Umxholo
- Isitayile esidlamkileyo sokunxibelelana ngomtshato
- Ukuzibandakanya kumatye anqabileyo kunye nokubaleka ngaphandle kwakho
- Ukutyhola ukuba ube yinto yolawulo
- Ukwala ukuya kunyango
- Isitayile sokunxibelelana nokungakhathali sikhuthaza ubutshaba
- Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphucula unxibelelwano
- Khawufane ucinge xa usitsho kwiqabane lakho, khawufane ucinge ukuba baya kusabela njani
- Thatha ixesha lokucinga ngempendulo efanelekileyo kwiqabane lakho
- Kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele
Ngaba iqabane lakho lingxamile? Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho ukwishumi elivisayo? Uninzi lwezinto endizokuzithetha apha zisebenza kumaqabane nakwishumi elivisayo.
Isitayile esidlamkileyo sokunxibelelana ngomtshato
Ngaba uziva ukhathazekile xa imibuzo yakho ebonakala isengqiqweni ingaphendulwa kwaye uzama ukunxibelelana kuthe cwaka? Ngaba uyabacaphukisa amandla abo okuguqula izinto ukuze okokuqala ibingumcimbi ojikeleze into abayenzileyo obufuna ukuxoxa nabo ngoku sele ingumsindo wakho?
Ukuba oku kuvakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba utshatele emntwini onesimbo esidlamkileyo sokunxibelelana ngomtshato.
Omnye umzekelo uya kuba kwimeko apho bakonile.
Umntu osebenzisa isitayile sonxibelelwano esinolwazelelelo unamandla angaqhelekanga okuba lixhoba.
Ukuzibandakanya kumatye anqabileyo kunye nokubaleka ngaphandle kwakho
Iqabane elinomtsalane linengcwangu linokuyivala ingxoxo ngokwala ukuphinda lixoxe ngezinto kwaye likubeke ityala xa, ngenxa yokudana, ulandela ingxabano.
Basenokuthi: Awusoze wazi ukuba uyeke nini-imibuzo yakho. ” Okanye “akukho nto unokuyithetha. Uhlala usenza oku. Ukhangela iingxaki. ”
Banokude babandakanyeke kwi-Stonewalling-ukwala ukuthetha nawe kwaye uphephe iinzame zakho zokuthetha nabo ngokuthi cwaka ngenzondo, kwaye bakuphephe. Isicatshulwa sakho asiphendulwa kangangeeyure okanye mhlawumbi asiphendulwa, banxibelelana kancinci, kwaye banokukubeka kunxibelelwano namanye amalungu osapho, njengabantwana bakho.
Ukutyhola ukuba ube yinto yolawulo
Banokuvuma ukwenza into, bangayenzi, kwaye xa ujongene nabo, banyanzelisa ukuba uyalawula.
Ke iindaba ezimbi kukuba unePassive-Aggressive Spouse.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kukho iindlela onokuthi uphucule ngazo ezakho iindlela zokunxibelelana nabo ukuze kuthintelwe umgibe ohlaselayo. Kubalulekile ukuba wandise ukuqonda kwakho kwipatheni yokungasebenzi kakuhle okukuyo neqabane lakho.
Ubundlongondlongo busekwe kulawulo.
Ngokunganxibelelanisi nangokubuyisela umva kule nto uyenzayo, bafumana amandla kwaye bayamelana nokudibana ngokungangqalanga.
Ukwala ukuya kunyango
Isiphumo seqabane elingonwabi kukuba baziva bekhathazekile, benomsindo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yokuphelelwa lithemba, bathetha ngokuqatha. Umcimbi wokuqala ulahlekile njengoko kugxilwe ngoku kukuziphatha okungalunganga.
Nali elona candelo lilungileyo: baya kuhlala benqaba ukuya kunyango. Xa bevuma, bayakwenza kuba baqinisekile ukuba ugqirha uya kukuxelela ukuba nguwe ongalunganga. Kwaye, ngelixesha niza nobabini kunikwa ingcebiso ngomtshato, uya kuba sele wenze iimpazamo ezimbalwa ekusebenzeni neqabane lakho elinengcwangu.
Isitayile sokunxibelelana nokungakhathali sikhuthaza ubutshaba
Ngokuqinisekileyo, nakweyiphi na ubudlelwane, omabini amaqela kufuneka athathe uxanduva ngemicimbi kubudlelwane babo. Kodwa, ikwayinxalenye yomjikelo wonxibelelwano ongenabuntu okhuthaza ubundlongondlongo kwabo, ikhefu kunxibelelwano, kunye nobutshaba kumaqabane abo.
Ke, kufuneka wenze ntoni?
Iqabane elisebenzisa amaqhinga okwenzakala kunzima kakhulu ukuqiqa nawo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, asinakho ukulawula abanye abantu, sinokuzilawula kuphela.
Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphucula unxibelelwano
Ke inyathelo lokuqala lokuphucula unxibelelwano lwakho nomntu onobukrwada kukufunda indlela yokuphendula kwaye ungaphenduli kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo. Ndiyazi, kunzima!
Kodwa ukuba uziqhelanisa nokunciphisa ukusebenza kwakho kwakhona xa ungekho engxakini okanye uphazamisekile, awuzukusebenza xa kukho ingxaki.
Ukungasebenzi kakuhle kuya kukunika amandla.
Xa ufumanisa ukuba ujongene nokuthula okanye ukuphepha kwiqabane lakho, thatha ithutyana uphefumle, kwaye uphonononge ngokwengqondo ukuba yeyiphi na indlela oqhele ukuthetha ngayo neqabane lakho.
Khawufane ucinge xa usitsho kwiqabane lakho, khawufane ucinge ukuba baya kusabela njani
Khawufane ucinge ukunyuka, ukungonwabi okwandayo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, khawuzibone uhamba ukhathazekile, udiniwe, kwaye ungonwabanga.
Ngoku zibuze, ukuba ungaya phambili kunye nesiqhelo, okanye kuyavakala ukuba uzolile, uthathe ixesha lakho ucinga ngempendulo efanelekileyo, kwaye uthathe indawo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, iqabane elinengcwangu linokuziva umgama owuthathileyo kwaye uza kusondela kuwe. Ayisebenzi rhoqo, kodwa sisicwangciso esingcono kakhulu kunakwimeko yesiqhelo yokunyuka, unxunguphalo, kunye nomgama othathwe liqabane lakho.
Thatha ixesha lokucinga ngempendulo efanelekileyo kwiqabane lakho
Yenza impendulo emfutshane kwaye uthethe ngendlela oziva ngayo.
Yazisa iqabane lakho ukuba uziva ukuba, njengesibini, nibambekile kunxibelelwano olungenakunceda. Thetha ngento eninokuyenza nobabini ukutshintsha loo nto.
Yazisa iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukuva malunga nokudana kwabo kuwe. Kunokwenzeka ukuba oku akunakunceda kakhulu, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho lingavumi ukuya kucetyiswa izibini.
Kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele
Ukuba iqabane lakho alizukuya kunyango kunye nawe, ndicebisa ukuba uhambe wedwa. Ndikwacebisa ukuba ndifunde ezinye zeencwadi ezilungileyo ezibhalwe ngabanyangi malunga nokujongana neqabane elingenalusini.
Kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele, unganikezeli ekusebenzeni kwakhona, kwaye usebenzise iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulwa, ngethemba ngenkxaso yonyango olulungileyo.