Umxholo
- 1. Ndingamenza njani umntwana wam alale ngoxolo?
- 2. Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuhamba kuqeqesho lweembiza?
- 3. Kutheni abantwana bexoka kwaye ndingenza ntoni ngayo?
- 4. Ndithetha njani nabantwana bam ngesondo?
- 5. Ngaba abantwana kufuneka bafumane imali epokothweni?
- 6. Ngaba izilwanyana zasekhaya ziluvo olulungileyo kwaye ngubani ozikhathaleleyo?
- 7. Ndingenza ntoni xa umntwana wam engafuni ukuya esikolweni?
- 8. Ndingamnceda njani umntwana oxhalabileyo novalo?
- 9. Ndimfundisa njani umntwana wam ukuba aqole kwaye azimele geqe?
Ukuba ngumzali ngokuqinisekileyo yenye yeendima ezinzima kakhulu kuye nawuphi na umntu. Kuqhelekile ukuba nemibuzo emininzi apha endleleni, kwaye uzibuze ukuba uza kuwusingatha njani umcimbi othile okanye imeko ethile. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha ungaziva ngathi uyasokola wedwa, inyani yeyokuba uninzi lwabazali bajamelana nobunzima kunye neengxaki ezifanayo njengoko bezama ukukhulisa abantwana babo ngeyona ndlela ibhetele. Kungakhuthaza kakhulu ukwazi ukuba abanye bahambe le ndlela phambi kwakho kwaye bayifumana ngempumelelo. Ke le mibuzo ilandelayo ingekhoyo kwaye iimpendulo zikunike ukuqala okuhle njengoko uqhubeka nokufumana iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo yakho yobuzali.
1. Ndingamenza njani umntwana wam alale ngoxolo?
Ukunqongophala kokulala yenye yezona zinto zidinisayo kubuzali bokuqala, ke kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho abe kwindawo yokulala elungileyo ngokukhawuleza. Yenza ixesha lokulala libe lelinye lawona malungu abawathandayo osuku, apho ubalisa khona (okanye ufunde) amabali, ubaqinisekise ngothando lwakho kunye nokukhathalela kwaye mhlawumbi wenze umthandazo ngaphambi kokuba ubange kwaye ubakhusele kakuhle ebhedini. Khumbula, wena mntwana uyakuhlala uzama ukukuhlalisa ixesha elide, kodwa kufuneka uqine kwaye uxhathise isilingo, ngenxa yabo kunye nesakho.
2. Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuhamba kuqeqesho lweembiza?
Akukho mpendulo ilula kulo mbuzo njengoko wonke umntwana ahlukile kwaye abanye babamba ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi kunabanye. Ke kubalulekile ukuba ungabeki uxinzelelo emntwaneni okanye wenze naluphi na uhlobo loxinzelelo malunga nayo yonke indawo yoqeqesho lwamanzi. Endaweni yoko yenze amava amnandi ngeetshathi zeenkwenkwezi kunye nembuyekezo encinci, kwaye ke isihendo sokukwazi ukunxiba "iimpahla zangaphantsi ezinkulu" endaweni yamanabukeni abantwana.
3. Kutheni abantwana bexoka kwaye ndingenza ntoni ngayo?
Ukuxoka yinto eqhelekileyo ebantwaneni kwaye lolunye uxanduva lwakho njengomzali wokufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bathethe inyani. Ewe kufuneka uzinikele kwinyani ngokwakho-ayilunganga into yokuba umntwana wakho athembeke xa uxoka ngokwakho. Ukuxoka kuhlala kukhuthazwa kukoyika ukohlwaywa, okanye njengendlela yokubaleka inyani nokuzenza bazive bebalulekile. Zama ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ekhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba axoke ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nengcambu yomcimbi.
4. Ndithetha njani nabantwana bam ngesondo?
Okokuqala zibuze ukuba ufumanise njani malunga neentaka kunye neenyosi, kwaye nokuba ungafuna na ukuba abantwana bakho balandele indlela efanayo. Ukuba ubushiywe ukuba uzibonele ngokwakho izinto, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubunokukhetha ukufundisa abantwana bakho iinyani ngendlela enolwazi nenomdla. Ngokwemvelo abantwana banomdla, ke imibuzo yabo mayikhokele ingxoxo yakho. Njengoko ugcina iindlela zakho zonxibelelwano zivulekile nomntwana wakho, uya kuba nakho ukuthetha ngayo nantoni na ngayo yonke into, kubandakanya nesini.
