Umxholo
- Ukugxekwa, kokubini okufihlakeleyo kunye nokufihla
- Amagqabantshintshi angathandekiyo malunga nantoni na iqabane liyonwabelayo
- Sebenzisa umsindo ukoyikisa
- Sebenzisa izoyikiso zokukhohlisa iqabane lakhe
- Sebenzisa ukuthula njengamandla
- Abahlukumezi ngamazwi bafuna ukukwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba uyaphambana
- Ukukhanyela
Xa abantu besiva igama "ukuphathwa gadalala," bahlala benxibelelana neli gama nobundlobongela. Kodwa kukho olunye uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa, olo alubandakanyi naziphi na iintlungu zomzimba: ukuphathwa gadalala. Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi akunakukwenzakalisa emzimbeni, kodwa umonakalo onokubangelwa yingqondo nangokweemvakalelo unokutshabalalisa indlela ubani azibona ngayo. Yintoni ukuphathwa gadalala?
Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi kuxa umntu esebenzisa ulwimi ukukhathaza omnye. Kubudlelwane, kuhlala kungumlingani oyindoda othetha gadalala, kodwa ke kukho abantu ababhinqileyo, abathukayo, ngokunjalo, nangona oku kunqabile. Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi “kukufihlwa” xa kuthelekiswa nokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni njengoko kungashiyi zimpawu zibonakalayo. Kodwa ukuphathwa gadalala kunokuba yingozi, njengoko kususa imeko yexhoba lokuzithemba, ukuzixabisa, kwaye ekugqibeleni umbono wabo wokwenyani.
Ngokusisiseko, ukuphathwa gadalala kusetyenziswa ulwimi ukweyisela umntu ukuba ubunyani njengoko becinga ukuba bayazi ukuba bubuxoki, kwaye kuphela ngumbono womxhaphazi wobunyani oyinyani. Ukuxhatshazwa ngomlomo kunzima kwaye kunefuthe. Umxhaphazi usebenzisa le ndlela yokuxhatshazwa ngokufihlakeleyo kaninzi-ninzi ukuze aphule imvakalelo yokwenyani yeqabane lakhe ukuze alilawule.
Umhlukumezi uya kusebenzisa ezi ndlela zilandelayo ukwenzakalisa nokulawula ixhoba lakhe:
Ukugxekwa, kokubini okufihlakeleyo kunye nokufihla
Abahlukumezi ngamazwi basebenzisa ukugxeka ukugcina ixhoba labo likwimeko yokuthandabuza ukuzixabisa kwabo. "Awusoze uyiqonde leya miyalelo, mandibeke ndawonye le khabhinethi" ngumzekelo wokugxekwa ngokufihlakeleyo. Kwimeko apho, umhlukumezi akathethi ngokungqalileyo ukuba iqabane lakhe lisisiyatha, kodwa thintela oko ngokungavumeli iqabane labo ukuba lenze iprojekthi ngokwabo.
Abahlukumezi ngamazwi akukho ngaphaya kokusebenzisa ukugxeka okuvulekileyo, nabo, kodwa kunqabile ukuba bayenze esidlangalaleni. Emva kweengcango ezivaliweyo, abayi kuthandabuza ukubiza amagama amaqabane abo, ukwenza intetho malunga nokubonakala komzimba wabo kunye nokuqhubeka bebeka phantsi. Unobangela woku kuxhatshazwa kukugcina iqabane kulawulo lwakhe, kwaye ungabavumeli ukuba bacinge ukuba banako ukushiya ubudlelwane. Engqondweni yexhoba, akakho omnye umntu onokubathanda ngenxa yokuba bekholelwa xa umxhaphazi ebaxelela ukuba bazizidenge, abaxabisekanga kwaye abathandeki.
