Iimpawu ezingama-20 ukuBudlelwane boKhuphiswano

Umxholo

• Buyintoni ubudlelwane bokhuphiswano?
• Ukhuphiswano vs.intsebenziswano kubudlelwane
• Ngaba ukhuphiswano lusempilweni kubudlelwane?
• Iimpawu ezingama-20 ukhuphisana neqabane lakho
• Ndiyeka njani ukukhuphisana neqabane lam?
• Zeziphi iindlela zokujongana neqabane elikhuphisanayo?
• Yise kude

Zininzi izinto ezinokukhokelela kubudlelwane obungenampilo okanye obunobungozi. Enye yezi zinto kukhuphiswano kakhulu.

Ukufunda ngemiqondiso yokhuphiswano kubudlelwane kunye nendlela yokuyeka ukukhuphisana kunokukunceda ukuba uphucule ubudlelwane bakho nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo okanye uphephe ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo kwixesha elizayo.

Buyintoni ubudlelwane bokhuphiswano?

Ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo benzeka xa abantu ababini kubudlelwane bekhuphisana ngokwenene, befuna ukuphumelela okanye ukuba ngcono kunenye, endaweni yokusebenza njengeqela.

Olunye ukhuphiswano lokudlala, njengokucela umngeni kwiqabane lakho kugqatso okanye kumdlalo webhodi, alunabungozi, kodwa ukuba ukhuphisana ngokwenyani nomlingane wakho kwaye awufuni ukuba baphumelele, usenokuba lixhoba lemigibe ubudlelwane bokukhuphisana.

Ubudlelwane bokukhuphisana buhamba ngaphaya kokhuphiswano olusempilweni, noludlalayo. Abantu kubudlelwane bokukhuphisana bahlala bezama ukugcina kunye namaqabane abo, kwaye ekugqibeleni baziva bengakhuselekanga.

Ukhuphiswano vs.intsebenziswano kubudlelwane

Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo, obonwabisayo kubandakanya intsebenziswano apho abantu ababini bemanyene ngaphambili kunye neqela lokwenyani. Xa omnye wabo ephumelela, omnye uyonwaba kwaye uyamxhasa.

Kwelinye icala, umahluko kubudlelwane bokukhuphisana kukuba abo bantu babini kubudlelwane abenzi ntsebenziswano. Endaweni yoko, bayakhuphisana, bakhuphisana namaqela aphikisayo.

Iimpawu ezikhuphisanayo kubudlelwane zibandakanya ukuzama ukogqitha iqabane lakho, ukuziva unemincili xa iqabane lakho lisilele, kunye nokufumanisa ukuba unomona xa bephumelela.

Ngaba ukhuphiswano lusempilweni kubudlelwane?

Izibini ezikhuphisanayo zisenokuzibuza ukuba ukhuphiswano kubudlelwane luphilile na. Ngokufutshane, impendulo ithi hayi. Ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo buhlala buvela kwindawo yokungazithembi kunye nomona.

Ngokutsho kweengcali, ukukhuphisana kakhulu kukhokelela kwinzondo kubudlelwane. Ngokhuphiswano, amaqabane ajongana njengabakhweli. Rhoqo, ukhuphiswano kukufuna ukubona ukuba ngubani onokuphucula ngakumbi amandla okanye amandla ngaphakathi kwemisebenzi yabo.

Kuba ukhuphiswano luvela kwindawo yomona, ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo bunokuba nobutshaba xa elinye iqabane libona ukuba elinye liqhuba ngcono okanye linento elingenayo- ukuziva ulutshaba okanye inzondo kwiqabane lakho kuba ukukhuphisana kakhulu akunampilo.

Kukho ezinye izinto ezingenampilo zokukhuphisana kakhulu kubudlelwane. Umzekelo, xa kubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo, abantu banokuqhayisa okanye bagcule amaqabane abo xa besiva ukuba bayaphumelela, nto leyo enokubangela ukwenzakala kunye nokuxabana.

