Umxholo
- Ukukhulisa umntwana ohlengahlengiswe kakuhle, qala uzilungelelanise
- Bafundise ukubaluleka kokwakha ubudlelwane
- Ezinye izinto azinakuthethathethana
- Abantwana abahlengahlengiswe kakuhle banobukrelekrele boMvakalelo
- Ukungaguquguquki yinto ephambili ekukhuliseni umntwana ohlengahlengiswe kakuhle
Iindlela zokuba ngumzali ziza zihambe namaxesha. Ukuba ubukho emhlabeni ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo, mhlawumbi ubonile uluhlu olwahlukileyo lweengcebiso, ukusuka kwiiklasikhi eziqinileyo ukuya kwi-looney ngokupheleleyo.
Yonke inkcubeko inemigaqo yayo ebekiweyo malunga neyona nto isebenzayo ukuvelisa umntwana ohlengahlengiswe kakuhle, njengoko lusenza lonke usapho. Kodwa iingcali zokukhulisa abantwana zibeke iseti yeengcebiso zokuba ngumzali ekunokwenzeka ukuba zincede abazali bakhulise abantwana abonwabileyo, abasempilweni kwaye abalungelelaniswe kakuhle. Ayisiyiyo le nto siyifunayo sonke kuluntu lwethu? Makhe sijonge kwezicebisayo.
Ukukhulisa umntwana ohlengahlengiswe kakuhle, qala uzilungelelanise
Akusiyo imfihlo yokuba elona thuba lilungileyo lomntwana wakho lokuba ngumntu okhulileyo ngokweemvakalelo, osebenza kakuhle ujikelezwe ngokufanayo. Ke qiniseka ukuba usebenze kwimicimbi yakho yobuntwana ngaphambi kokuba uqale usapho. Biza uncedo lwangaphandle, ukuba kukho imfuneko, ngohlobo lomcebisi okanye ugqirha wengqondo.
Uxinzelelo koomama kunokuba nefuthe elibi ebantwaneni babo, kubenze bazive bengakhuselekanga kwaye bengakhuselekanga.
Unetyala emntwaneni wakho ukuba abe ngumntu olungeleleneyo ngokwasemoyeni, nokuba ngumntu okhulile ngokomoya onokuba njalo njengoko ubakhokelela ekubeni babe ngabantu abadala. Unelungelo lokungabikho kwiintsuku, kunye neemeko ezimbi, kunjalo.
Qiniseka ukuba uchazela umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba ayinanto yakwenza nabo: "Umama unosuku olubi, kodwa izinto ziya kujongeka ngcono kusasa."
Bafundise ukubaluleka kokwakha ubudlelwane
Xa ubona abantwana ababini besilwa ebaleni, musa ukwahlukana nje uze ubohlwaye. Bafundise indlela yokulungisa izinto ngendlela enemveliso.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuthatha amandla ngakumbi ukuqala incoko malunga nokulunga kunye nokusesikweni, kunokuba ubayale nje ukuba bayeke ukulwa, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, indima yakho kukufundisa abantwana izakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo, ngakumbi xa ujongene nengxabano.
Uya kufuna ukumodareyitha oku nasekhaya. Xa wena neqabane lakho nisilwa, endaweni yokuphuma egumbini niyokukrokrela usuku lonke, bonisani, bantwana, ukuba kunjani ukuba nengxoxo efanelekileyo, nisebenza ngalo mbandela de omabini amaqela afumane isisombululo esifanelekileyo.
Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho bayakubona wena kunye neqabane lakho nixolisa omnye komnye kwaye niphuze nenze.
Esi sesinye sezifundo ezilungileyo abanokuzibona: ungquzulwano alusosigxina, kwaye into entle inokwenzeka xa kusonjululwa iingxaki.
Ezinye izinto azinakuthethathethana
Abantwana bafuna imida kunye nemida yokuziva bekhuselekile kwihlabathi labo. Ukuba umzali akaze anyanzelise ixesha lokulala, evumela umntwana ukuba athathe isigqibo sokuba ayokulala yedwa (le yayiyinto yokwenene ngexesha lamahippie), oku kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo nakwintlalo-ntle yomntwana.
Abakhulile ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazi ukuba ukulala ubusuku obubalulekileyo kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabo ke baya kukuxhaphaza oku ukuba awuqinanga kulo mda. Kuyafana neeshedyuli zokutya, ukuxubha amazinyo, ukushiya indawo yokudlala xa ilixesha lokugoduka. Abantwana baya kuzama ukuxoxa ngazo zonke ezi meko, kwaye ngumsebenzi wakho ukuhlala uqinile.
Kunzima ukuba ungazami ukukholisa umntwana wakho ngokunikezela kwiimfuno zakhe "kanye nje", kodwa xhathisa.
Ukuba bayabona ukuba banokukugoba, baya kuzama benze njalo ngaphezulu. Lo akuyomodeli ofuna ukubafundisa yona. Umbutho unemithetho efuna ukuhlonitshwa, kwaye nosapho lwakho inayo, nayo, ngendlela yemithetho. Ekugqibeleni uyamnceda umntwana wakho azive ekhuselekile ngokuma eqinile, ke musa ukuziva unetyala.
Abantwana abahlengahlengiswe kakuhle banobukrelekrele boMvakalelo
Nceda umntwana wakho enze oku ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezintathu ezilula xa umntwana wakho eziva enomsindo okanye enoxinzelelo: Uvelwano, ileyibhile kunye nokuQinisekiswa.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba usalile isicelo somntwana wakho sokutya ilekese ngaphambi kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. Unengxaki yokunyibilika:
Umntwana: “Ndifuna la lekese! Ndinike loo lekese! ”
Wena (ngelizwi eliphantsi): “Uyaphambana kuba ngekhe ubenayo ilekese ngoku. Kodwa sele sizokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa. Ndiyazi ukuba kuyakuphambanisa ukuba ulinde ide idessert ibe neelekese. Ndixelele ngale ndlela. ”
Umntwana: “Ewe, ndiyaphambana. Ndiyifuna nyani ilekese. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba ndingalinda kude kube semva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. ”
Uyabona ukuba kwenzeka ntoni? Umntwana uchonga ukuba unomsindo kwaye uyabulela ukuba uyivile loo nto. Ngewavele wathi “Akukho ilekese ngaphambi kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. Nguwo lo umthetho ”kodwa oko ngekwakungaphenduli iimvakalelo zomntwana. Xa uqinisekisa iimvakalelo zabo, ubabonisa ukuba yintoni ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, kwaye baya kuqhubeka bayimodeli.
Ukungaguquguquki yinto ephambili ekukhuliseni umntwana ohlengahlengiswe kakuhle
Sukuflip flop ngesiqhelo. Nokuba oko kuthetha ukushiya itheko lokuzalwa kwangethuba ukuze umntwana wakho alale.
Imihlaba yabo iqhuba ngcono ukuba uyayihlonipha ishedyuli engaguquguqukiyo kunye nabo. Njengemida, ukungaguquguquki kubenza bazive bekhuselekile kwaye beqinile; bafuna ukuqikelelwa kwezi zinto zemihla ngemihla zokuchukumisa. Ke amaxesha okutya, amaxesha okulala nawokulala onke abekwe elityeni; zibeke phambili ezi zinto.