Umxholo
- Izizathu zomtshato ovulekileyo
- Imithetho ephantsi yolwalamano oluvulekileyo
- Nxiba ukhuseleko ngalo lonke ixesha
- Yigcine iyimfihlo
- Musa ukuphatha abantu besithathu njengezinto ezilahlwayo
- Gcina izithembiso zakho
Uninzi lwabantu lunokubuza, yintoni umtshato ovulekileyo phofu?
Kutheni utshata konke konke xa ungafuni ukuba neentlobano zesini kuphela neqabane lakho?
Ukuba awuqondi, sukungena kwenye.
Musa ukugweba abo bakwenzayo. Abanye abantu batshata ngemali, abanye benezikhewu zeminyaka engama-40, kwaye kusekho imitshato elungiselelwe ukufumana inzuzo yezopolitiko.
Yinto eyenzekayo, phila nayo, okanye ungayenzi. Nceda ungachithi ixesha lakho ucinga ngezinto ezenziwa ngabanye abantu ngobomi babo.
Ukuba unomdla kwimitshato evulekileyo, umtshato ophumeleleyo ovulekileyo uxhomekeke elubala. Amakhadi avuliwe kwasekuqaleni. Okwangoku ubudlelwane buba nzulu, ukuba ufuna umtshato ovulekileyo, vula isihloko kwangoko.
Ukuba awuveli kubudlelwane obuvulekileyo obunempumelelo, kuya kuba yintlungu ukuyitshintsha ibe yenye.
Izizathu zomtshato ovulekileyo
Uninzi lwabantu lucinga ukuba abantu bayatshata ukuze babenalo iqabane elinye ngonaphakade. Inyani yile, awudingi ukutshata ukuze uhlale unyanisekile komnye umntu, kwaye bahlala benyanisekile kuwe. Abantu batshata ngokwasemthethweni kweentshukumo zosapho kunye nokukhulisa abantwana.
Imitshato evulekileyo iya kwi-mumbo jumbo esemthethweni yomanyano lwaseburhulumenteni, kodwa ivumela iqabane ngalinye, ngemvume yabo, ukuba babenemicimbi engaphandle komtshato.
Babanga ukuba ukungafihlisi kunye nokuthembela okubandakanyeka kwimitshato evulekileyo kubetha abo bakwisithethe sendabuko. Ngumxholo ophikisanayo, ke siya kuwushiya apho.
Abantu abakwimitshato evulekileyo nabo bathi ubomi babo bobulili bunamandla kwaye abuze buguge. Ikwavula amathuba okuba ngamashumi amathathu kunye nezinto ezinje.
Kulula ukubona nokuqonda izibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga zomtshato ovulekileyo. Akukho sidingo sokuxoxa ngale nto. Masibuyele kumxholo osondeleyo, yeyiphi imigaqo yomtshato evulekileyo kunye nendlela yokuphumelela.
Jonga kwakhona:
Imithetho ephantsi yolwalamano oluvulekileyo
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ukuba awunabo ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo, ungaze ucinge ngemitshato evulekileyo. Imitshato evulekileyo imigaqo iyafana nobudlelwane obuvulekileyo. Uhlala nje phantsi kophahla olunye kwaye nokhuseleko lwentlalo oludibeneyo.
Nyaniseka kumacala omabini
Ukuba ulwalamano oluvulekileyo, kwaye iqabane lakho likuvumela ukuba ube neentlobano zesini nabanye, umntu wesithathu naye kufuneka alazi eli lungiselelo.
Kuya kufuneka bazi ukuba badlala ivili lesithathu, kwaye unomdla kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kodwa hayi obubi.
Ukusukela abanye kwaye ubanike umbono wothando, ukuthandana, kunye nokonwaba ngonaphakade kunokuba nako ukwenza ikamva. Kusekho ukungathembeki kwimitshato evulekileyo. Kulapho uqala ukuxoka malunga nobudlelwane bakho nelinye iqela.
Imigaqo yobudlelwane evulekileyo ibeka ugxininiso ekuthembekeni nasekuhleni. Qiniseka ukuba uxoxa ngayo yonke into neqabane lakho kwaye nigwebe inqanaba labo lokuthuthuzela.
Nxiba ukhuseleko ngalo lonke ixesha
Ukulala nabanye kuyonwabisa kwaye kuyanelisa. Ukuba unemvume ecacileyo yokwenza, iyawususa umngcipheko wokonakalisa umtshato wakho ngenxa yako. Nangona kunjalo, ayingowona mngcipheko ubandakanyekileyo xa ulala nabanye.
