Umxholo
- Sukuzama ukuzilungisa
- Chonga ezibangela
- Thetha nabo
- Kuthekani ukuba imbambano yosapho igqithisa?
- Vumela ixesha liphole
Yinyani yobomi ukuba sonke sinobuntu kunye neempawu ezahlukileyo, yile nto isenza sahluke njengabantu kwaye isenze sibe yile nto siyiyo.
Kukwanikwe ukuba ngenxa yale nto, asizukuqhubeka okanye sivumelane naye wonke umntu esidibana naye. Rhoqo, ukuba udibana nomntu ocelomngeni okanye onzima ke kulula ukubagcina kubude bengalo, nciphisa ixesha olichitha nabo okanye unqumle amaqhina ngokupheleleyo.
Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa umntu onengxaki elilungu losapho lwakho?
Iimbambano zosapho zihlala zingumbandela onxunguphalisayo, olusizi kwaye odidayo ukujongana nawo. Ngeso sizathu, sakhe amanyathelo alula anokukunceda ukuba uqonde, unxibelelane kwaye ujongane nezihlobo ezinzima nokuba kwenzeka ntoni xa ingxabano yosapho igqithile kumhlaba woxolelwaniso.
Sukuzama ukuzilungisa
Kubalulekile ukwamkela ilungu losapho ukuba lingoobani kwaye ungazami ukutshintsha, oku kuya kubangela uxinzelelo ngakumbi kwaye kunokubakhokelela ekubeni bakucaphukele kwaye badale iingxaki ezingakumbi.
Endaweni yoko, zama ukugxila kwiimpawu ezintle kubudlelwane bakho kwaye hayi kwinto ekucaphukisayo.
Zama ukudwelisa iimpawu zabo ezilungileyo kunye nefuthe eliluncedo abanalo kusapho ngokubanzi.
Ukugxila kokuhle kungasinceda ukuba sibone umbono, ukugcina amanqanaba oxinzelelo ngokwenza ukuba ubanyamezele ngakumbi kwaye ngethemba lokunceda omabini amaqela ukuba ahlale phantsi aze afikelele kwisivumelwano.
Chonga ezibangela
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyakubakho izifundo ezithile okanye izihloko ezibuthathaka ezibangela ukungavisisani. Ukuba uyazi ukuba ukuxoxa ngesihloko esithile kubangela ukungaziphathi kakuhle okanye ukuphela kwempikiswano eshushu ke thintela isihloko sonke.
Ukuxoxa nje ngezihloko ezibangela ukuba amaqela omabini angaxinzeleleki kunye neemvakalelo, kuya kuthintela nina nobabini ekubeni niqhubeke ngendlela eyakhayo.
Thetha nabo
Nje ukuba uyenze into oza kuyithetha, hlala phantsi uthethe nabo ucinga ngako konke oku kungentla. Qiniseka ukuba uyabambelela ngokusebenzisa iingxelo zika- “Ndi” kodwa ungaziboni unomsindo.
Nika ilungu losapho lwakho ithuba lokuthetha ukuze bazame ukufikelela kwisiseko sokuba kutheni besenza ngale ndlela benza ngayo.
Banike ithuba lokuba baveze uluvo lwabo ngokupheleleyo okanye kutheni beziva begwetywe okanye bengaqondwa kakuhle.
Oku kunokukunceda uqonde oyena nobangela wengxaki kwaye ufumane indlela yokuyisombulula.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuhlala uzolile kuphela kwendlela onokuthi ume ngayo naliphi na ithuba lokusombulula umba. Ukuba isizalwane sakho sithetha okanye senza into ekucaphukisayo, zisuse kwimeko uhambe uye kuzola imizuzu emihlanu okanye elishumi okanye ulungiselele elinye ixesha lokuthetha.
Kuthekani ukuba imbambano yosapho igqithisa?
Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba umthanda kangakanani umntu, ufuna ukumkhathalela kwaye unomdla entliziyweni yakhe, ezinye izinto azinakusombululeka ngokulula, ngakumbi xa ujongene nesalamane okanye umntu odelelayo.
Ukuba izinto ziba nzulu kwaye kubonakala ngathi akukho ndlela yokuphuma, unokufuna ukubonisana negqwetha lesimangalo ukuze ube ngumlamli phakathi kwala maqela mabini kwaye uzame ukufikelela kwisisombululo.
Vumela ixesha liphole
Njengoko ilizwi lihamba, ixesha liphilisa. Kulungile ukuthatha ixesha ukusuka kwisihlobo sakho ukuvumela uthuli luzinze.Okwangoku, kunokwenzeka ukuba wakhe ingqumbo kwilungu losapho elinokwenza kube nzima ukulawula indlela osabela ngayo kwaye uziva ngathi.
Zinike ixesha lokuphumla, ucamngce, uhlengahlengise kwaye uzalisekise utshintsho ekuvunyelwene ngalo. Ixesha linokuba sesona sithako sigqibeleleyo sokuvumela ubudlelwane bakho ukuba bakhe kwaye bukhule kwakhona kwaye ukhumbule, ukuba ezi zinto azenzeki ngobusuku obunye.