Umxholo
- Ungawuthintela njani umtshato wakho ekubeni unenze uxinezeleke
- Yamkelani kwaye niqondane
- Phila okwangoku
- Phefumla nanini na ufuna
- Fumana iankile yakho
Kulabo bantu banengxaki yoxinzelelo, unyaka wokuqala womtshato unokuba mhle kakhulu.
Nditsho nabantu abangafane bazive benxunguphele, banokuyiphucula imizuzwana ngaphambi kokuba bathi "ndiyayenza". Abantu bathi unyaka wokuqala womtshato ngowona udinisayo onokubangela abanye abantu ukuba boyike. Ukuphumelela kunyaka wokuqala womtshato kubandakanya imiceli mngeni, kodwa ayisiyonto yoyikisayo ukubetha!
Ungawuthintela njani umtshato wakho ekubeni unenze uxinezeleke
Ukulawula uxinzelelo akusoloko kuyinto elula ukuyenza kodwa nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo ezinokukunceda ukulawula eyakho kunyaka wokuqala womtshato nangaphaya.
Yamkelani kwaye niqondane
Kutheni le nto unyaka wokuqala womtshato unzima kakhulu?
Uninzi lwabantu luyoyika ukwaliwa ebomini, abanye bacinga ukuba xa betshata amaqabane abo aya kuqonda ukuba benze impazamo kwaye uza kubashiya.
Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi.
Iqabane lakho likutshatile kuba nguwe umntu abafuna ukuchitha bonke ubomi balo kunye naye.
Bayazamkela iimpawu zakho ezintle nezingalunganga, amandla akho, iimpazamo zakho, izinto ozithandayo, nezinto ongazithandiyo. Bayakuthanda, bayakuxabisa, bayakuthanda umntu opheleleyo. Ukuqonda oku kuya kukunceda ujongane noxinzelelo lwasemva komtshato ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukuba uziva ungakhuselekanga ngayo, hamba uye wabelane ngamathandabuzo kunye neenkxalabo kunye nabo ngoku. Bavumele ukuba baqonde indlela oziva ngayo ngale nto intsha. Ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba baya kukuxelela kwaye bakuqinisekise ukuba bamthanda kangakanani umntu ophambi kwabo (kwaye loo mntu nguwe).
Akukho mfuneko yokuthandabuza, akukho sidingo sokukhathazeka, yonke into izakulunga.
Phila okwangoku
Kutheni emhlabeni ukhathazeka ngekamva neqabane lakho?
Kutheni ucinga ngento eza kwenzeka ngomso, kwinyanga ezayo, kunyaka ukusukela ngoku, nakwiminyaka emihlanu ukusukela ngoku? Kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuphila ngalo mzuzu, ngoku, ngoku. Kuya kufuneka ukonwabele ixesha onalo neqabane lakho ngoku, ungalichithi ngokuzixhalabisa ngokuba uza kuba nalo elo xesha kamva.
Leliphi elona nyathelo libaluleke kakhulu ekulawuleni ixhala lomtshato?
Yeka iingcinga ezingalunganga onazo, uyeke uloyiko lokuphulukana nazo.
Awuyi kuphulukana nazo.
Enye yeengcebiso zokungabikho koxinzelelo kunyaka wokuqala womtshato kukukhupha konke ephepheni.
Bhala iingcinga ezingalunganga ephepheni, ukubhala okungalunganga, nayo yonke into kwaye uya kulikrazula elo phepha libe ngamaqhekeza amancinci ukuze ungabinakho ukufunda nokuba leliphi igama ozibhalileyo.
Yeka ukukhathazeka ngekamva, yeka ukuziva ungonwabanga malunga nexesha elidlulileyo, phila nje ngoku, kwaye ube nombulelo ngokuba unolunye usuku emhlabeni.
Phefumla nanini na ufuna
Ukuba ukumbutho okanye ipati yosapho kwaye uqala ukungaziva mnandi kwaye isifuba sakho siziva sinzima, khumbula ukuphefumlela ngaphakathi kwaye uphefumle amandla amabi.
Nanini na xa uzibhaqa ucinga kakubi ngekamva, yeka, uphefumle kwaye uqhubeke nosuku lwakho.
Yenza imithambo yokuphefumla nanini na xa uqala ukuba novalo kakhulu, okanye nanini na xa uza kuzama into entsha, okanye uqonde ukuba into inokuba yinto entle yokuxhalaba. Nangona ukuphefumla kuyinto esiyenzayo ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kuhlala kulungile ukuyikhumbula ngamanye amaxesha, xa kufuneka njalo.
Phefumlela ngaphakathi. Phefumlela ngaphandle. Ngoku ungaqhubeka nosuku lwakho.
Khumbula ukuba ungamthemba umntu wakho
Umlingane wakho ukhona kuwe nanini na xa ufuna. Ungathetha nabo ngayo nantoni na, ubaxelele indlela oziva ngayo, wabelane ngeengcinga zakho, amathandabuzo amaxhala akho. Baxelele yonke into.
Baza kukunceda, bakuthuthuzele, babe lapho ukulungiselela wena. Baza kukuqonda. Baza kuhlala bekuthanda!
Ukuba unexhala lokuba bangayeka ukukuthanda, uphazamile. Abayi kuyeka ukukuthanda ukuba wabelana nabo ngokwenzekayo ngaphakathi engqondweni yakho.
Ngaba ucinga ukuba ukufihla oku kubo kuya kwenza izinto zibengcono?
Abayi kuba ngcono de ubaxelele ngokwenzekayo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba woyike. Baza kukuqonda kwaye baya kuhlala bekuthanda. Yeka ukubeka ezo ngcinga zingalunganga entlokweni yakho, zinokuzenzakalisa.
Fumana iankile yakho
I-anchor yile nto okanye loo mntu ingqondo yakho ibuyela kuye, ukukunceda ugcine iinyawo zakho emhlabeni. Nanini na xa uzibhaqa ucinga izinto ezingakhiyo ezingakukhuthazi, kwaye ezingakulungelanga, kwangoko cinga nge-ankile yakho.
Le ankile ingangunyoko, uyihlo, iqabane lakho, umhlobo wakho osenyongweni, nokuba yinja yakho.
Inokuba nguye nabani na omthembileyo kwaye uyazi ukuba ucinga ngazo kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono kwangoko. Unyaka wokuqala weengxaki zomtshato unokuphelisa, yiyo loo nto i-ankile ethembekileyo inyanzelekile.
I-ankile yakho ikwenzela ukuba uzive ugxile, ukukwenza uzive ulungile.
Akukho nto imbi iya kwenzeka xa une-ankile yakho engqondweni. I-ankile yakho iya kugcina iinyawo zakho emhlabeni, ingqondo yakho igxile kwaye uloyiko lwakho aluyi kubakho ndawo.
Ixhala kunyaka wokuqala womtshato akukho lula ukujongana nawo, kodwa ukuba uyakholelwa kuwe, izinto ziya kuba lula.