Umxholo
- Kuyintoni ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni?
- Ithetha ukuthini indoda elahlileyo?
- Chaza umyeni ohlukanisiweyo
- Umahluko phakathi 'kokwahlulwa' okanye 'ukwahluka'?
- Ungawuqhawula njani umtshato umyeni ohlukanisileyo?
- Yintoni indoda ebilahlile?
Imitshato ingumsebenzi onzima, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, njengokuba iintsuku zijika zibe ziinyanga, ithatha uxanduva kwesi sibini. Njengokuphakama kokuqala kokuthandana okanye umtsalane usiya phantsi kwaye uthuli luzinzile, izibini ezininzi ziyaqonda ukuba azikaze zibe ngumdlalo omkhulu, ukuqala. Kungoku nje ubomi buye bathatha indawo kwaye bajonge uxanduva lobomi kunye nomsebenzi, ngokubanzi, apho ukuqonda kuye kwabetha ukuba zange babenento efanayo.
Kwiimeko ezinje ngesiqhelo, abantu bafaka uqhawulo-mtshato. Inokuza ngenxa yokungafani okungafaniyo okanye nakuphi na ubuqhetseba; Nangona kunjalo, bathatha isigqibo sokuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Ukuba ityala alinakugwetywa ngokuhlangeneyo, kwaye liya enkundleni, uninzi lweejaji zihlala zinyanzelisa ixesha lokwahlukana. Eli xesha linyathelo eliyimfuneko lokuqinisekisa ukuba imvakalelo yentiyo ayisiyokwexeshana, kwaye esi sibini sizimisele malunga nokuqhawula umtshato kwanasemva kweenyanga ezintandathu okanye unyaka.
Kuyintoni ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni?
Ngexesha lokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni, esi sibini sihlala kwindawo enye yokuhlala kodwa sinonxibelelwano oluncinci ukuya kuthi ga omnye nomnye okanye omnye wabatshati uyaphuma, kwaye ngamnye uhlala ubomi babo obahlukileyo.
Oku kwahlukana, ngandlela thile, kuwuphelisa ngokusemthethweni umtshato nangayiphi na indlela okanye nangayiphi na indlela. Oku kwahlukana kuyaqhubeka kangangexesha elifunekayo (njengoko kuyalelwe ngumgwebi ophetheyo) ukuze esi sibini siqiniseke ukuba umsindo okanye ingqumbo yabo ayisiyongxaki yeemvakalelo okanye edlulayo.
Kwimimandla eliqela, ukwahlulwa ngokwasemthethweni kuyaqwalaselwa okanye kukwaziwa njengoqhawulo mtshato olulinganiselweyo. Le ayisiyonto ingacwangciswanga njengoko iqalwa yinkundla yomthetho kwaye ilandelwa ngamagqwetha kunye nenkundla.
Ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kufana nje nexesha elomileyo lokuqhawula umtshato ngokusemthethweni. Apha amaqabane afumana ukungcamla ukuba kunjani ukuhlala ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kwenkxaso yamaqabane abo. Iindleko zasekhaya zahluliwe, inkxaso yomlingane igqityiwe, kwaye iishedyuli zokundwendwela kwabantwana zigqityiwe.
Ithetha ukuthini indoda elahlileyo?
Uyintoni umyeni ohlukanisile? Inkcazo yendoda engaqhelekanga ayikho nzima ukuyifumana. Ngokwengcaciso yesichazi-magama sikaMerriam Webster, 'Indoda eyilahliweyo ithetha umntu ongakhange abelane ngendawo yokuhlala neqabane lakhe kwakhona.'
Chaza umyeni ohlukanisiweyo
Igama elahluliweyo sisichazi, esibonisa ukuphulukana nothando, okanye unxibelelwano; indawo yokujika yohlobo. Eli gama lisoloko linemixholo engemiyo. Iphakamisa ukwahlukana phakathi kwamaqela achaphazelekayo, ngaphandle kothando okanye nabuphi na ubudlelwane beemvakalelo.
Oku kubandakanya ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqela akhankanyiweyo abuzange buphele ngokuhamba kwexesha kodwa bujikile baba nobutshaba.
Umahluko phakathi 'kokwahlulwa' okanye 'ukwahluka'?
Njengoko kuchaziwe kwizichazi-magama ezininzi, igama elahluliweyo lixesha lokunxibelelanisa. Ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba omabini la magama zizichazi, umahluko ophambili kula magama mabini kukuba, ukwahlula kuthetha 'ukuzimela', kanti, ukwahlukana kuthetha 'umntu owayekhe wathathwa njengomhlobo osenyongweni okanye usapho ngoku sele engowasemzini.'
Ngokomthetho, ezi zimbini aziphantse zibe yinto efanayo.
Ukuzahlula kuthetha ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni.
Apho umyeni oshiyekileyo eyekile ukuba yinxalenye yosapho, akayazi nantoni na elungileyo okanye embi ejikelezayo endlwini kwaye ishiye usapho luphezulu kwaye lomile.
Ngokuchasene nesibini esizahluleyo esinokwabelana ngexesha elithile kunye kwiindibano zosapho okanye ukuphakamisa okanye ukushiya abantwana kwindawo yomnye nomnye.
Oku akuyi kuthathwa njengokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni, nangona kunjalo, ngexa apho esi sibini simelwe kukungabinazonxibelelwano nabanye nangona besazi iindawo abahlala kuzo.
Ungawuqhawula njani umtshato umyeni ohlukanisileyo?
Ukwahlukana ngokweemvakalelo ngokubanzi linyathelo lokuqala kuqhawulo-mtshato; ukwahluka ngokwasemzimbeni kuza kamva ebomini. Ukwahlukana ngokwasemzimbeni, njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, linyathelo eliyimfuneko lokubonelela ngobungqina bokungabikho koxolelwaniso olunokwenzeka.
Yintoni indoda ebilahlile?
Ngokwenkcazo, igama elithetha indoda eyahlukanisiweyo lithetha ukuba umyeni akasekho kwaphela ebomini bakhe. Ngoku ukuba ukwenzile oko ngaphandle kokutyikitya amaphepha oqhawulo-mtshato, umfazi usengalufumana uqhawulo-mtshato ngenkundla; Nangona kunjalo, kuya kubakho iingxaki ezithile eziqhotyoshelwe kuyo.
Umfazi kuya kufuneka anike ubungqina enkundleni ukuba ukhe wazama nantoni na esemandleni akhe ukuzama ukufumana umyeni wakhe. Kuya kufuneka babeke intengiso kwiphephandaba lasekuhlaleni, bathumele amaphepha oqhawulo-mtshato kwiidilesi zokuhlala ezaziwayo kunye nedilesi yasemsebenzini, bazame ukuqhakamshelana nabahlobo okanye usapho lweqabane elikhankanyiweyo okanye bajonge iinkampani zeefowuni okanye iincwadi zeefowuni.
Emva kwako konke oku kuthethiweyo nokwenziwa, inkundla inika inani elithile leentsuku emva kokuba uqhawulo-mtshato luqukunjelwe ngokungabikho komyeni.