5. Ngaba abantwana kufuneka bafumane imali epokothweni?
Ukunika abantwana bakho imali epokothweni yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubaqeqesha indlela yokulawula iimali zabo. Ngaphandle kokuba nemali yokuhlawula iimfuno ezithile kunye nokuphatha banokufunda ngendlela yokonga kunye nendlela yokupha ngesisa kwabanye. Nje ukuba abantwana bakho bafikelele kwiminyaka yabo yeshumi elivisayo unokucinga ngokunciphisa imali yabo epokothweni ukuze ubakhuthaze ukuba baqale ukufumana iindlela zokuzifumanela imali ngokuthatha umsebenzi wempelaveki okanye benze izinto zokuthengisa.
6. Ngaba izilwanyana zasekhaya ziluvo olulungileyo kwaye ngubani ozikhathaleleyo?
“Nceda, nceda, ungaphinde ube nayo injana?” okanye ihamster, okanye ihagu yehagu, okanye ibudgie? Ungawaxhathisa njani loo mehlo acengayo kunye novuyo kunye nemincili eya kuthi ilandele ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba ufumana isilwanyana osinqwenelayo ... kunye nokukhathalela zonke iimfuno zezilwanyana zasekhaya. Nangona kunjalo, izilwanyana zasekhaya zingangumhlaba obalaseleyo wokuqeqesha abantwana ukuba bathathe uxanduva kwaye bafunde ukuba kunye nolonwabo lokudlala nezilwanyana zabo zasekhaya kukwakho noxanduva lokulufeza.
7. Ndingenza ntoni xa umntwana wam engafuni ukuya esikolweni?
Uninzi lwabantwana banosuku olungaqhelekanga xa bengafuni ukuya esikolweni. Kodwa ukuba iba yipateni kwaye umntwana wakho uxinezeleke kakhulu, akavumi ukuphuma ebhedini okanye alungele isikolo, kuya kufuneka ujonge nzulu kwaye ufumane izizathu ezingaphantsi. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uyaxhatshazwa, okanye mhlawumbi ukhubazekile ngokufunda nto leyo ebabeka rhoqo ngonyawo olungasemva kwigumbi lokufundela. Yenza nantoni na eyimfuneko ukunceda umntwana wakho afike kwindawo apho azimiseleyo kwaye anelisekile ukuba aye esikolweni yonke imihla.
8. Ndingamnceda njani umntwana oxhalabileyo novalo?
Xa abantwana bexhalabile kakhulu bafuna isitayile sokuba ngumzali esinobubele kunye nokuqonda kodwa ikwakhuthaza kwaye ibaxhobise ukuba bajongane kwaye boyise uloyiko lwabo. Nceda abantwana bakho baqonde umahluko phakathi kokulumka okunempilo kunye noloyiko olungafanelekanga. Bafundise izakhono abazidingayo ukuze bakwazi ukumelana nayo nantoni na eboyikisayo. Umzekelo, ukuba boyika ubumnyama, setha isibane sebhedi ecaleni kwebhedi yabo kwaye ubabonise indlela yokuyilayita xa befuna. Ukuba bagqibela ngokushiya isibane ubusuku bonke, ngokuthe ngcembe bancede basishiye sicime ixesha elide nangaphezulu.
9. Ndimfundisa njani umntwana wam ukuba aqole kwaye azimele geqe?
Ukufikelela ekukhuleni luhambo olubandakanya amanyathelo amancinci amaninzi. Imihla ngemihla njengoko umntwana wakho efunda kwaye ekhula ungabakhuthaza ukuba bazenzele izinto, nokuba bazityela ngokwabo okanye babopha imitya yezihlangu. Vumela abantwana bakho baphonononge kwaye bazame izinto ezintsha, nokuba bayasilela okanye bayawa-konke oko kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabo. Njengokuba ulwazi lwabo lusanda baya kuba nakho ukufikelela kwaye benze izinto zabanye, bencedisa kwimisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nokufunda imfihlelo yokuvuthwa eyoyisa isibetho sokuzingca.