Umxholo
- Kuthatha umsebenzi onzima ukuze ungathembeki ngaphambili
- Ngaba umtshato unokunganyaniseki?
- Ungawusindisa njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki kunye nobuxoki
- Iinyani ezili-9 malunga nokukopa nokukhohlisa
UGoogle yona. Kwi-38 yomzuzwana, uGoogle ubuyisa ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sesigidi seziphumo zokukhangela malunga nokugcina umtshato emva kokuba iqabane likhohlisile, kwakha ukuthembana emva kokungathembeki, okanye ukujongana nokungathembeki.
Ngaphezulu kwama-80 eepesenti aludweliso:
- Iindlela ezili-13 zokuMtsalela ebhedini yakho
- Iindlela ezili-12 zokuFihla umzimba emva kokuba ekhohlisile
- Izinto ezingama-27 ekufuneka uyazi ukuba ulungisa ubudlelwane
...kwaye nangokunjalo.
Umnqweno wabasebenzisi be-Intanethi wokwenza okufutshane, ukufundeka ngokulula, ukuboniswa kwe-dumbed-down kunciphise ubunzima bobudlelwane kuludwe olunokufundwa ngelixa uhlamba amazinyo.
Ubomi abukho lula kangako. Uqhawulo-mtshato emva kokungathembeki lubonisa ukuba ezinye izibini ziyafumana ukungathembeki, ziphilise emva komtshato kunye nokwakha umtshato ophumelelayo emva kokungathembeki.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthathi kude kwinto yokuba ukumelana nokungathembeki, ukubuyela kwimeko yomtshato kunye nokugcina umtshato emva kokungathembeki akunakwenzeka kuzo zonke izibini eziye zathwaxwa kukungathembeki.
Ukufumana i-Intanethi ukuba mingaphi imitshato esinda kukungathembeki kubonisa ukuba isiqingatha semitshato yaseMelika siyasinda.
Kuthatha umsebenzi onzima ukuze ungathembeki ngaphambili
Ngelixa babephawula isikhumbuzo seminyaka engama-50 betshatile nabahlobo, uRuth Graham, inkosikazi yomvangeli odume kakuhle uBilly Graham wabuzwa ukuba wakhe waziva efuna ukumala.
UNks. Graham wajonga lo mbuzo ngqo emehlweni wathi, “Bulala ewe. Uqhawulo-mtshato aluzange luqhubeke. ”
Iphothiwe kwimpendulo yakhe ehlekisayo yinyani enzulu. Umtshato unokuba yeyona intle kubudlelwane. Isenokuba yeyona nto imbi, ukungcoliswa yimanyano.
Rhoqo, ngumxube wazo zombini.
Nangona uNks.Graham wathatha iimfihlo zakhe waya ethuneni, sinokucinga ukuba ukungathembeki emtshatweni kwakungeyonxalenye yobudlelwane babo.
Ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha semitshato efumana ukungathembeki kwelinye - okanye omabini amaqela - ngexesha elithile lobudlelwane, i-Intanethi iye yavela ebomini kunye neengxelo ezihlaziyiweyo zikaPaul Simon "Iindlela ezingama-50 zokushiya isithandwa sakho." Kodwa musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho.
Kangangoko singathanda ukukholelwa ukuba ukusindisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki yinto encinci nje kunoluhlu, inyani kukuba kuya kuthatha umsebenzi onzima- kunzima kakhulu - ukungathembeki ngaphambili.
Ngamanye amaxesha izibini azikaze zidlule. Eminye imitshato ifuna ukungcwatywa.
Ngaba umtshato unokunganyaniseki?
Umtshato ungasinda kukungathembeki.
Khumbula iinyaniso ezinzima malunga nokusindisa umtshato wakho emva kokungathembeki, nangona:
- Akukho lula
- Kuya kubuhlungu
- Kuya kubakho umsindo kunye neinyembezi
- Kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuthembela kwakhona
- Iya kufuna ukuba umkhohlisi athathe uxanduva
- Kuya kufuna ukuba "ixhoba" lithathe uxanduva ngokunjalo
- Kuya kufuna inkalipho
Ungawusindisa njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki kunye nobuxoki
Ukufumana kwakhona ukungathembeki kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obunempumelelo emva kokukopela akuqhelekanga. Elona candelo libalulekileyo yindlela yokufumana ukungathembeki kunye nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane emva kokukopa.
Uninzi lwabacebisi ngemitshato luyibonile imitshato engaphelelanga nje ekungathembekini kodwa yaba sempilweni. Ukuba omabini amaqabane azimisele ukufumana nokusebenzisa izakhono eziyimfuneko ekwenzeni umtshato wabo usebenze, umtshato ke unokuhlala uhleli.
Ngexesha lonyango lokungcatsha, ukungathembeki, kunye nemicimbi iingcali zeengcali zixhobisa izibini ngezixhobo ezifanelekileyo kunye neengcebiso malunga nendlela yokwakha kwakhona ukuthembana emva kokukopela.
