Umxholo
Ngaba kuyamangalisa kule mihla ukuba abantu babe nolindelo olungeyonyani malunga nobudlelwane? Ayisiyiyo kwaphela into yokuba abantu bakhangele umntu "ongaphandle kweligi yabo" - bajonge into engekhoyo. Njengabantwana, sikhula sinemihlaba emnandi kunye nothando oluthandekayo- kwaye abo bantwana bakhula befuna into evela kwi-fairytale okanye kwi-movie. Inyaniso yokuba abantu abaninzi kangaka bajonga ubudlelwane ngale ndlela ayizenzekeli; Imithombo yeendaba iyiphembelela kakhulu indlela ukuthandana okujongwa ngayo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje. Ukujonga ngokukhawuleza kwithiyori yokulima kuya kunceda ukucacisa indlela imithombo yeendaba kunye nenkcubeko ye pop ezitshintshe ngayo indlela abantu abajonga ngayo ubudlelwane bezothando.
Ithiyori yokulima
Ithiyori yokulima yithiyori evela ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yoo-1960 ethi iindlela zonxibelelwano ezinje ngomabonwakude okanye i-intanethi zizixhobo ezinokuthi uluntu lusasaze izimvo zalo malunga nexabiso lalo. Le yithiyori echaza ukuba kutheni umntu obukele ulwaphulo-mthetho ebonisa imini yonke enokuthi akholelwe ukuba amaqondo olwaphulo-mthetho eluntwini aphakamileyo kunokuba enjalo.
La maxabiso akufuneki abe yinyani ukuze asasazwe; Kufuneka zithwalwe ziinkqubo ezifanayo ezihambisa zonke ezinye izimvo. Umntu unokujonga ithiyori yokuLima ukuze aqonde indlela imiboniso bhanyabhanya kunye neenkqubo zikamabonwakude eziye zathothisa ngayo kwiimbono zethu zehlabathi. Ayimangalisi ke into yokuba iingcinga ezixhaphakileyo zothando ezivela kwimithombo yeendaba zisasazwa kuluntu ngokubanzi.
Ukusasaza ulwazi olungelulo
Esinye sezizathu zokuba kutheni abantu banezimvo ezininzi ezimbi malunga nobudlelwane kukuba izimvo zisasazeka ngokulula. Ezothando sisihloko esimnandi kuyo nayiphi na indlela yemidiya- iyasonwabisa kwaye ityhala onke amaqhosha afanelekileyo okwenza imali yeendaba. Ezothando yeyona nto iphambili kumava oluntu exhaphake kuyo yonke enye into. Xa imithombo yeendaba yethu inyanzelisa izimvo ezithile malunga nokuthandana, ezo zimvo zisasazeka ngokulula ngakumbi kunamava afanayo obuhlobo bobudlelwane bokwenyani. Ewe kunjalo, abantu abaninzi banamava eendaba zothando olude ngaphambi kokuba bazibonele nantoni na.
Ubudenge beNcwadana yokubhalela
Ukuba ufuna ukujonga isaphuli-mthetho esiphambili sendlela inkcubeko ye-pop inokutshintsha ngayo ukujonga ubudlelwane, umntu akufuneki ajonge ngaphezulu kweNcwadana. Ifilimu ethandwayo yothando icinezela ulwalamano olupheleleyo kwithuba elifutshane kakhulu, ibeka uxanduva kwelinye iqela ukuba lenze izijekulo ezikhulu kwaye elinye iqela lingacingi nto ngaphandle kokwenza izinto njengobungqina bothando. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukukhawuleza, kube kanye-ukungangxami-ukungabinanto ngokufanayo, ukungakhi ubomi, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungafundi ukuhlonipha nokukhathalela omnye umntu ngokulungileyo nokubi. Uluntu lwethu luyaluthanda udaba oluvakalayo lothando-asibukhathalelanga kwaphela nobomi ekwabelwana ngabo obuzayo.
Ingxaki ye-rom-com
Ngelixa iNcwadi yamanqaku inengxaki, ayisiyonto xa ithelekiswa nohlobo lwee-comedies zothando. Kwezi bhanyabhanya, ubudlelwane buye babiliselwa kwindawo ephezulu engenangqondo kunye neelows. Isifundisa ukuba indoda mayileqe ibhinqa kwaye indoda mayiguquke ukuze ikulungele ukwamkelwa ziiparitha zabo. Kwangokunjalo, inika umbono wokuba ukuzingisa kuphela kwendlela yokubonisa uthando-ngaphandle kweempendulo ezimbi. Ayisiyampilo, ithatha ingqalelo, kwaye ihlala ibandakanya ukuthintela iiodolo.
Imithombo yeendaba izenzele eyayo intsomi yothando ukonwabisa kunye nokugcina ababukeli. Ngelishwa, kuye kwahlakulela izimvo malunga nobudlelwane ezingasebenzi kwilizwe lokwenyani. Ngelixa ubudlelwane kumajelo eendaba bunokuzisa iidola zentengiso kwaye bagcine amabali eendaba kufanelekile, ngokuqinisekileyo abamele uhlobo lolwalamano olusempilweni olunokukhokelela kulwaneliseko lomntu.
URyan Bridges
URyan Bridges ngumbhali onegalelo kunye neengcali kwimithombo yeendaba yeVerdant Oak yezeMpilo. Uhlala evelisa umxholo wolwalamano lobuqu kunye neebhloko zebhlogi.