Kukho ii-STD kunye nokukhulelwa. Nciphisa obu bungozi ngokunxiba ukhuseleko ngalo lonke ixesha.
Unokuba nayo imvume yokwabelana ngesondo, kodwa ukuba yonakalisa impilo yakho okanye unabantwana ongafunekiyo ngaphandle komtshato, izinto zinokungahambi kwicala obucebe ngalo.
Yigcine iyimfihlo
Kungenxa yokuba wena neqabane lakho nikhululekile kubudlelwane bakho bezesondo, oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu okujikelezile, kubandakanya nabahlobo bakho abathembekileyo kunye nosapho, baya kuqonda. Ukuhleba akunakuncedakala, kodwa ukubanika isizathu sokujolisa kuwe kukungakhathali kunye nokumosha amandla.
Kukwafuna nokuzichaza kuwo wonke umntu omkhathaleleyo. Oko kubandakanya abantwana abadala kunye nabazali bakho, abanokungavumelani nendlela ophila ngayo.
Ikwanokunika wonke umntu omnye umbono wokuba ekubeni ulala ngesondo ngokukhululekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulale nomntu wonke. Ngokucacileyo, ayonyani leyo. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukuchitha iintsuku zakho ukwala inkqubela phambili evela kwabo bangaphumeleliyo.
Musa ukuphatha abantu besithathu njengezinto ezilahlwayo
Zininzi izinto ezingekhoyo malunga nemitshato evulekileyo.
Amagqwetha athi ziintsomi, kodwa inyaniso iphakathi nendawo. Imitshato yesiNtu nevulekileyo imalunga nokuthembana, unxibelelwano, ukuqonda, ukunyamezelana, kunye nenjongo efanayo.
Zombini ezi ntlobo zemitshato zineziseko ezifanayo ezenziweyo nezingqinwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ngaba umtshato ovulekileyo uyasebenza? Ewe bayenza. Ukuba awujongi kwindawo evulekileyo kwaye usebenza nzima emtshatweni.
Bubambiswano, njengabo bonke ubuhlakani obukhethekileyo, kufuneka usebenze nzima ukuze uqhubeke usebenza kakuhle. Ukuwaphatha kakuhle onke amaqabane kuya kubanceda ukuba basebenzisane ngakumbi kunye nokuqonda imeko. Inokubathintela ekudaleni iingxaki kwixa elizayo.
Gcina izithembiso zakho
Imithetho evulekileyo yomtshato ayenzelwanga ukuba yaphulwe. Unemvume yokuba nolwalamano olusenyongweni nabanye, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ungalihoya iqabane lakho eliphambili.
Ukuba nomtshato ovulekileyo usemtshatweni. Usahamba uhambo lwakho lobomi kunye neqabane elinye. Awuhlali nje kuphela ulala kunye.
Beka iqabane lakho phambili ngokungathi utshatile ngokwesiko. Kungenxa yokuba unokuba namanye amaqabane, oko akuthethi ukuba ungathandana nabo kwisikhumbuzo seqabane lakho. Oko akuthethi ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabanye xa usenza neqabane lakho.
Ukuba kumtshato ovulekileyo kuthetha ukuba kusafuneka uzalisekise zonke izibophelelo zakho zomtshato. Iphepha-mvume lokuba namanye amaqabane alithethi ukuba ubenalo lonke ixesha.
Kunokuba nzima ukucinga ukuba ungavula njani umtshato. Inene ilula. Phinda kabini umyeni / inkosikazi onokuba kuyo kwiqabane lakho.
Kuya kufuneka uhlawule ngaphezulu ngokungabikho kwesondo kuphela. Kungenxa yoko le nto abameli bebango lokuba bengamaqabane angcono ebhedini. Bazama ngokungazenzisiyo ukukholisa amaqabane abo ngokuziphatha kwabo okubi.
Ifomula yomtshato ophumeleleyo uyafana nomtshato wesintu.
Yenza eyakho indima, uthembeke, uthembane, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukugcina iqabane lakho lonwabile. Akukho ngcebiso ivulekileyo yobudlelwane. Akukho mithetho ikhethekileyo yomtshato evulekileyo. Indlela yokuba nolwalamano oluvulekileyo ngempumelelo kwaye ihlala ikho malunga nokuthembana, ukwenza izinto elubala, kunye nokuzalisekisa indima yakho njengeqabane elinothando.