kuqinisekisa ubomi obuzaliswe bubudlelwane obungaphantsi kwento esasiyithembile?
Musa ukuthandana de wonwabe ngokugqithiseleyo
Yile nto: akufuneki nanini na, sihlale sithandana de sonwabe kakhulu kukungatshati.
Yintoni eyenziwa ngabantu abaninzi xa bephela ubudlelwane? Bajonge ukutsiba baye kwenye into ukuthintela ukujonga ngaphakathi.
Ukuthintela ukujonga iindima zabo eziphindaphindayo ezonakalisa uthando ebomini babo.
Ukuqonda iimpawu zesithandwa esingasoze sisebenze kubo
Batsiba ngokukhawuleza ebhedini yomnye umntu, ukuze bangaziqondi iimpawu zesithandwa esingasokuze sibasebenzele. Kwaye iingxaki ngaphandle kokuba uyacothisa kwaye ufumane indlela yokuzibonela ngeempazamo zakho zangaphambili, kwaye kwangaxeshanye ukufumana indlela eya kulonwabo lodwa, uthando aluyi kuba lulutho.
Kwinoveli yethu entsha yokuthandana eyimfihlakalo ebizwa ngokuba yi "Angel on a surfboard: A novelistic romance novel ehlola izitshixo zothando olunzulu", sixoxa ngezitshixo ezintandathu eziphambili ekufuneka sonke siziqonde ukuze sakhe ubudlelwane obunzulu, obunothando.
Kwaye esinye sezo zitshixo?
Elinye lamaqhosha kukuba kufuneka sifunde ukonwaba kakhulu, ngaphambi kokuba sibuyele kwilizwe lokuthandana.
Kule ndawo inomdla kunye ne-roller coaster, inoveli ekhokelayo uSandy Tavish, ingcali kwezolwalamano ekwafuna izitshixo zothando olunzulu ekusenokwenzeka ukuba waphoswa xa ebhala incwadi yakhe kwiziqithi zaseHawaii, udibana nomfazi osele esidla umhlala phantsi intle kakhulu, kodwa ijade kakhulu xa kufikwa kumadoda nakwilizwe lokuthandana.
Nokuba unobuhle bonke, uphatha amabala entweni eyenzeke ngaphambili, emgcina ekule meko yokungonwabi, kunye nokuzithemba ngokubhekisele emadodeni nakubudlelwane.
Kwincoko yabo elunxwemeni, uSandy wamchazela ngokubaluleka kokuthatha ixesha lokuphumla, kunye nokwenza ubomi obonwabisayo ngelixa singatshatanga, ukuze sitsalane nomnye umntu ongatshatanga kwaye okonwaba ngakumbi kunye nabo kwilizwe lokungatshati .
Kuthatha kancinci ukukhuthazwa nguSandy ukufumana lo mfazi uthathe umhlala phantsi, uJenn, ebhodini nefilosofi yakhe kodwa ekupheleni kwencwadi uyabubona ubulumko obushunyayelwa nguSandy.
Ukukhupha ingqumbo ngokuchasene nabathandi bangaphambili
Kukwakho nezinye izitshixo ezintlanu ezibaluleke ngokumangalisayo kuthando olunzulu esizijongayo kule ncwadi inomdla, kodwa kwabo bangatshatanga ngoku abafunda eli nqaku, akukho nto ibaluleke njengokunciphisa isantya, ukusebenza nengcali ukukhupha ingqumbo yakho kubathandi bangaphambili, kwaye emva koko sidale ubomi obonwabisayo obunamandla ngoku.
Kuphela kuxa sonwabile kakhulu nathi njengomntu ongatshatanga, apho sinokuthi ngokwenene sinikezele ngolwalamano olulandelayo yonke into esinayo ngokubhekisele kwizipho zethu, iitalente, nothando.
Ke ngoku, ukuba awutshatanga, cothisa isantya kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kweli nqaku.
Kule minyaka ingama-30 idlulileyo ndincede amawaka abantu ukuba balandele le nkqubo besiyichazile ngasentla, kwaye bonwabe ngokungaphaya ngaphandle kweqabane, ukuze ekugqibeleni bafumane olo lwalamano luzalisekayo uninzi lwethu ebomini.
Kufanelekile umsebenzi. Kufanelekile ukuba ube nomonde. Kwaye kufanelekile ukuba ungatshatanga ixesha elide kude ufumane indlela edibanisa ulonwabo kunye nokungatshati.