Ubudlelwane bunoxinzelelo ngokwaneleyo kwezi ntsuku, kodwa xa usongeza iintlungu ezingapheliyo kunye noxinzelelo kumxube, izibini zihlala ziziva zonganyelwe luxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla ezinje ngeeshedyuli zomsebenzi, ukukhulisa abantwana kunye nolunye uxanduva losapho.
Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba “ukungoneliseki emtshatweni, ukungavisisani kwamaqabane omtshato, kunye nokungasebenzi kakuhle kosapho” zinxulunyaniswa "neempawu eziphakamileyo zokudakumba kwiisampulu zeklinikhi yeentlungu." (ICano et al., 2000). Umthwalo weemvakalelo ovela ekuhlaleni iintlungu ezingapheliyo zichaphazela indlela esinxibelelana ngayo nabanye, kwaye xa uxinzelelo kunye neempawu ezinxulumene noko zivela, kwaye unxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane luhlala lusokola.
Ngokuka-Beach et al., 1990, oku kufumanisa kungakhokelela "ekunciphiseni ukusondelelana kunye nenkxaso yomlingane," ngelixa "iimpendulo zomlingane ezingalunganga" zinokuthi zithathe isohlwayo kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni neqabane. Ngapha koko, ukungoneliseki emtshatweni kunye nezimvo ezimbi / isimilo esivela kwiqabane elingafumani zintlungu, kunokunxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo zokuphelelwa lithemba kunye noxinzelelo, okanye noxinzelelo kunye nokurhoxa ekuhlaleni, kwabanye abathengi beentlungu ezingapheliyo.
Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho unentlungu engapheliyo, ukufumana iindlela zonxibelelwano kunye nokujongana nokuwa kwezi ngxaki kunokuba nzima. Injongo kukufumanisa ukuba iintlungu ezingapheliyo kunye noxinzelelo / unxunguphalo luchaphazela njani ubudlelwane bakho kwezi ndawo zilandelayo: uxinzelelo, unxibelelwano, isondo / ukuhamba ngokutshintsha ngenxa yeentlungu ezingapheliyo, kunye nendlela esinokuthi sifunde ngayo ukuqonda iimfuno zomlingane ngamnye kulindelo ubudlelwane ekukhanyeni kwentlungu engapheliyo kunye noxinzelelo / uxinzelelo.
Unxibelelwano ngoyena ndoqo kulwaneliseko lomtshato xa ujongene noxinzelelo kunye nentlungu engapheliyo.
Ukwazi ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho ngendlela ethembekileyo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo emzimbeni nasemphefumlweni kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba kutheni ungaziva okanye ungaziva uthanda ukuphuma okanye ulala nobubusuku. Sebenzisa i-I-Statement, ukunika iqabane lakho ingqwalaselo yakho ipheleleyo ngokumamela okusebenzayo, ukudibana kwamehlo ngqo kunye nokubonisa umva oko ukuve kuthethwa liqabane lakho, zezinye zeendlela zokuphucula indlela omamela kunye nokuphendula kwiimfuno zeqabane lakho. Ukusebenza ngokuzimisela kunye nezisombululo ezinokubakho kweminye yale micimbi kuya kunceda kwaye kuya kwenza ukuba iqabane lakho lizive limanyelwe kwaye lixhaswe.
Ukwabelana ngesondo yenye indlela ebalulekileyo esinxibelelana ngayo nabantu esibathandayo, kodwa xa ukukhubazeka okanye iintlungu ezingapheliyo zingena kule nxaki, singathatha imvula egumbini lokulala. Abantu abatshatileyo abaneqabane elinye okanye bobabini abanengxaki yokuhamba, ubudlelwane bezesondo bahlala behleli ngasemva kwisebe lobudlelwane.
Ke izibini zihlangabezana njani neemfuno zesondo? Ukusebenzisa izakhono zonxibelelwano ezixutyushwe ngasentla, izibini zinokufumana ezinye iindlela zokukholisa omnye nomnye. Yiba novelwano kwimpilo yeemvakalelo zomntu omthandayo xa kufikwa kumba wokuxoxa ngesondo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu banoloyiko oluthile lokunyusa iintlungu zabo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo okanye ezinye izinto ezinxulumene nemvakalelo ezinxulumene nemizimba yabo. Kananjalo kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nobuchule kwigumbi lokulala. Njengaleyo ithi, "Zininzi iindlela zokukrwela ikati," zininzi iindlela zokwabelana ngesondo ezingabandakanyi ukuhlangana, ke hamba uye konwaba.
Okokugqibela, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kuyakwenza imimangaliso kulwalamano lwakho-kunye nentlungu yakho engapheliyo. Abaphandi bathi uxinzelelo yindlela umzimba wethu ophendula ngayo kwisoyikiso somzimba okanye isiganeko esibuhlungu.
Zininzi iindlela zokumelana noxinzelelo:
- Ziphephe iimeko ezonyusa inqanaba loxinzelelo (ukuxinana kweemoto, iivenkile ezixineneyo, njl. Ukuba kuya kufuneka uye kwindawo enoxinzelelo, cinga ngeendlela zokuhlala kude nesiphithiphithi. Cwangcisa kwangaphambili ngaphambi kokuba uhambe, kwaye usoloko une "cwangciso lokhuseleko" kwimeko yokuba ufuna ukushiya imeko yoxinzelelo.
- Hlalani Ninethemba: Unyango lokuziphatha ngokuqonda luyasixelela ukuba siphinde sihlaziye iingcinga ezimbi ngezinto ezilungileyo. Ke endaweni yokuhlala ujolise kwimicimbi emibi yeentlungu ezingapheliyo kunye nolwalamano lwakho, fumana iindlela zokwandisa iingcinga ezintle ngokwenza into ekuzisela uvuyo njengokumamela umculo owuthandayo okanye ukuphuma nomhla kunye neqabane lakho.
- Beka imida nabanye ukuze ufumane iimfuno zakho. Nciphisa umthwalo wakho kunye nezinye iimfuno, kwaye ungoyiki ukuthi hayi. Ukukhumbula ukusikelwa umda, ukuqinisekisa iimfuno zakho kunye nokucela uncedo xa uludinga, kuya kunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye neentlungu, kunye nokwandisa ukusebenzisana okuhle nabanye, ngakumbi neqabane lakho.
- Ungalibali ukuphefumla! Ukuphefumla nzulu, okuphefumlayo kunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho. Kwaye ukuphefumla okunzulu kunye nokucamngca yenye indlela yokwandisa ukusondelelana neqabane lakho, njengoko unokufunda ukuphefumla kunye njengesibini kwaye uqhagamshele kwinqanaba elinzulu, elinentsingiselo.