Umxholo
- 1. Ukudibana kwamehlo
- 2. Ubungqina boluntu
- 3. I-banter engengomlomo
- 4. Zitsale ngenkangeleko yakho
- 5. Ulwimi lomzimba
Nditsho nasemva kweenkulungwane zobukho, sisasilela ekufezekiseni oko kuthatha ukutsala umntu wasetyhini. Into ehlekisayo, nangona kunjalo, yindlela yokutsala abantu basetyhini ayinzima njengoko ibonakala.
Abafana bahlala befumana uxinzelelo xa befuna umgca ogqibeleleyo wokuthetha kwintombazana. Kodwa uza kuthini xa ufumanisa ukuba ungatsala abantu basetyhini ungakhange uthethe nabo; Oku kuyanceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokubonisa intombazana.
Ukwazi ukuba umntu obhinqileyo sele echukumisekile nguwe nangaphambi kokuthetha igama kuzisa isixa esikhulu sokuzithemba ongasisebenzisa ukwakha ubudlelwane nomntu obhinqileyo omthandayo.
Ke ukuba ufuna ukuthatha uxinzelelo ekuthetheni nabasetyhini kwaye ufuna ukubatsala nabo, ke qhubeka ufunda ezi ngcebiso malunga nokutsala abantu basetyhini kumadoda akhankanywe ngezantsi.
1. Ukudibana kwamehlo
Eyona ndlela ilula yokutsala umfazi kukudibana nabo emehlweni. Xa utshixiwe kumdlalo wokudibana kwamehlo kunye nomntu obhinqileyo, zama ukubamomotheka; oku kwenza ukuba intombazana ikhululeke xa ikunye nawe.
Uphando olwahlukileyo lubonakalisile ukuba ukudibana kwamehlo kuchaphazela njani izenzo zabanye abakungqongileyo, ngakumbi ekwakheni umtsalane ongaziwayo.
Uncumo olufudumeleyo luneentsingiselo ezifanayo; ukuncuma kuzisa ulonwabo kunye nolonwabo. Oku kukunceda ukuba unxibelelane kwangoko nabantu abakungqongileyo. Ukumomotheka kuyindlela enamandla kakhulu abantu abavame ukuyihoxisa.
Ukubamba abafowunelwa ngamehlo kubonisa ukuba uyazithemba kwaye uncumo olufudumeleyo lubonisa ukuba ungumntu onobuhlobo.
Zombini ezi mpawu zibalulekile xa utsala umntu wasetyhini. Ngoku ukugcina ukudibana kwamehlo ngokuzithemba kunokuba nzima ukuba unovalo, ke ukuze uzenzele lula, unokwenza izinto ezimbini.
Kuqala, jonga amehlo kwaye uphefumle nzulu- oku kuya kukunceda uphumle. Okwesibini, yenza unxibelelwano lwakho lufudumale kwaye lumeme ngokumomotheka ngamehlo akho.
Sukuba neentloni kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, lazi ixesha lokwahlukana ukuze ungabonakali utyhafile.
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2. Ubungqina boluntu
Abantu bayathobela ekuhlaleni, kwaye ke izenzo zethu nezinto esizikhethayo zichaphazeleka koko sikubonayo kwindawo esihlala kuyo.
Impembelelo kwezentlalo kokulungileyo, okubi, okunomtsalane, into ecekisekayo, njl.njl.
Kodwa, ingaba le nto ihambelana njani nento efunwa ngumfazi okanye indlela yokwenza umfazi akufune?
Njengabanye abantu abaninzi abamngqongileyo, wayeya kuphazanyiswa yinto enomdla. Into oyifunayo apha kukusebenzisa oku ukuze kuzuze.
Ukuba ungqongwe ngabafazi abanomtsalane nokuba ngoogxa bakho kuphela, amanye amantombazana aya kuqala ukuzibuza ukuba yintoni le yenza ukuba aba bafazi beme nawe.
Oku kuya kubenza babe nomdla kwaye banomdla kuwe, ke ngaphandle kokuthetha, unokuba nomtsalane ngokuzenzekelayo kwabanye abantu basetyhini abakhoyo kwindawo leyo.
