Umxholo
- Kutheni kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo ulale unomsindo
- 1. Ukugcwala yimvakalelo
- 2. Ukugxekwa nokukhalaza
- 3. Omnye wenu ufuna indawo yokwenza
Ngelixa uninzi luthanda ukuthintela ungquzulwano ngazo zonke iindleko, ungquzulwano lobudlelwane unako ngokwenene bonelela ngamathuba okufunda ngakumbi malunga neemfuno zomnye nomnye kwaye uvumele izibini ukuba zisondele.
Ngelixa uzama ukusombulula imiba yobudlelwane kubalulekile, kubalulekile ukuba izibini ziyabona xa ungquzulwano lungenako kwaye akufuneki isonjululwe e mzuzu omnye uzisiwe. Kwaye, kutheni ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ulale unomsindo.
Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka "uyihlambe phantsi kwetyali" nangayiphi na indlela.
Nazi iimeko apho kusebenza khona Ukusonjululwa kwembambano akunakwenzeka kwaye nobabini kufuneka nivumelane "ukuyibeka eshelufini" kwaye nibuyele kuyo xa ninokuba nencoko efanelekileyo enokuthi ivumele ukumamela okusebenzayo kunye nezisombululo.
Endaweni yokucinga ngayo njengokulala unomsindo, yibekele ngathi uza kulala nezinto ezingasonjululwanga ebusuku. Kuyaqondakala ukuba uya kubuya ukusombulula ingxaki ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Kutheni kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo ulale unomsindo
Nazi iimpawu ezintathu okanye izizathu zokuba uyokulala unomsindo kwaye yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano lwakho ukuba "ulubeke endaweni yalo" ebusuku -
1. Ukugcwala yimvakalelo
Omnye okanye nina nobabini nizele ngamanzi.
Izikhukula ngokweemvakalelo kuxa yuxakeke ziimvakalelo ukuya kwinqanaba apho awunakho ukuzilawula. Ingakhokelela kwiimpawu zomzimba ezinje ngokunyuka kwenqanaba lentliziyo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, uvalo, kunye nempendulo yokulwa okanye yokubaleka.
Umkhukula unokubangela ukukhubazeka, ukucima, ukukhupha, ukugubungela ngamatye, okanye ukuqhuma. Phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba umamele ngenkuthalo okanye ufumane ukuqonda xa unogumbe.
Ukuzama ukwenza njalo akunamsebenzi kwaye kuyadinisa.
Kubalulekile ukuba nobabini nizazi ukuze nazi xa umda weemvakalelo wencoko yababini ephucukileyo. Ukuzama ukusonjululwa kule meko kufana nokuzama ukuqhuba ngeemeko zenkungu ebusuku kunye nezibane zakho zangaphambili zikhanyisiwe.
Awuboni!
2. Ukugxekwa nokukhalaza
Ukugxekwa ingabonakala ngathi ukubizana ngokuba "ngamavila", "Ongenaluvelwano" okanye "ongakhathaliyo".
Eyona ndlela isebenzayo yokuphonononga umba kukubonisa inkxalabo, enje ngala: “Ndiziva ndingahlonitshwa xa ufika emva kwexesha ungakhange ufowune. Ingathetha lukhulu kum into yokuba uthumele umyalezo kwixesha elizayo. ”
Kwelinye icala, ukugxeka ("Uyingcwangu engacingeliyo!") Rhoqo kukhokelela kukhuseleko kwaye umjikelo okhohlakeleyo unokulandela. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba nithetha “omnye nomnye” kunokuba uthethe ku “kuya”, kuyavakala ukuba unqumame lomdlalo ungquzulanayo.
Nje ukuba ulawule iimvakalelo zakho, uqhubekeke nokuba zithini iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemfuno zakho, ukwimeko engcono yokuchaza inkxalabo kunokuba ugxeke.
3. Omnye wenu ufuna indawo yokwenza
Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho nicela indawo yokwenza le nto, eso sisizathu esaneleyo ukuba "siyibeke" okwangoku.
Ukunqumamisa incoko kunokuba kulunge kuni nobabini nokuba anikhukumi kakhulu ziimvakalelo.
Isithuba ingayi iyafuneka ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, ngaphandle kokufuna ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho. Ukulungiselela iimvakalelo, iingcinga, kunye nokufuna, abanye bafuna ixesha elininzi lokuziqhuba kunabanye. Isithuba sinokufuneka ukuze senze iingcinga zethu, iminqweno yethu kunye nentsingiselo yayo nantoni na ekuchasileyo.
Ikwavumela ukuba uphonononge ukusombulula umba onokubonakala ngathi.
Ngokufanelekileyo, ukuba usebenzisa le miqondiso mithathu ukumisela ukuba uza kuyenza nini kwaye nini, kufuneka uchithe amandla amancinci ngokweemvakalelo kwaye usombulule umba ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ubungekhe wenze njalo. Kwaye, yenye ye iziphumo ezisempilweni ye ndiyokulala ndinomsindo.
Unokuthintela umba ekubeni uqhubele phambili.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, ukukhetha "ukuyifaka eshelufini" kudala indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuchaza iimvakalelo zakho, ukuba nomdla kunye nokuqonda amava eqabane lakho kunye nokusombulula iingxaki.
Ukuphuma ixesha kukuphumelela!