Umxholo
- 1.Ubudlelwane buhamba macala omabini
- 2. Ukunyaniseka kubalulekile
- 3. Ziqonde iintsilelo zakho
- 4. Inkxaso ngokweemvakalelo ngokuthe ngqo
- 5. Ithemba
Ukuhlala unempilo yengqondo kunzima. Ukwakha ubudlelwane bokuthembela, nobunempilo kunzima. Ukulawula ezimbini ngaxeshanye? Phantse ayinakwenzeka.
Ubuncinci, yinto endakhe ndakholelwa kuyo.
Inyani yile yokuba impilo yakho yengqondo iyakuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye ngokuchaseneyo. Xa ungatshatanga, kukho utyekelo lokuzithandabuza olwandiswa luxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
Umoya ophantsi kunye nokungabikho kokuzithemba kunokukhokelela ekwehleni.
Kulula kakhulu ukuwela kwipatheni yokuzahlula ngenxa yokunqongophala kokuzixabisa. Awuboni nto kuwe efanele ukuthandana, ke awuzami ukuthandana. Ngaphezu koko, ukuthandana kubandakanya umgudu. Ukuthetha, ukwazi umntu othile, ukuzibeka phaya ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni kungasithatha kuthi ngokweemvakalelo.
Konke ngelixa usilwa nento efana nokudakumba, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu ukukuthwala.
Isikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, bendisele ndigqibile ukuba ndiza kufa ndedwa. Kuyamangalisa, kodwa kwakubonakala ngathi kukucinga okufanelekileyo ngelo xesha. Andibonanga nto ixabisekileyo kum, ke ndicinge ukuba akekho omnye umntu oya kuthi enze njalo.
Le yinto ekwabelwana ngayo nabantu abaninzi abanengxaki efanayo. Mna, nangona kunjalo, ndatshayiswa kukubetha kwethamsanqa. Ndidibene nomntu oqondayo. Ayikuko kuba naye ngokwakhe wayedlula kuyo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba wayenosapho olusondeleyo olwalukho.
Kum, kwakungaqondakali. Umntu oyiqondayo into endihamba kuyo? Umntu endinokuthetha naye ngokunyanisekileyo, ongayiqondiyo kuphela kodwa ovelayo? Akunakwenzeka!
Ulwalamano lwethu lukhule kwisiseko sokunyaniseka nokuvuleleka. Ukujonga emva, bekukho izifundo eziphambili ekufuneka zifundwe:
1.Ubudlelwane buhamba macala omabini
Kuyavunywa, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuye kwanceda ukuba naye ngokwakhe wayengenayo imicimbi yezempilo yengqondo ukuba athethe ngayo. Ndakwazi ukuzikhathalela ngaphandle kokubeka abanye abantu phambili.
Oku kukhokelele kumcimbi kamva-ekucingeni ukuba ngenxa yokuba engenalo uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, kufuneka alungile. Ndandi (njengoko ndizibiza ngothando) ogulayo. Khange ndiqonde kude kube semva kwexesha ukuba impilo yam inengxaki kuye.
Ngaphandle kokuba sempilweni, ukukhathalela umntu osokolayo kunokubangela ukuba ulwe.
Kubudlelwane, kubalulekile ukuba uyiqonde le nto kwiqabane lakho.
Banokuba bebeka ubuso obukhaliphile kumzamo wokungabi luxanduva kuwe, kodwa oku akunampilo kubo. Ukumbona esokola ekugqibeleni kwandityhalela ukuba ndifune uncedo lobuchwephesha.
Xa ndindedwa, ndandidla ngokuzisizela kuba oyena mntu ndandikholelwa ukuba ndiyamonzakalisa yayindim.
Kubudlelwane, kwabakho uxanduva olungaqhelekanga lokhathalelo.
Yayisisifundo esibalulekileyo- imikhwa yakho yetyhefu ingabenzakalisa abantu abakungqongileyo. Lumka ungabenzakalisi abantu obathandayo.
2. Ukunyaniseka kubalulekile
Ndihleli ndingumntu osebenza kakhulu, ndityhala phantsi imiba yam kwaye ndizama ukungayihoyi.
Isilumkiso seSpoiler-oku akuphelanga kakuhle.
Njengobudlelwane budinga ukwazi umntu ngokusondeleyo, ndiye ndaqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba ndingazixokisa, kodwa hayi kuye. Wayekwazi ukuchola iingcebiso ezincinci ukuba andenzi kakuhle.
Sonke sineentsuku zokuphumla, kwaye ndiye ndabona ukuba kungcono, ukunyaniseka ngazo kunokuzama ukuzifihla. Ndiyathanda ukuthelekisa izifo zomzimba nezengqondo.
Ungazama ukungahoyi umlenze wakho owaphukileyo, kodwa awuzukuphola, kwaye uya kuphelela apho mbi ngawo.
3. Ziqonde iintsilelo zakho
Amanqanaba obundlobongela anokuba noxinzelelo.
Ukudibana nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakhe kunene ngokwaneleyo, ngaphandle kokongezwa koxinzelelo kum lonke ixesha. Ukongeza, bekukho i-FOMO. Uloyiko lokulahleka. Yena nabahlobo bakhe babeza kuba nezicwangciso, kwaye nam ndiza kumenywa.
