Umxholo
- Kutheni indima yokudlala isempilweni kubudlelwane
- Kutheni sisenza oko?
- Wazi njani ukuba indima yobudlelwane iyakuthintela
- Umngcipheko wokunciphisa indima
- Ukwahlukana nendima yobudlelwane
Akukho nto ingaqhelekanga malunga nokudlala indima kubudlelwane. Ngapha koko, kuqhelekile- uninzi lwethu luyatshintshana ngokudlala iindima ezahlukeneyo eziguqukayo. Umzekelo, ungafumanisa ukuba ngamanye amaxesha nguwe okhulisayo kunye nenkxaso, ngelixa ngamanye amaxesha inguwe odinga inkxaso. Ngamanye amaxesha uyakonwaba kwaye ufane nomntwana, ngamanye amaxesha ube ngumntu omkhulu onoxanduva.
Kutheni indima yokudlala isempilweni kubudlelwane
Ubuhle bolu hlobo lokudlala indima kukuba buvela kwindawo eyaziwayo. Kukho ukuhamba kwendalo njengoko esi sibini siziqhelanisa kunye ngokukhetha ukuba yiyo nantoni na efunekayo kubo ngalo naliphi na ixesha. Xa isebenza, iyahambelana kwaye ayinangxaki.
Kodwa ayisoloko ichanekile, okanye ulwelo. Iingxaki zivela xa elinye okanye omabini amaqela ebambekile kwiindima ezithile zobudlelwane, okanye xa indima yamkelwe ngenxa yoxanduva okanye uxanduva. Engakhange ihlolwe, umntu unokwenza indima yobudlelwane iminyaka engakhange ayiqonde okanye abuze ukuba kutheni.
Banokuba ngoyena mntu ukhathalela abantwana, abondlayo, okanye owenza izigqibo kubudlelwane babo kuba becinga ukuba yindlela ekumele ukuba ibenjalo.
Kutheni sisenza oko?
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, sihlakulela uyilo lwendlela yokwenza ubudlelwane busebenze kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo: abazali bethu, abahlobo bethu, iifilimu kunye neentsomi esizazi kakuhle, kunye noluntu kunye nenkcubeko ngokubanzi.
Ngaphezulu kwento, uninzi lwethu luyakhathalela ngokwendalo kwinto efunwa liqabane lethu kwaye loo nto yokukhathalela inokusikhokelela ekubeni sithathe iindima zobudlelwane kunye nokuziphatha ukuze sibe ngumntu esicinga ukuba bafuna.
Nceda wazi ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ekukhetheni ukuba ube ngumongi, umondli, umntu onoxanduva, okanye umntu ohlekisayo / onomdla / onomdla. Igama eliphambili apha lukhetho: indima inengxaki kuphela ukuba uyayidlala kuba ucinga ukuba yile ilindelwe kuwe.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungabuphucula njani ubudlelwane bakho usebenzisa indima yokudlala, khumbula ukuba akufuneki uzilinganisele kwindima enye, indima elindeleke kuwe.
Wazi njani ukuba indima yobudlelwane iyakuthintela
Owona mkhondo mkhulu kukuba igama kufuneka livele kwindlela ocinga ngayo-kakhulu. Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba kufuneka ube luhlobo oluthile lomntu okanye uziphathe ngendlela ethile, eli licebiso elikhulu lokuba wenza ngokungathi unyanzelekile. Akukho sithuba sokukhetha- kwaye akukho sithuba kuwe - xa usebenza usuka 'kufanele'.
Olunye uluvo kukuba xa ucinga ngendima yolwalamano olwenzileyo kubudlelwane bakho, uziva ubanjiwe. Unokuba namava obunzima okanye ukunyanzelwa, kwaye unokudinwa ngokumangalisayo: ukuba ngumntu ongekho kuyadinisa.
Umngcipheko wokunciphisa indima
Ekuthengeni uluvo lokuba kufuneka sibeyindlela ethile yokwamkelwa, ukuxabiswa, okanye ukuthandwa, sizahlula ngokwenyani kubume bethu bobukhulu kunye nobukhulu. Siyazinyanzela kwibhokisi encinci kakhulu kuthi, ukusika iinxalenye zethu kwinkqubo.
Isiphumo kukuba siphila kwisiqingatha-sobomi kunokuphila ubomi obupheleleyo esinokufikelela kubo. Ngapha koko, asinikezi abo sibathandayo ithuba lokwazi, ukusixabisa, kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Ngokulula njengokuba kunokuba njalo ukuphinda-phinda iipateni zokuziphatha, kwaye sikhuselekile njengendima enokusenza sizive, ubomi buphindwe kalishumi ngokulula kwaye sonwaba nje xa siqala ukukhetha ngokubonakalayo indlela esibonakala ngayo emhlabeni nase ubudlelwane bethu.
Ukwahlukana nendima yobudlelwane
Ukuba le nto ihambelana nawe, ungaqala ukuyeka ukuthintela iindima zobudlelwane ngokuthemba kuqala ukuba unolwazi olunzulu malunga nokukulungeleyo kunye nawe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyothusa ukuphuma ngasemva kwemaski- kwaye kuyothusa xa ungandithembi. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, zithembele.
Fumana ukuqonda malunga nokuba kutheni usenokuba uthathe inxaxheba kubudlelwane kwindawo yokuqala ngokujonga iitemplate ozinikiweyo malunga nokuba ubudlelwane kufanele ukuba bube njani. Kwakhona qaphela nayiphi na inkolelo onayo malunga nendima yesini. Zezikabani ezo nkolelo?
Ndincoma ukuba ubuze, ngubani lo? kuwo onke amandla okuzibophelela okanye 'kufanele' uqaphele kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezizayo. Lo mbuzo ulula ungaqala kutshintsho olukhulu njengoko uqala ukubona ukuba indima obuyidlala ayingowakho. Ukusuka apho, unokukhetha enye into-into ekufaneleyo.
Cinga ngendlela onqwenela ngayo ukuba kubudlelwane bakho- kwaye wabelane ngoku kunye neqabane lakho. Qhubeka ufune ukwazi malunga nendima abanokudlala kuyo. Ngaba ungabanceda ukuba baphume kwelona bhokisi yabo yokusikelwa umda?
Okokugqibela, jonga ubomi bakho kunye nolwalamano njengendalo kunokuba ube namava amiselweyo. Xa usenza ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokonwaba kwakho kwindawo evulekileyo, enenyani nenombulelo, izibophelelo ziyomeleza, amanqanaba oxolo kunye novuyo ayonyuka, kwaye kunye ukhetha oko kudala eyona ikamva lakho.