Umxholo
- 1. Ubomi bekholeji abubobomi bokwenyani
- 2. Kunokubakho iimvelaphi ezohluke kakhulu
- 3. Abanye baye bathandana nolwalamano lwakho
- Amakhondo emisebenzi anokungahambelani
- 5. Ihlabathi yindawo enkulu
- Iingcebiso ezilungileyo
Umntu oqhelekileyo otshatayo namhlanje unengozi engama-40% yokuqhawula umtshato. Oku kuncinci kune-50% ekhutshiweyo, kodwa kukho izizathu zoku.
- Bambalwa abantu abatshatayo ngoku kunakwiminyaka edlulileyo
- Umyinge wama-50% umndilili - abantu kwimitshato yesibini banenqanaba lama-60% + loqhawulo-mtshato; kwaye ngemitshato yesithathu, iipesenti zanda ngakumbi.
Lilonke, kunzima ukumisela eyona pesenti yenqanaba loqhawulo-mtshato, kuba izinto ezininzi zibekwa kwicandelo ngalinye lophando. Kodwa inqaku yile: uqhawulo-mtshato yinto yokwenene, kwaye yenzeka rhoqo. Kutheni abantu beqhawula umtshato sisifundo kwezinye izifundo ezininzi.
Izibini ezininzi zifumana enye kwikholeji, kwaye obo budlelwane buphelela emtshatweni, rhoqo emva kokuthweswa isidanga, ukuba akunjalo ngaphambili. Baba yinxalenye uthando lwekholeji yothando amabali - inkwenkwe idibana nentombazana, inkwenkwe nentombazana yabelana ubomi bekholeji kunye, inkwenkwe nentombazana amabali amnandi othando ukubambelela kuyo, emva koko batshate inkwenkwe nentombazana.
Kodwa le mitshato iyinxalenye yezibalo, kwaye inokuphela kuqhawulo mtshato.
Ngelixa oku kungangakhange kubonakale kungumxholo othandana ngokumangalisayo, kukho izizathu zokungatshati nothando lwakho lwekholeji. Nazi ezintlanu ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe.
1. Ubomi bekholeji abubobomi bokwenyani
Kukho into engacacanga kunye nothando ngobomi beekholeji ngokubanzi. Abantwana bodwa kwaye banenkululeko abangazange babe nayo ngaphambili. Yonke inomdla kwaye intsha. Ukufumana ubudlelwane obutsha kule meko kukude kubudlelwane kwilizwe lokwenyani lokuba mdala. Kukho umbono ongenakuchukunyiswa yinyani. Udibana; nifunda kunye; nitya kunye; nilala kunye; kwaye ufumana iindlela zokwenza ukuba ezo zabelo zigqitywe, nisebenza kunye. Xa inyani yokuba mdala ibetha ngokwenene, izibini zinokufumanisa ukuba azijongani nayo ngendlela efanayo.
2. Kunokubakho iimvelaphi ezohluke kakhulu
Ikholeji, ngeendlela ezininzi, ilingana ngokulinganayo. Abafundi badibana bevela kwimvelaphi eyahlukeneyo "ngemithwalo" eyahlukeneyo. Ngexesha lekholeji, le "mpahla" ayibonisi lukhulu. Kodwa xa bephumile esikolweni, izibini ezinemvelaphi eyahlukileyo, amaxabiso kunye nezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zisenokungaphumeleli.
3. Abanye baye bathandana nolwalamano lwakho
Nisibini esihle. Wonke umntu ucinga ukuba ekugqibeleni uza kutshata. Usenokuba nokubhukisha, kodwa, hee, ukuba wonke umntu ucinga kulungile, nawe ke. Xa ususwe kuloo "nkcubeko," kwaye kwinyani yomtshato, izinto zikhangeleka zahluke kakhulu.
Amakhondo emisebenzi anokungahambelani
Ngelixa ulungiselela ikhondo lomsebenzi, ubandakanyeka kwizifundo zekhampasi, mhlawumbi uqeqesho. Lunjalo ke nothando lwakho. Liya kukuthatha phi elo khondo lomsebenzi? Iqabane lakho linokuba lijonge phambili ekwakheni "indlwane" kunye nobabini ekhaya ngokuhlwa ngokuhlwa, nisitya isidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye nichithe ubusuku kunye. Umsebenzi wakho unokuthetha ukuba uhamba kakhulu. Kwaye awufuni ukuyeka loo msebenzi ukuze ugcinwe ekhaya.
5. Ihlabathi yindawo enkulu
Nje ukuba uthweswe isidanga kwaye uqalise ubomi njengomntu omdala ngokwenene, uyakufumanisa ukuba baninzi abanye abantu kunye namaqela abantu ohambelana nabo kwaye ufuna ukwabelana ngobomi beentlalo. Unokuphulukana nomdla kolo thando kwikholeji ngokuthanda kwamalungu amatsha nalahlukileyo esini esahlukileyo owufumanisa unomdla ngakumbi kwaye kufanelekile kubomi bakho.
Iingcebiso ezilungileyo
Ukuba usekholejini kwaye uthandana, yinto entle leyo. Kodwa, kunokucetyiswa ukuba nobabini niphumelele kwaye ningene kwilizwe lokwenyani okwethutyana, ukubona ukuba uthando lwenu luyamelana nemiceli mngeni yokuba mdala. Mininzi iminyaka utshatile. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuphepha ukuqhawula umtshato kukuphepha umtshato kwasekuqaleni.