Ukhuphiswano aluyongozi kwaye alunampilo; Ngamanye amaxesha, inokusetyenziswa gadalala. Ukuba iqabane lakho liziva likhuphisana nawe, banokuzama ukukulawula, ukukuxhaphaza, okanye ukoyise impumelelo yakho ukuze bakhuthaze impumelelo yabo okanye bazive bengaphezulu.

Ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo bunokubangela ukubeka phantsi okanye ukuthotywa omnye nomnye, onokuthi uwele umgca ekuxhatshazweni ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane.

Kwividiyo engezantsi, uSigne M. Hegestand uxoxa ngendlela abantu abathandana ngayo ababa lixhoba ngayo njengoko bengazibekeli mida kwaye benotyekelo lokufaka ngaphakathi uxhatshazo, oko kukuthi, bafuna inkcazo kubo ukuba kutheni isenzekile endaweni yokugxeka umenzi.

Iimpawu ezingama-20 ukhuphisana neqabane lakho

Kuba ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo abukho sempilweni kwaye bunokukhokelela kwiingxaki zobudlelwane, kubalulekile ukuqaphela imiqondiso yokuba wena neqabane lakho nikhuphisana kakhulu.

Le miqondiso ingama-20 ilandelayo yokhuphiswano iphakamisa ukuba uku ubudlelwane obunokhuphiswano:

1. Awonwabanga xa iqabane lakho liphumelela kwinto ethile. Endaweni yokubhiyozela impumelelo yeqabane lakho, ukuba ukhuphisana kakhulu, unokuziva unomona kwaye mhlawumbi unentiyo okanye ungazithembi xa iqabane lakho liphumeza into, njengokufumana unyuselo okanye ukuphumelela ibhaso.
   
2. Ngokufana nomqondiso wokugqibela, uyakufumana ukuba nomsindo xa iqabane lakho lisenza into entle.
   
3. Kuba uziva unomsindo kwaye ucaphukile xa iqabane lakho liphumelela, ungaqala ukuba nethemba lokuba baya kusilela.
   
4. Uziva unesidingo "sokunyusa" iqabane lakho kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi.
   
5. Uyabhiyozela ngasese xa iqabane lakho lisilele kwinto ethile.
   
6. Xa iqabane lakho liphumelela emsebenzini ophakathi kwendawo yamandla okanye yobuchule, uqala ukuzithandabuza kunye namandla akho.
   
7. Uziva ngathi xa iqabane lakho lenza into kakuhle, iitalente zakho ziyancipha.
   
8. Kubonakala ngathi wena neqabane lakho anikho kwiphepha elinye, kwaye nithanda ukwenza izinto ezininzi ngokwahlukeneyo.
   
9. Ufumanisa ukuba wena neqabane lakho nigcina amanqaku kuyo yonke into, ukusukela ngubani owenze imali engaphezulu kunyaka ophelileyo ukuya kugijimisela abantwana ithuba lokuziqhelanisa nebhola kwinyanga ephelileyo.
   
10. Ngelixa ungonwabi xa iqabane lakho liphumelela ukuba ukhuphisana kakhulu, ungabona ukuba iqabane lakho alonwabanga ngawe xa ufeze into nokuba yeyiphi. Ngapha koko, iqabane lakho linokuyijongela phantsi impumelelo yakho, usebenze ngokungathi ayisiyonto enkulu.
    
11. Iqabane lakho linokukwenza uzive unetyala ngokusebenza iiyure ezongezelelweyo okanye ukubeka into akholelwa ukuba lixesha elininzi kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi. Oku kuhlala kungenxa yomona okanye ingqumbo ngempumelelo yakho yomsebenzi.
    
12. Olunye lweempawu ezikhuphisanayo kukuba wena neqabane lakho ninokuqala ngokwenzakalisana, nisenza izinto ukunqanda omnye komnye ukuba aphumelele.
    
