Umxholo
Kule minyaka ingamashumi amabini anesihlanu ndisebenza nezibini, ndingatsho ngokuzithemba ukuba uninzi lwazo luza nomcimbi ofanayo. Bonke bathi abakwazi ukunxibelelana. Eyona nto bayithethayo kukuba bobabini baziva bebodwa. Baziva ngathi banqanyuliwe. Akulona iqela. Ngokwesiqhelo, bandibonisa loo nto ngexesha lokwenyani. Bahlala esofeni yam - bahlala kwiziphelo ezichaseneyo- kwaye baphephe ukudibana kwamehlo. Bajonge kum endaweni yokujongana. Ubulolo kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kubangela umsantsa phakathi kwabo, ubatyhalele kude omnye komnye endaweni yokubasondeza.
Akukho mntu ufumana ulwalamano ukuba abe nesizungu. Ingaba yimvakalelo yokwenene engenathemba. Sityikitya sinethemba lonxibelelwano lokwenyani- olo luvo lobunye olususa ubulolo kumgangatho onzulu, ophambili. Xa olo nxibelelwano lonakele, siziva silahlekile, sidimazekile kwaye sididekile.
Ababini bacinga ukuba wonke umntu unesitshixo sokutshixa abangakwaziyo ukusikhetha. Nazi iindaba ezimnandi. Kukho isitshixo-izitshixo ezintlanu enyanisweni!
Ungaqala ukusondela kwiqabane lakho namhlanje ngokusebenzisa la maqhosha mahlanu kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo lwezibini.
1. Ukufuna ukwazi
Khumbula ezo ntsuku zokuqala kobudlelwane? Xa yonke into ibintsha kwaye inomdla kwaye intsha? Incoko ibimnandi, iphiliswa, inomdla. Ubusoloko ulangazelela okungakumbi. Kungenxa yokuba wawunomdla. Ufuna ngokwenene ukwazi umntu ongapha kwetafile. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ubufuna ukwaziwa. Ngandlela thile malunga nobudlelwane, lo mnqweno we-atrophies. Ngexesha elithile-ngesiqhelo, kwangoko kwangoko-senza iingqondo zethu malunga nabanye. Siyazixelela ukuba siyayazi into ekufuneka siyazi. Musa ukuwela kulo mgibe. Endaweni yoko, yenze injongo yakho ukufikelela ezantsi kwezinto ngaphandle komgwebo. Fumana ngakumbi endaweni yokulwa ngakumbi. Fumana into entsha malunga neqabane lakho yonke imihla. Uya kumangaliswa kukuba kuncinci kangakanani okwaziyo. Qala imibuzo yakho ngeli binzana: Ndincede ndiqonde .... Yitsho ngentshisekelo yokwenene kwaye uvule impendulo. Imibuzo ethandwayo ayibali!
2. CImfesane
Ukuthanda ukwazi ngokwendalo kukhokelela kwimfesane. Ndigcina ifoto katata wam phezu kwedesika yam. Kwifoto, utata wam uneminyaka emibini ubudala, ehleli ethangeni likagogo, ewangawangisa ikhamera. Ngasemva komfanekiso, umakhulu ubhale wathi, "URonnie utshabhisa utata wakhe." Abazali bakabawo baqhawula umtshato xa wayeneminyaka emibini. Kuloo foto, ngokuqinisekileyo uvalelisa kuyise-indoda angayi kuphinda ayibone kwakhona. Ifoto ebuhlungu iyandikhumbuza ukuba utata uchithe iminyaka yakhe yobudala engenaye. Ukuzimisela kwam ukuba nomdla ngebali likatata wam kundenza ndizive ndinenceba ngaye. Sifumana imfesane kubantu xa sizikhathaza ngokuqonda iintlungu zabo.
3. Cujongano
Nje ukuba simisele imeko ekhuselekileyo nenemfesane, unxibelelwano luza ngokwendalo. Ngaba uyazi ukuba uninzi lwezibini eziphumelelayo azivumelani kwinto yonke? Ngapha koko, kwizinto ezininzi, bahlala bevuma ukungavumelani. Kodwa banxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo, nokuba kungquzulwano. Ngokusebenzisa ukwaziwa ukudala imeko enovelwano, baseta imeko apho unxibelelwano lukhuselekile naxa kungonwabanga. Izibini eziphumelelayo ziyayazi indlela yokuphepha "iimfazwe zobungqina." Banikezela ngemfuno yabo yolawulo. Bayabuza, bamamele, bafunde. Bakhetha ukuthetha ngezinto ezinzima nezinobuzaza ngaphandle kokucinga kwaye ngaphandle komgwebo.
4. CUkudityaniswa
Cinga ngeqela lezemidlalo okanye iqela okanye naliphi na iqela labantu elifuna ukusebenzisana ukuze lisebenze ngokufanelekileyo. Kwiqela elilungileyo, uninzi lwentsebenziswano esebenzayo. Intsebenziswano yenziwa yenziwa ziiC ezintathu zokuqala. Ukuthanda ukwazi kukhokelela kwimfesane, ekhokelela kunxibelelwano. Ngezo zinto zibalulekileyo ezikhoyo, sinokuthatha izigqibo njengeqela kuba Siliqela. Sizimisele ekuqondaneni kwethu omnye nomnye kwaye sikwicala elinye, nokuba asivumelani.
5. Cuqhagamshelo
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube yingcali ukuxelela ukuba zeziphi izibini kwindawo yokutyela ebezindawonye ixesha elide kakhulu. Jonga nje ngeenxa zonke. Abo bangathethiyo bancamile kunxibelelwano. Ngoku jonga kwakhona. Qaphela izibini ezinomdla omnye komnye? Ezo zibini zisebenzisa ii-C zokuqala ezine-ukwazi, uvelwano, unxibelelwano kunye nentsebenziswano- kwaye baziva benxibelelene! Benze indawo ekhuselekileyo yokwabelana ngeengcinga zabo kunye namabali. Unxibelelwano sisiphumo sendalo xa siye sazikhathaza ukuba nomdla xa sifumene imfesane ezintliziyweni zethu, xa sabelana ngezona zinto zethu zinzulu, kwaye xa siliqela ngokwenyani.
Ngexesha elizayo ulwalamano lwakho luziva ulilolo, cela umngeni ngokwakho ukuqala ukubuza imibuzo eyahlukeneyo kwaye uvuleleke kwiimpendulo. Bambe nzulu uvelwano. Thetha ngeengcinga zakho kwaye wabelane ngebali lakho. Zilungiselele kwaye ubonise njengelungu leqela endaweni yokusebenza ngokuchasene neqabane lakho. Khetha ukwamkela nokuxabisa ubuhlakani bakho ngokwaneleyo ukuba uncike endaweni yokutyhala. Ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, uya kuziva unxibelelene kwaye ubulolo oboyikekayo buza kutshintshwa bubunzulu, obuqinisekisa unxibelelwano obhalisele lona kwasekuqaleni.