Umxholo
- 1. Ukungabikho komdla
- 2. Ukungabikho komdla kwisini
- 3. Ukudibana kwi-Intanethi
- 6. Iipateni zokuziphatha
- Ikhosi yexesha elizayo lezenzo
Ngaba unayo into ekukrokrelayo ekwenza ubuze - "Ngaba umyeni wam uyathandana?" Mhlawumbi une-alamu yentsimbi ekhalayo maxa wambi okanye uqaphele iimpawu ezimbalwa ekuziphatheni kwakhe ezikunike izizathu zokukhathazeka kwaye ubuze ngesondo sakhe.
Ukuba unombono konke konke ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, kunokukunceda ukuba wazi ezi mpawu zintandathu zinokubonisa ukuba umyeni wakho ulifanasini.
1. Ukungabikho komdla
Xa ekulo mzuzu kunye nawe, ungumatshini kwaye akabonakali enomdla okanye enomdla nakweziphi na izinto zangaphambili. Kwakhona, oku kunokubangelwa zezinye izinto ngokunjalo, kodwa kungabakho ukuba umyeni wakho ulifanasini.
2. Ukungabikho komdla kwisini
Imicimbi ephathelene nomnqweno wesini sodwa ayisiyomqondiso oqinisekileyo womyeni wakho ukuba ulifanasini, kodwa abasetyhini abaxela ukuba abayeni babo baguquke ukuba ngabantu abathandanayo bahlala besithi yile nto bayiqapheleyo kuqala.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umyeni wakho uyasokola ukufumana umdla okanye ukuzibandakanya kwisini ukongeza kwezinye zeempawu ezixutyushwe apha, kunokwenzeka ukuba urhano lwakho luchanekile.
Kodwa khumbula, zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni ukwabelana ngesondo emtshatweni kungaphantsi kokwanelisa, ngaphandle kwento yokuba umyeni wakho abe sisitabane.
3. Ukudibana kwi-Intanethi
Wazi njani ukuba umyeni wakho ulifanasini? Ukuba indlela oziphatha ngayo iqabane lakho iyakukhathaza, i-intanethi yindawo efanelekileyo yokufumana inyaniso.
I-Intanethi yenze kwalula kubantu abakhangela ulwazi malunga nabanye. Imbali yakhe yokukhangela inokukunika umfanekiso ocacileyo kwaye inokuba sesinye sezibonakaliso ezininzi zomyeni wakho.
- Ifowuni yakhe okanye imbali yokukhangela kwikhompyuter ihlala 'icocekile.'
- Ukuvela kwamanyala amanyala kuvele kwikhompyuter ayisebenzisayo, nangona esithi akananto yakwenza nayo.
- Abaqhagamshelwa bakhe kwimidiya yoluntu abaqhelekanga kwaye bagcwele abantu, okanye abahlobo abatsha ongabaziyo ukuba ubazi njani kwaye uninzi lwazo lufanasini.
- Uneprofayili kwindawo yokuthandana nesini.
Inqaku lokugqibela lolunye lweempawu ezibonisa ukuba umyeni wakho ulifanasini. Akunakulindeleka ukuba, ukuba iqabane lakho lithe tye, uya kufuna ukubeka umfanekiso wakhe kunye nolwazi kwindawo yokuthandana nesini.
6. Iipateni zokuziphatha
Kuya kubakho imiqondiso yokuba umyeni wakho ulifanasini njengeendlela zakhe zokuziphatha, ngakumbi ngokubhekisele kwamanye amadoda athandana namanye amadoda. Zimbalwa iimpawu ezibonakalayo zomlingani wakho kubandakanya oku kulandelayo-
- Utyelela imivalo yamafanasini rhoqo nangona ezakubanga ukuba ulapho nje ukuze azonwabise nabahlobo bakhe abathandanayo.
- Ubukele okanye ubonakala ekhululekile ukubukela iphonografi kunye nemiboniso yamadoda athandana namanye.
- Kubonakala ngathi uyakuvuyela ukunconywa ngabantu abathandanayo.
- Uthetha kakhulu malunga nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandanayo kwincoko- ngaphezulu kwesiqhelo.
- Unokubonakala ngathi uyathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye kwaye wenza izimvo ezininzi malunga nabantu abathandana besini esinye ngendlela egculelayo.
- Awumboni ukuba ujonga abanye abantu basetyhini.
- Umqaphele ukuba ujonge amanye amadoda.
- Udibana namehlo nenye indoda ebonakala ngathi ihlala ixesha elide.
- Uphuma kwindlela yakhe ukukhupha i-pals yakhe.
- Uqala ngezinto ezenziwa ngabantu bakhe apho banokuhamba ze kunye njengokungena kwi-sauna okanye ibhafu eshushu.
- Ukhathazeka kakhulu ngesini sabanye.
Ewe, eminye yale mizekelo inokubonisa ezinye iimeko okanye iingxaki emtshatweni, okanye kwinto eqhelekileyo yesiqhelo yendoda ethe tye.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqaphela uninzi lwemiqondiso, kunokubakho ngaphezulu kule meko kunokuba umyeni wakho angathanda ukuba ukholelwe. Le yimiqondiso yokuba iqabane lakho li-gay kwaye akukho gumbi lokuthandabuza ngakumbi.
Ikhosi yexesha elizayo lezenzo
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuba umyeni wakho ebekufihlele utyekelo lwesini, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba usegumbini kwaye akayazi indlela yokuphuma eze kuwe okanye komnye umntu ebomini bakhe. Akululanga ukuba uzakhele ubomi ngeenjongo ezilungileyo ngoku okufumanisa kunzima ukubugcina.
Xa uzibuza imibuzo enje, 'ndingazi njani ukuba umyeni wam ulifanasini?', Kuya kufuneka ujonge iqabane lakho ngokusondeleyo kwaye ujonge iimpawu ezinokubakho kwindlela yakhe yokuziphatha nakwindlela yakhe. Kwaye, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umyeni wakho ulifanasini, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuhlala phantsi uthethe naye.
Inokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo into yokuba angayiphika into yokuba ulifanasini kwasekuqaleni, ngaphandle kokukunika iimpendulo ezonelisayo kwimibuzo yakho.
Ukuba uzifumana ukuloo meko, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo ngento obungathanda ukuyenza. Ukuba unokuhlala emtshatweni apho uqinisekile ukuba umyeni wakho angathandana nesini, ezinye iingcebiso zakho zinokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngale ndlela ukuze ufumane indlela elungileyo eya phambili.
Ukuba umyeni wakho uyayivuma into yokuba ulifanasini, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akakhethanga obu bomi ukuba buhlungu kuwe.
Ukugcina oko engqondweni, unokufumana ilahleko kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu oya kuyidinga ukuyenza, kodwa mhlawumbi unokufuna uncedo kunye nenkxaso okanye ingcebiso ukukunceda uhambe kule meko kunye, ngothando nobubele.
Ke, kwixa elizayo ukuba unamathandabuzo afanayo engqondweni, funda nje iqabane lakho, jonga iimbali zakhe zokukhangela kwaye ufumane ulwazi malunga nabahlobo bakhe kwaye uza kudibana neempawu zomyeni wakho. Nje ukuba ukuthandabuza kwakho kufezekiswe, kuya kufuneka ucwangcise ikhosi yakho elandelayo ngenyameko kuba le yimicimbi ethe-ethe efuna ukuhoywa ngononophelo.