Amagqabantshintshi angathandekiyo malunga nantoni na iqabane liyonwabelayo
Xa engagxeki iqabane lakhe, umhlukumezi uya kunyelisa nantoni na ebalulekileyo kwixhoba. Oku kunokubandakanya inkolo, imvelaphi yobuhlanga, ukuzonwabisa, ukuzonwabisa okanye ukuthanda izinto. Umenzi wobubi uya kugxeka abahlobo kunye nosapho lwexhoba kwaye abaxelele ukuba akufuneki bazidibanise nabo. Konke oku kuvela kwimfuno yokuzahlula iqabane elixhaphazayo ngamazwi kwimithombo yangaphandle ukuze iqabane labo lixhomekeke ngakumbi ngakumbi kubo. Injongo kukusika ixhoba kulo naluphi na uvuyo okanye uthando ngaphandle kwabo, ukuqhubeka nokwenza ulawulo olupheleleyo.
Sebenzisa umsindo ukoyikisa
Umntu othetha rhabaxa uyakhawuleza ukuba nomsindo kwaye uya kungxola nokuthukisa ixhoba xa ecatshukisiwe. Akukho ndlela zonxibelelwano zisempilweni ezisetyenziselwa ukusombulula iimbambano njengoko umxhaphazi engayiqondi indlela yokusebenzisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki. Abahlukumezi bahamba ukusuka kwi-zero ukuya kumashumi amathandathu kwimizuzwana engama-30, bemka kwimizamo yeqabane lokuthetha ngokuvakalayo. Ngokwenyani, umxhaphazi ngamazwi usebenzisa ukukhwaza ukuphelisa naluphi na uhlobo lwenzame efanelekileyo yokufumana imiba yobudlelwane. Yindlela yabo okanye uhola wendlela. Okukhokelela kwinkcazo elandelayo yokuxhatshazwa ngamazwi:
Sebenzisa izoyikiso zokukhohlisa iqabane lakhe
Umhlukumezi akafuni kuliva icala lexhoba kwaye uya kuyinqumlela ingcaciso yabo ngesoyikiso. “Ukuba awuvaleli ngoku, ndiza kuhamba!” Umxhaphazi uyakusebenzisa izoyikiso ukomeleza ezinye iindlela zempatho gadalala, ezinje ngokufuna ukuba ukhethe phakathi kwabo nosapho lwakho, “okanye kungenjalo”! Ukuba uziva ukuba ucinga ngokushiya ubudlelwane, uyakoyikisa ngokukuvalela ngaphandle kwendlu / athathe abantwana / afrize yonke impahla ukuze ungangeni kwiiakhawunti zebhanki. Umntu okuphatha gadalala ufuna uphile phantsi koloyiko, ukuxhomekeka nokuba sesichengeni.
Sebenzisa ukuthula njengamandla
Umhlukumezi uya kusebenzisa ukuthula njengendlela “yokohlwaya” iqabane. Ngokubabandisa, baya kulinda ixhoba ukuba lize kungqiba. “Ndicela uthethe nam,” ngamagama axhokonxwa ngumxhaphazi lowo. Banokuhamba ixesha elide bengakhange bathethe ukuze babonise amaqabane abo ukuba banamandla kangakanani kubudlelwane.
Abahlukumezi ngamazwi bafuna ukukwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba uyaphambana
Kwinjongo yabo yokufumana ulawulo phezu kwakho, baya "kukukhanyisa". Ukuba bayakulibala ukwenza umsebenzi obubacele ukuba bawenze, baya kukuxelela ukuba awuzange ubabuze, ukuba kufuneka "ube mdala kwaye ubuthathaka".
Ukukhanyela
Abahlukumezi ngamazwi baya kuthetha into ebuhlungu, kwaye xa ubatsalela umnxeba, khanyela ukuba ibiyinjongo yabo leyo. Baza kulususa uxanduva kuwe, besithi "awuwaqondanga" okanye "kwakuthethwa njengehlaya kodwa awunangqondo."
Ngoku ukuba unoluvo olucacileyo lokuba kukuphi na ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi, ingaba uyayichonga into ebhalwe apha? Ukuba kunjalo, nceda ufune uncedo kunyango okanye indawo yokuhlala yabasetyhini. Ufanele ukuba kubudlelwane nomntu ophilileyo, onothando, hayi umntu okuhlukumezayo. Nceda wenze ngoku. Intlalontle yakho ixhomekeke kuyo.