13. Ukuba ukhuphisana kakhulu, wena okanye iqabane lakho ninokwenza izinto ukuze nibe nomona. Umzekelo, unokuqhayisa ngempumelelo yakho okanye uthethe ngendlela umhlobo wakho ancoma ngayo ukunyuselwa kwakho emsebenzini.
    
14. Kubonakala ngathi wena neqabane lakho nihlala nijongana ngeziphoso zomnye nomnye, hayi ngendlela yokugxeka okwakhayo, kodwa endaweni yokuba wenzakalise iimvakalelo zomnye nomnye.
    
15. Ubudlelwane bunokubandakanya ubuxoki okanye iimfihlo kuba uyoyika ukuxelela iqabane lakho xa usilele kwinto ethile. Ukongeza, unokuzibaxa izinto ozenzileyo ukuze ubonakale ungaphezulu.
    
16. Iqabane lakho liqhayisa kuwe xa umntu onomtsalane edlala ngabo okanye encoma inkangeleko yalo, okanye uziva isidingo sokuvuya kwiqabane lakho xa omnye umntu edlala ngawe.
    
17. Endaweni yokuzama ukufikelela kulungelelwaniso xa kukho ukungaboni ngasonye, ​​wena neqabane lakho nilwela ukuphumelela. Awunawo umnqweno wokuza kwisivumelwano njengeqela, kodwa endaweni yoko, ngumdlalo ongaphezulu, apho omnye umntu ephulukana, kwaye omnye aphumelele.
    
18. Ngokufana nophawu lwangaphambili, ukhuphisana kakhulu, wena neqabane lakho ninokufumanisa ukuba aninakho ukufikelela kwisivumelwano. Wena okanye iqabane lakho, okanye mhlawumbi nobabini, nifuna ukuba nayo yonke into ngokwemiqathango yenu endaweni yokuhlangana phakathi.
    
19. Umlingane wakho ubonakala ecaphukile kunokuba onwabe kuwe xa ubaxelela malunga nokufezekiswa emsebenzini okanye usuku oluhle obenalo.
    
20. Wena okanye iqabane lakho nenza iinzame zokulawula okanye ukulawula enye.

Ezi mpawu zingasentla zokhuphiswano ziiflegi ezibomvu wena okanye ezinye zakho ezibalulekileyo ziyakhuphisana kakhulu kwaye kufuneka zenze utshintsho.

Ndiyeka njani ukukhuphisana neqabane lam?

Kuba ubudlelwane obukhuphisanayo bunokuba sempilweni kwaye bonakalise, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde indlela yokujongana nokhuphiswano.

Inyathelo lokuqala lokoyisa ukhuphiswano kubudlelwane kukufumana umthombo walo.

• Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukukhuphisana kakhulu kusisiphumo sokungazithembi. Ke, ukuqala ukoyisa ukhuphiswano kufuna ukuba incoko ijikeleze ukuba kutheni wena okanye iqabane lakho niziva ninganqabisekanga. Mhlawumbi unexhala lokuba xa iqabane lakho liphumelela kwinto ethile, impumelelo yakho kwikhondo lomsebenzi ayinantsingiselo. Okanye, mhlawumbi ukhathazekile ukuba umyeni wakho unonxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo nabantwana bakho, awusenguye umama olungileyo.

Nje ukuba ufumanise ezona zinto zibangela ukuba ukhuphisane kakhulu, wena neqabane lakho ninokuthatha amanyathelo okuyeka ukhuphiswano.

