Umxholo
Kukangaphi sijonga iirobhothi ebomini bethu? Ngaba kukhuselekile ukuqhuba isibane esibomvu? Kuthekani ngokukhanya okumthubi? Ngaba sinokunyanzela ukukhanya ukuba kujike kube luhlaza? Zenza ntoni irobhothi ngomtshato?
Indlela "yezibane zendlela" ekucebiseni ngaphambi komtshato ijongene nemicimbi kunye nezihloko uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abanamava ngalo emtshatweni wabo. Injongo kukuba bafundiswe kangangoko kwimiceli mngeni engaphambili ukuze bangabi yingxaki ukuba ziyenzeka okanye xa zisenzeka.
Ukuba uthando luyakhula kwaye luhlume, ngaba umtshato awudingi siseko silungileyo sokwenza oku? Isiseko solwazi, inyaniso, ukuzithemba, uthando kunye nokwamkelwa kuphucula kakhulu iingxaki zomtshato omde. Ukuba sikulungele ukujongana nemicimbi yethu phambi kokuba ibe yingxaki kwaye sithathe izigqibo malunga nokuba siyakwazi na ukwamkela okunokwenzeka, emva koko kuphela, ngale mfundo, siyakulungela ukuqhubela phambili siqinisekile ukuba lo mtshato uyakuhlala uhleli.
Ukunika ingqalelo kwiirobhothi
Kwindlela yezibane zendlela ukucebisa ngaphambi komtshato, sicinga ngezihloko ezingamashumi amabini ananye okanye imicimbi exhaphake kakhulu emtshatweni. Zezi:
- Ubudala,
- Isimo,
- Umsebenzi / Imfundo,
- Bantwana,
- Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi,
- Ukuzivocavoca / iMpilo,
- Ubuhlobo,
- Iinjongo,
- Abantu basebukhweni,
- Ingqibelelo,
- Ixesha lokonwaba,
- Indawo yokuhlala,
- Jonga / umtsalane,
- Imali, (esona sizathu sokuba abantu bahlukane)
- Ukuziphatha / isimilo,
- Ukuba ngumzali,
- Ezopolitiko,
- Inkolo,
- Ukwabelana ngesondo / ulwalamano
Iyacetyiswa Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato
Kule nkqubo, umntu ngamnye oza kuba liqabane lakhe ubonakalisa isihloko esinye ngexesha, umzekelo, "imali." Ndibeka uluhlu lwemibuzo eneenkcukacha malunga nesihloko esikhethiweyo. Emva koko umntu oza kuba liqabane wabelana ngesikhundla okanye umbono abecinga ukuba uza kulandela emva kokuba betshatile. Umlingane omameleyo akagwebi kodwa ubuza imibuzo kuphela, ukuba kukho imfuneko, ukuze acace malunga nokuba umntu wabo uza kuma phi.
Le asiyondawo yokuthethathethana ngezimvo. Injongo kukuthatha isigqibo sokuba oko bakuvayo kumaqabane abo malunga nesihloko esithile kwamkelekile kubo.
Nje ukuba umphulaphuli azive ukuba bayasiqonda ngokupheleleyo isimilo seqabane labo, ndiza kubacela ukuba banike inqanaba besebenzisa isikweko seerobhothi:
LUHLAZA kuthetha ukuba "ndiyayithanda into endiyivayo, kwaye andinangxaki kule ndlela yokusebenzisa imali> emtshatweni."
LUBHELU ukukhanya kuthetha ukuba "ndiyayithanda into endiyivayo kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba indlela endiza kutshata ngayo iza kwahluka emva kokuba sitshatile." Oku kuyingozi kakhulu — njengokuhamba nje ngokukhanya okutyheli. Unokuba ulungile, kodwa ????
BOMVU Ukukhanya kuthetha ukuba indlela yeqabane lakho elinokubakho kwesi sihloko ngumaphuli wentengiselwano. Uziva uchasene nezinto ezininzi ozivayo kwaye ungakufumanisa kunzima ukuba nako emtshatweni wakho.
Ixabiso eliqhelekileyo lomtshato
Nangona iindleko zengingqi zahluka kakhulu, umndilili weendleko zomtshato eMelika ziyenyuka. Ngokwe-www.costofwedding.com, umtshato eCamarillo, California, umzekelo, i-avareji yeedola ezingama-38, ezingama-245 nezibini apho zichitha phakathi kwe- $ 28, 684 kunye ne- $ 47,806. Kwaye oku kuhlala kungabandakanyi iindleko zekhefu lomtshato kunye nokunye ukongeza! Ngaba imali eninzi ichithwe emtshatweni, ingakanani imali echithwa emtshatweni? Nguwuphi obaluleke ngakumbi, umtshato okanye umtshato?
Ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sayo yonke imitshato ephela kuqhawulo-mtshato, kuyacaca ukuba akukho nzame zaneleyo ezityalwa emtshatweni. Kuthekani ukuba isibini sitshale imali elinganayo emtshatweni njengoko besenzile emtshatweni? Ngaba loo nto inokutshintsha iziphumo? Yintoni efunekayo ukuphucula iimeko zomtshato ezihlala zihleli “kude kuse ekufeni”? Ngaba luthando? Imali? Ukuhambelana? Okanye mhlawumbi yenye into? Sazi kangakanani malunga nomntu esikhetha ukutshata naye?
Rhoqo, izibini ezitshatayo ezithi ziqhawule umtshato zithi, "Utshintshile (yiyo loo nto) yiyo loo nto siqhawula umtshato." Ukuqukumbela kwabo kukuthi, "Sahlukana kwaye ngoku sohlukile." Kuyathakazelisa ukuba uninzi lwabantu luya kuvuma kwaye luqonde ukuba phantse wonke umntu wahlukile kumaqabane abo kususela kolunye ulwalamano lwabo, ke-ngaba abantu bayatshintsha ngokwenene? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. Kodwa ngaba sithathe ixesha lokumazi ngokwenene umntu esiza kutshata naye?
Okona kuncinci, ndicinga ukuba lixesha lokuba sixoxe kumanqanaba okuqala ocwangciso lomtshato ukwenza isicwangciso somsebenzi sokuchonga isiseko somtshato, sandise amathuba okuphumelela. Mhlawumbi ugxininiso olutsha kwinto ethethwa kukuganana kunokuba kufanelekile. Okwangoku kuninzi, ukuganana kuthetha "Siyathandana kwaye siza kuba nomtshato omnandi!" Kuthekani ngomtshato omkhulu? Ukuthembisana umtshato kuthetha ukuba “lelona thuba lam lokugqibela, elona thuba lilungileyo lokwenza konke okufuneka ndikwenze ukuze ndichonge izithako eziyimfuneko kwisiseko somtshato owomeleleyo.”
Eyona njongo iphambili yeNkqubo yezibane zeTrafikhi ayikokuqinisekisa ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bayatshata, kodwa endaweni yokuba ukuba bathathe isigqibo sokutshata nasemva kokuphonononga ezi zihloko zingamashumi amabini ananye, batshata bevule amehlo. Kumava am, le nkqubo inciphisa isidingo soqhawulo mtshato. Ngokwenza njalo, siphucula kakhulu amathuba okufumana ulwazi lokwenyani, inyani, ukuzithemba, uthando kunye nokwamkelwa.