Umxholo
- Funda ukunxibelelana ngokwahlukileyo
- Funda ukucela uxolo
- Khumbula izinto ezintle malunga neqabane lakho
- Fumana into oyithandayo uze uyenze
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo luza kubona umcebisi ebuza: "Ndingawenza njani umtshato wam ube ngcono?" Kwaye uninzi, ngelishwa, luza emva kwexesha kakhulu, kakhulu emva kokuba ubudlelwane sele bonakaliswe bubukrakra obungapheliyo, iingxabano kunye nenzondo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka usebenze ekuthinteleni izinto zingahambi kude kwaye uzalisekise utshintsho olulula kodwa olubalulekileyo oluya kuwenza ngcono umtshato wakho kwangoko.
Funda ukunxibelelana ngokwahlukileyo
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abatshatileyo babelana ngobuthathaka obubi-abakwazi ukunxibelelana kakuhle. Oku akuthethi ukuba ungoyena mntu unxibelelana ngokuthe gabalala. Unokuba yeyona nto imnandi nabahlobo bakho, abantwana, usapho, abantu osebenza nabo. Kodwa ihlala ikhona into ebangela ukuba kubekho impikiswano efanayo phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba ufunde indlela yokuthetha ngokwahlukileyo neqabane lakho. Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uthambise ibinzana lakho eliyintshayelelo (siyazi ukuba ikho enye, enje ngala "Awusoze ..."). Kuya kufuneka uphephe ukuzikhusela okanye ubundlongondlongo. Thetha nje njengabantu abadala ababini. Soloko ukunqanda ukugxeka; zama ukunika ukuqonda kwimbono yakho endaweni yoko, kwaye okona kubaluleke nangakumbi- zama ukuqonda nembono yeqabane lakho.
Qala ngokuqaphela iipateni kunxibelelwano lwakho. Ngubani oyena ubalaseleyo? Yintoni ebangela ukungxola? Yintoni etshintsha incoko eqhelekileyo ibe kukulwa kwekrele lamaxesha aphakathi? Ngoku, yintoni le nto unokuyenza ngokwahlukileyo? Ungazikhupha njani wena neqabane lakho ngaphandle kweziqwengana kwaye niqale ukuthetha njengabantu ababini abathandanayo?
Funda ukucela uxolo
Enye yezinto ezinokwakhela kwiingcebiso zangaphambili kukufunda indlela yokucela uxolo. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwethu alunakho kwaphela ukuxolisa ngokunyanisekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha siyangxola, kodwa kunqabile ukuba sikuthathele ingqalelo oko sixolisa ngako. Nangona uxolo olunyanzelisiweyo lusengcono kunokuba lungekho, kufuneka lube ngaphezulu kwamagama nje.
Isizathu sokuba sikufumanise kunzima ukuxolisa kungenxa ye-egos yethu. Abanye basenokuthi siyakonwabela ukwenzakaliswa nokwenzakalisa abanye kuba sizuza okuthile kuwo.Kodwa ke, nokuba asikho kangako njengabagxeki, sonke singavuma ukuba ukuthi "ndiyaxolisa" xa uziva ngathi amalungelo akho enzakalisiwe kunokuba yeyona nto inzima emhlabeni.
Ukanti, kuninzi lwempikiswano emtshatweni, omabini amaqabane kufuneka acele uxolo, kuba bobabini bathanda ukwenzakala kwaye bobabini bathanda ukwenzakalisa omnye. Nina ningamaqabane obomi, iqela, kwaye hayi iintshaba. Ukuba uyaxolisa ngovelwano kunye nokuqonda kwendlela izenzo zakho ezililimaze ngayo elinye icala, into eyenzekayo kukuba iqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo liya kuthi gqi kweso sihlandlo sokuwisa iingalo zabo kwaye babuyele kuthando kunye nokukhathalela kwakhona.
Khumbula izinto ezintle malunga neqabane lakho
Amaxesha amaninzi, xa sihlala kubudlelwane ixesha elide siyalibala ukuba ibijongeka njani ekuqaleni. Okanye sigqwetha imbonakalo yethu yokuqala yeqabane lethu kwaye siphumelele kukudana: "Uhleli enjalo, andikaze ndiyibone". Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba iyinyani, okuchaseneyo kunokuba kuchanekile- emva koko sabona okuhle nokuhle kwiqabane lethu, saze sakulibala apha endleleni. Siyeke ingqumbo ithathe indawo.
Okanye, sinokuba semtshatweni ophelelwe yintlantsi. Asiziva sinomsindo okanye ukungathandeki, kodwa asikuva ukuthanda kwaye nentabatheko kwakhona. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza umtshato wakho usebenze kwaye uzise ulonwabo kuni nobabini, qala ukukhumbula. Khumbula ukuba kutheni uthandane nomyeni wakho okanye umfazi wakho kwasekuqaleni. Ewe, ezinye izinto zisenokuba zitshintshile, okanye ubunethemba lokuba ngelo xesha, kodwa kwelinye icala, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho izinto ezininzi olibele ngazo.
Fumana into oyithandayo uze uyenze
Enye yezinto ezingahambelaniyo malunga nobudlelwane kukuba kokukhona sikwazi ukulawula, kokukhona siya kuba ngamaqabane angcono. Oko akuthethi ukugcina iimfihlo okanye ukungathembeki nokunganyaniseki, hayi kwaphela! Kodwa oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokugcina ukuzimela kunye nokunyaniseka.
Uninzi lwethu luzama ukuba ngabalingane abalungileyo abanokuthi babe ngabo ngokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo iindlela zabo nokunikezela onke amandla abo emtshatweni. Nangona oku kuyancomeka ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, kukho inqaku apho uphulukana nawe kunye neqabane lakho nelahleko. Ke, fumana izinto othanda ukuzenza, wenze into oyithandayo, sebenza ngamaphupha akho kwaye wabelane ngamava akho neqabane lakho lobomi. Khumbula, iqabane lakho lithandane nawe, ke qhubeka ube nguwe!