• Yiba nencoko kunye neqabane lakho malunga nendawo nganye yamandla kunye nobuthathaka, ukuze ke uqiniseke ukuba nobabini ninetalente.
• Endaweni yokuzama ukuthoba impumelelo yeqabane lakho okanye ukubadlula, ninokwenza isivumelwano kunye nokujolisa kwiindawo zakho zamandla. Qaphela ukuba ngamnye kuni uya kuba negalelo kulwalamano ngandlela thile.
• Unako kwakhona ukuhambisa umqhubi wakho wokhuphiswano kwiindawo ezifanelekileyo ngakumbi. Umzekelo, endaweni yokukhuphisana, iingcali zicebisa ukuba nikhuphisane kunye, njengeqela, ukuze nibe nobambiswano oluyimpumelelo.
• Xa usonakalisa impumelelo yeqabane lakho ngenxa yokuba ukhuphisana kakhulu, umzekelo, uyabenzakalisa ubudlelwane. Endaweni yoko, yiphinde engqondweni le nto kwaye ujonge impumelelo yeqabane lakho njengoko injalo nempumelelo yakho okoko ukweliqela leqabane lakho.
• Nje ukuba umisele imeko yobambiswano kubudlelwane bakho, ungaqala ukuya phambili ukusuka kumonakalo wokukhuphisana kakhulu. Yenza umgudu wokuncoma iqabane lakho, uvakalise umbulelo ngento abayenzele yona, kwaye ubhiyozele impumelelo yabo kunye nabo.
• Unokwenza umzamo wokuba liqabane elixhasayo, elifuna ukuba ube novelwano kwiqabane lakho, uzame ukuqonda imbono yakhe, kwaye uxhase amaphupha eqabane lakho. Eminye imiba yokuba liqabane elixhasayo kubandakanya ukuthatha ixesha lokumamela ngokwenene iqabane lakho, ukuba luncedo, nokuthathela ingqalelo iimfuno zeqabane lakho.

Zeziphi iindlela zokujongana neqabane elikhuphisanayo?

Ukuba uziva ukuba wenze umzamo wokuyeka ukukhuphisana kakhulu kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa iqabane lakho liyaqhubeka nokukhuphisana, usenokuzibuza ukuba ungenza ntoni ngokujongana neqabane elikhuphisanayo okanye iqabane lakho.

• Unxibelelwano ngumba ophambili kwezi meko. Ukuhlala phantsi uxoxe neqabane lakho, ukuba ukukhuphisana kakhulu kukwenza uzive kunganceda ukuphucula imeko. Amathuba kukuba iqabane lakho liziva lingakhuselekanga, kwaye ingxoxo enyanisekileyo inokuyilungisa le meko. Ukuba ukuxoxa ngokunyanisekileyo akuncedi iqabane lakho ukuba lifunde ukuyeka ukukhuphisana kubudlelwane, nobabini ninokuxhamla kwingcebiso yesi sibini.

• Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo kufuneka bube ngabantu ababini abajonga njengeqela, bahloniphane, kwaye baxhasane amathemba namaphupha abo. Ukuba iqabane lakho liyaqhubeka nokukhuphisana kakhulu emva kokuba uzame ukulungisa le meko, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uhambe kude nolwalamano ukuba uziva ungonwabanga.

Yise kude

Abalingani abanokhuphiswano omnye nomnye abajongi njengamaqabane kodwa bajonge njengabakhuphisanayo.

Ukuba uqala ukuqaphela le miqondiso yokukhuphisana kakhulu kubudlelwane bakho, ungayisombulula le meko ngokuba nencoko ethembekileyo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye ulujonge njengeqela elinye njengawe.

Ukusuka apho, ungaqala ukwenza iinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo kwaye ujonge kumandla ngamnye kuni azisa kubudlelwane.

Ekugqibeleni, ukulahla ukhuphiswano kubudlelwane kubenza babe sempilweni ngakumbi kwaye kwenza ukuba ilungu ngalinye lobudlelwane lonwabe. Xa abantu ababini kubudlelwane bayeka ukujongana njengabakhweli kwaye baqala ukubonana njengabalingani beqela, kulula ukubhiyozela impumelelo yomnye nomnye kuba impumelelo yomntu ikwathetha impumelelo kulwalamano.