Ukugcina umtshato wakho emva kokungathembeki kuya kufuna ungenelelo olusemthethweni lomntu wesithathu.
Ukucebisa ngokungathembeki kukunceda uphinde ufumane ukungathembeki kubudlelwane. Kuya kuyinceda kakhulu imibhangqwana ukufumana umntu onganyanisekanga onokwenza ukugcina umtshato emva kokungathembeki kuhambo olubuhlungu kuwe.
- Unyango luyilelwe ukusebenza ngemicimbi yakho yomtshato
- Kukunceda ujongane nokubuyela umva kokukopela
- Yakha kwakhona unxibelelwano olulahlekileyo kunye nawe okanye iqabane lakho
- Yenza ixesha lokufumana kwakhona ukunganyaniseki
- Landela isicwangciso sendlela yokuqhubela phambili kubudlelwane
Badibanisa iimvakalelo eziphikisanayo, baququzelele ukubuyela kwimeko yokungathembeki kwaye bancede esi sibini senze utshintsho olugudileyo ngokwamanqanaba ahlukileyo okubuyisa ukungathembeki.
Iinyani ezili-9 malunga nokukopa nokukhohlisa
- Amadoda athambekele ekukhohliseni nabafazi ababaziyo
Abaqhathi abadli ngokukhetha abantu abangabaziyo kwimivalo. Uninzi lwabasetyhini lukholelwa ekubeni onke amabhinqa akopelayo yitramp - akunjalo. Ubudlelwane buhlala bubuhlobo kuqala.
- Amadoda ukukopela ukugcina umtshato wabo
Amadoda ayabathanda abafazi babo, kodwa abayazi indlela yokulungisa iingxaki kubudlelwane; baya ngaphandle komtshato wabo befuna izisombululo.
- Amadoda azithiyile emva kwemicimbi
Rhoqo abantu bacinga ukuba abantu abakhohlisayo ngamadoda angenasimilo. Ngelixa besenza into abayenzileyo, bahlala bezidelela xa umcimbi uphelile.
- Abafazi bayakhohlisa ngokufuthi njengamadoda
Amadoda nabafazi bayakhohlisa ngezinga elilinganayo; zizizathu nje ezahlukileyo. Abafazi bakulungele ngakumbi ukukopela kuzalisekiso lweemvakalelo. Ukutyala imali ngokweemvakalelo komnye umntu kubonisa ukuba uphumile emtshatweni wakho. Ukuba sisini nje, incinci malunga nokuncamathisela, nangona.
- Umfazi uyazi ukuba umyeni wakhe uyakopa
Inenekazi lidla ngokwazi xa abayeni babo bephuma; amalungisa akanakukunyamezela ukuyamkela.
- Imicimbi ihlala ilungisa umtshato
Ukungathembeki akufuneki kube kukufa kwesibini. Ngelixa ubudlelwane obutsha bunokonwabisa, umcimbi unokuvuselela umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, cinga ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele kumkhohlisi. Iiflings zihlala zibalaselisa indlela umntu angazilawuli ngayo.
- Umfazi akanatyala
Ukuba umyeni wakho akathembekanga, ayilotyala lakho- nokuba bathini na abantu. Ingcinga yokutyhalwa engalweni yomnye umfazi yintetho kwaye ayisiyiyo eyokwenyani. Amadoda awakhohlisi ngenxa yokuba ngubani umfazi wabo; bayakopa ngenxa yokuba bengengabo.
- Eminye imitshato kufuneka iphoswe emgqomeni
Ngaba ungawusindisa ngokwenene umtshato emva komjikelo wokungathembeki? Eminye imitshato akufuneki igcinwe; ayenzelwanga ukuba ihlangulwe. Ukuba ukungathembeki ngumqondiso wobundlobongela basekhaya okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo, ngcwaba ubudlelwane kwaye uqhubeke.
- Amanye amadoda anemicimbi athi onwabile emitshatweni yawo.
Kunzima ukuba "ixhoba" lazi ukuba kufuneka linike umntu okopayo ithuba lesibini. Umbuzo othi, "ungalugcina njani ubudlelwane emva kokukopela" ulandela kakhulu kamva kwiqabane elingcatshiweyo elishiya lodwa, linomsindo, lididekile kwaye lihlazekile.
Ukuba ukungathembeki yayiyinto yexesha elinye, oko kwahlukile kunobuqhophololo. Ukuba banendlela yokuqhubeka nokukopa, kungalixesha lokuphosa itawuli. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukugcina umtshato wakho emva kokungathembeki yinto elahlekileyo.
Nje ukuba kwenziwe isigqibo sokuba umtshato unakho- kwaye kufuneka usindiswe- umsebenzi onzima uqala ukugcina umtshato emva kokungathembeki. Kuthatha uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuze usebenze ngomsindo, umsindo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo eziluhlaza ezilandela umcimbi.
Ayithathi luhlu.