Ama-alarms aqhelekileyo oxinzelelo aya kuqala ukukhala, zihlala zilandelana "kuthekani ukuba bandithiyile?" kwaye "ndithini xa ndizihlazisa?" Inkqubo yokuchacha inzima, kwaye elinye lamanyathelo okuqala ndifunda ukungawahoyi la mazwi kunye neengcinga.
Bamele into ekufanele ukuba bayithathele ingqalelo- ngaba kuninzi kum?
Ukuba andikwazi ukuya kudibana nabahlobo okanye usapho, ayizukuphoswa ndim kuphela, kodwa ngaba oku luphawu lobuthathaka? Ngokungabonakalisi, kwaye ndibhale ezantsi zombini? Engqondweni yam, akuzange kubekho kuthandabuza. U-'ewe 'omkhulu ovuthayo kwi-neon kuyo yonke ingqondo yam. Ndingaba sisilele njenge ntombi.
Okothusayo kukuba, wacinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Kulungile ukuba nemida. Kulungile ukuthi "hayi". Awungohluleki. Uhamba ngesantya sakho kwaye uthathe ixesha lakho.
Ukubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunye nolawulo lwempilo yengqondo ngumdyarho weembaleki, hayi i-sprint.
4. Inkxaso ngokweemvakalelo ngokuthe ngqo
Into endayiqonda kunye neqabane lam kukuba andifuni ukuba abandakanyeke ngokuthe ngqo ekubuyiseni kwam.
Ucele ukundinceda ndizibekele usukelo, ndibeke imisebenzi emincinci kwaye andikhuthaze ukuba ndiyifezekise. Ngelixa le nto inokuba yinto entle kwaye inokusebenzela abanye abantu, kum le yayiyinto enkulu enkulu.
Inxalenye yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kukuziqonda ngokwakho. Ukuqonda oyena mntu, hayi ezo ngcinga zimnyama kunye noloyiko.
Ngendincede ukuba ndizibekele iinjongo, umsebenzi olula kunye nezinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka ndijolise kuzo. Oku kubangele umngcipheko wokungaphumeleli - ukuba ndithe ndasilela ekufezekiseni ezi njongo bendizakumyekisa naye. Ukukholelwa ukuba uziyekile akulunganga ngokwaneleyo.
Konke oku kwehla kwinto enye-iintlobo ezimbini eziphambili zenkxaso.
Ngamanye amaxesha sifuna inkxaso ebonakalayo. Nantsi ingxaki yam, ndingayilungisa njani? Ngamanye amaxesha, sidinga ukuxhaswa ngokweemvakalelo. Ndiziva ndisoyika, ndinike ihug. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele kwaye unxibelelane nohlobo luni lwenkxaso oyifunayo.
Impilo yengqondo ilukhuni ngokukodwa, njengoko kuhlala kungekho lula ukulungisa.
Kum, bendidinga ukuxhaswa ngokweemvakalelo. Ekuqaleni, bekukho ukusonjululwa kwengqondo okusekwe kulogic. Ungathetha nabani malunga nokufumana uncedo? Kodwa ixesha lihambile kwaye ubudlelwane buqhubeka, ndiye ndabona ukuba ndifuna nje ukwangiwa, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ukhona.
5. Ithemba
Ubudlelwane obuninzi buhlala busokola ngenxa yokunqongophala kokuthembana.
Ndiyazi abahlobo abaninzi abachaphazelekayo ukuba iqabane linokungathembeki, kodwa ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba andinawo amandla emphefumlo kuloo nto.
Kum, ukuthembana kuza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukuxhalaba nokudakumba ndifuna ukuba ndikholelwe ukuba andikufanelanga, ukuba undizonda ngasese kwaye ufuna ukuhamba. Ndicela ukuqinisekiswa kule micimbi rhoqo kunokuba ndinomdla wokuvuma.
Kodwa ngokwenza njalo, ndivula ijelo lonxibelelwano elibalulekileyo. Umlingane wam uyayazi indlela endiziva ngayo kwaye angandiqinisekisa ukuba olu loyiko, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngumthwalo wenkunkuma.
Ngelixa ingekho sempilweni, bendihlala ndikufumana kunzima ukuzithemba. Ndidla ngokujongela phantsi izakhono nobuchule bam, ndiziqinisekise ukuba andilufanelanga ulwalamano nolonwabo.
Kodwa ndithatha amanyathelo amancinci ukuzithemba, kwaye yile nto ukubuyisela kwakhona.
Okwangoku, ndinokumthemba ubuncinci iqabane lam.
Inqaku lokugqibela
Amava am awakho kwindalo iphela.
Ukwamkela isigulo sam sengqondo kwakunzima kuba ndandikholelwa ukuba ndindedwa. Emva kokuzibeka phaya, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba baninzi kakhulu abantu abavakalelwa ngokufanayo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo endiyifundileyo kukuba ubudlelwane abulungisi. Akukho mali luthando lwangaphandle olunokukunyanzela ukuba uzithande. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba nenethiwekhi yokuxhasa, kwaye ubuhlobo kufuneka bube njalo.