Umxholo
- 1. Kungcono okanye kubi
- 2. Ukudlala kwicala elinye
- 3. Nxibelelana
- 4. Ukunyanzelisa kumgangatho endaweni yobungakanani
- 5. Gcina iqinisekile
Iinkcukacha-manani zisibonisa ukuba ukonga umtshato kunye nokugcina ukoneliseka emtshatweni yeyona njongo inzima ukuyiphumeza. Ukuba nzima kangakanani loo msebenzi kuya kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo kuyadlalwa, kodwa kukho isizathu sokuba imitshato yoosomashishini ithathwa njengeyona inzima kwaye ingathembisi.
Kubonakala ngathi olu hlobo lokususa okungaqinisekanga nolungazinzanga luzisa iingxaki xa kufikwa ekufumaneni ulungelelwaniso phakathi "kobomi" kunye "nomsebenzi". Ngendlela eluncedo okanye hayi, enye ihlala ichaphazela enye. Zombini ezoshishino kunye nemitshato zizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kuluntu lwethu, ke sifuna ukuba babe negalelo omnye komnye ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo.
I-Harp Family Institute ijolise kule ngxaki ngokukodwa.Ngumsunguli, uTrisha Harp, unembono ethembisayo kwisifundo kunokuba sikwazi ukukuva. Into ayibonisayo kuphando lwakhe kukuba ne-88% yabaphenduli bathi bazokuphinda batshate, ngaphandle kwezinto abazaziyo ngoku ngomtshato nosomashishini.
Kukho iingcebiso, ukuba ziyalandelwa, zinokuphucula amathuba okuba olu hlobo lomtshato luwele kwicala elifanelekileyo leenkcukacha-manani.
1. Kungcono okanye kubi
Ukuthetha ngokuzekelisayo, umtshato ikwaluhlobo loshishino.
Zombini zifuna inqanaba eliphezulu lokuzinikezela kunye nokuzibophelela, kwaye uhambe namaxesha amnandi namabi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uzilungiselele zombini kwaye wenze ukuqonda ukuba ezo polarities zimbini zixhomekeke, kwaye indlela esijongana ngayo nomnye umisela indlela esiya kuyiphatha ngayo kwaye sisebenzise enye.
UTrisha Harp ubanga ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu kwizibini ezitshatileyo ukuba zabelane ngayo yonke into, kungekuphela nje oko kubonakala kuthembisa, kodwa kwanokulwa kunye nokusilela. Uthi iqabane liya kuhlala liziva ukuba izinto azihambi kakuhle, kwaye ukungazi kunokumenza aphazamiseke ngakumbi kwaye abe nexhala. Ucebisa ukungafihli njengeyona nto iphambili ekwakheni umonde kunye nokuthembana.
2. Ukudlala kwicala elinye
Nokuba bobabini abalingane ngoosomashishini okanye akunjalo, bangamalungu eqela elinye, kwaye eyona nto banokuyenza emtshatweni nakwishishini labo kukwenza ngaloo ndlela.
Indawo esingqongileyo, inefuthe elikhulu kuthi, ke inkxaso kunye noxabiso zibalulekile kwimpumelelo nganye. Uphando lukaHarp lubonise ukuba abo somashishini babelana ngeenjongo zabo, iimbono kunye nezicwangciso zexesha elide kunye namaqabane abo babonwabile kunabo bangakhange benze njalo. Nokuba iipesenti ezingama-98 zabo babelane ngeenjongo zosapho baxela ukuba basathandana namaqabane abo.
3. Nxibelelana
Sele sibonile ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukungafihli nto, kwaye ukuze kube njalo kufuneka ukuba uzibophelele kunxibelelwano olusemgangathweni, oluvulekileyo noluthembekileyo. Ukucacisa nokumamela ngokwenyani kungekuphela kwizicwangciso kunye nethemba, kodwa uloyiko kunye nokuthandabuza, kwaye ukuthetha nabo kuphela kwendlela yokwakha ubumbano, ukuqonda kunye nokuzithemba kumacala omabini.
Ukuhloniphana kunye nendlela ejolise kwisisombululo kwenza ukuba kube lula ukusombulula zonke iingxaki, kunciphise uxinzelelo, kwaye kwenza konke ukuwa babe sethubeni lokukhula nokukhula. Unxibelelwano olwakhayo lukhokelela kwingqondo ezolileyo, kwaye ingqondo ezolileyo yenza amanyathelo akrelekrele. Njengoko uTrisha Harp watsho, amaqabane kufuneka ahambisane ngokwasemoyeni nasengqondweni, kuba “sisiseko esiqinileyo salo nawuphi na umtshato”, utshilo.
4. Ukunyanzelisa kumgangatho endaweni yobungakanani
Ukurhweba ngamashishini kuhlala kuthabatha ixesha, kwaye sesinye sezizathu zokuba amaqabane amaninzi osomashishini akhalaze ngawo. Ukwenza indlela eya empumelelweni kungadinga ixesha elininzi kunye nomzamo kodwa, ukuba umntu unokulandela ingcebiso esele ichaziwe ngaphambili, ayinakuphinda ibonakalise ingxaki enkulu kangako.
Ukuziqonda ngokwakho sisidingo esomeleleyo kunye nokufezekiswa okubalulekileyo kuye wonke umntu, kwaye umtshato olungileyo wenza kwaye ukhuthaze omabini amacala ukuba alandele indlela yabo. Ixesha elininzi lasimahla elifumanekayo alinakuthetha lukhulu ukuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane aziva ethintelwe. Abantu abaziva bekhululekile ukulandela amaphupha abo kunye nokuthanda kwabo, abanika inkululeko komnye nomnye, bahlakulele kwaye babonise ukuxabisa amaqabane abo axhasayo, ngabo banokuthi bawonwabele ngokulula umtshato wabo, nokuba ishedyuli yabo icocekile kangakanani.
5. Gcina iqinisekile
Indlela esijonga ngayo izinto inefuthe elinamandla kumava esiza kuba nawo. Indlela yokuphila engazinzanga nengathandabuzekiyo njengoosomashishini inokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo njengengozi eqhubekayo, kodwa njengendawo esoloko izonwabisa nayo.
Njengoko uTrisha Harp abonakalisile kuthi, ukuba nethemba kunye nendlela elungileyo yokwenza ukuba amaqabane akwazi ukoyisa yonke imiceli mngeni kunye nobunzima olunokuthwala olu hlobo lomsebenzi.
Uushishino luyi-adventure ekhaliphileyo enokuthi ingazukuzihlawula ngobusuku, ke umonde kunye nokholo ngabancedisi ababalulekileyo apha endleleni.