3. I-banter engengomlomo
Ngoku, eli candelo linokubonakala ngathi ngumntwana kuwe, kodwa yenye indlela elula kakhulu yokutsala umntu wasetyhini.
Ukuba uhlala ujonga umfazi ongatshatanga egumbini kwaye ufuna ukuthatha izinto ngenotshi, yenza ubuso obusileyo.
Uluvo apha kukujika ibanter yokudlala ibe ngudlalani, ngokungathanga ngqo. Ukwenza intetho ebubudenge kodwa ehlekisayo kuyaphula naliphi na iqhwa phakathi kwenu nobabini.
I-banter engathethiyo iya kumenza ahleke kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba eze kuwe kwaye aqale incoko. Khumbula, nje ukuba ancume, ukuqala incoko kuya kuba lula kakhulu.
4. Zitsale ngenkangeleko yakho
Inkangeleko yakho inento yokwenza nendlela abantu abakujonga ngayo kwaye yinto ebalulekileyo kwinto etsala abantu basetyhini emadodeni.
Ayikuko ukuba akufuneki uzibonakalise ukuba ungubani na, kodwa ungasoloko uphucula kwinkcazo-ntetho.
Iimpawu zokuqala zibalulekile, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuba amabhinqa akuqaphele, kuya kufuneka unxibe kakuhle.
Abafazi bagweba indoda ngendlela enxiba ngayo; ukuba unxibe ijean ebhityileyo ekrazulwe kwiindawo, unokulahleka ngokulula ithuba lakho lokutsala umntu wasetyhini.
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana intombazana yeklasi, ke qiniseka ukuba unxibe ngendlela yeklasi, mhlawumbi kwi-ole elungileyo 'ijini yejini kunye nehempe entle.
Into efunwa ngabafazi emadodeni ayikokutshintsha kodwa kukuzityhila kwinguqulelo yabo, kwaye ukuba uyile nto ayifunayo, ukunxiba kakuhle kuya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukumchukumisa.
Kuphephe ukunxiba iihempe ezinezilogeni ezifana nokuthi “Masonge amanzi ngokuhlamba kunye. Jonga ucocekile kwaye ucocekile; gcina izihlangu zakho zicocekile, iinzipho zichetyiwe, kunye neempahla zicinezelwe; oku kuya kunceda ekutsaleni intombazana oyithandayo.
5. Ulwimi lomzimba
Ngaba ujonge iindlela ezingathethiyo ngendlela yokwenza ukuba abafazi bathande wena? Ewe, lixesha lokuba ujonge ulwimi lwakho lomzimba.
Ulwimi lomzimba yenye yeenkangeleko zomntu. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yobungakanani bokubaluleka kwayo kunye nobunzima, ifuna ingqwalaselo enkulu.
Abafazi banokuxela ngokulula kakhulu ngokujonga nje ulwimi lwakho lomzimba. Ukuba ufuna ukuzithemba xa utsala umntu wasetyhini, ke qiniseka ukuba ulwimi lomzimba wakho lusephepheni.
Ukuvela ngokuzithemba zama ukuma mde; yima ngokungathi kukho umtya onamathele kumqolo wakho entlokweni yakho.
Gcina amagxa akho etyhalelwa emva kwaye uhlale ukhululekile. Thatha umoya kunye noncumo ebusweni bakho. Kuphephe ukuhamba-hamba ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye musa ukubadunga. Ukubambelela kulwimi lomzimba wakho kunokukwenza ubonakale unomtsalane.
Eyona ndlela yokutsala abasetyhini kukuzama ukubenza bakusukele; Eli linqaku lokuqala lokuba nomtsalane kwabasetyhini.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukugxila ekuzonwabiseni, ukonwabele ukuphuma kwakho ebusuku, kwaye ugcine uncumo ebusweni bakho; oku kuyakwenza ukuba umfazi akusukele kwaye afune ukujoyina ubumnandi.