Umxholo
- Ngaba iindlela ezahlukileyo zichaphazela ubudlelwane?
- Yintoni ebangela ukuba silahlekelwe ngumbono?
- Uloyiko lwembono yethu yokungavunywa yinto enkulu
- Ukufunda ukubona izinto ngokwembono yeqabane lakho
Kutshanje ndithathe intombi yam eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala ukuya kumyezo wezilwanyana.Waphakama wasondela kufutshane neglasi apho kuhlala izilwanyana ezincinci.
Ukhale ngokungaboni izilwanyana ezininzi ezikweso sikhundla. Ndacacisa ukuba ukuze akwazi ukubona uninzi lwezilwanyana nakweyiphi na indawo evaliweyo kufuneka eme ngasemva.
Akakhange ayifumane loo nto ukuze abone umfanekiso opheleleyo ekufuneka ewenzile ukubuyela umva ukuze afumane umbono ngakumbi.
Wayevuya kakhulu akufunda lo mgaqo ulula.
Ngaba iindlela ezahlukileyo zichaphazela ubudlelwane?
Xa ndisebenza nabantu abatshatileyo, bahlala bekufumanisa kunzima ukuvuma ukuba ngowuphi owona mceli mngeni wabo kuba bayazithanda izinto abajongana nazo.
Bemi kufutshane kakhulu nendawo apho bangaboniyo umfanekiso omkhulu.
Banokubona ezabo iimbono kodwa bakufumanisa kunzima ukubona iimpembelelo zabo kumaqabane abo. Isizathu sokuba sihlala singayiqondi ifuthe lethu kwiqabane lethu kungenxa yezinto ezintathu eziphambili.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba silahlekelwe ngumbono?
- Eyethu uloyiko lokuphulukana nembono yethu
- Eyethu uloyiko lokungabonwa nokuviwa liqabane lethu
- Ubuvila bethu. Kuthetha ukuba asinakukhathazeka, kwaye sifuna le nto siyifunayo.
Izizathu ezibini zokuqala zokungakwazi ukubona umbono womnye umntu, uloyiko lokungavunywa kunye nokuphulukana nembono yethu zihlala zingene nzulu kwingqondo yethu asazi nokuba kutheni silwa nzima kangaka.
Ngamanye amagama siyazi ukuba kubalulekile. Kodwa asazi ukuba kutheni.
Ezi zizathu zihlala zigcinwe ngokunzulu kwaye ziluhlaza kwaye zibuhlungu kangangokuba nokuzamkela kuthi kunzima.
Rhoqo olu loyiko lokulahleka luvela kwindawo enzulu kwaye eyoyikisayo.
Mhlawumbi asikaze sizive sibonwa kwiintsapho esikhulele kuzo. Okanye xa sibonwa kwaye seva ukuba senziwa intlekisa.
Uloyiko lwembono yethu yokungavunywa yinto enkulu
Masithembeke, kubuhlungu ukuvuma ukuba sinesidingo esinzulu sokubonwa, ukuviwa kunye nokwamkelwa. Ngokukodwa xa le iyinto ekudala sijongana nayo.
Ukonqena kwethu, unobangela wesithathu wokuphulukana nembono kuhlala kusisiphumo sokungakhathali. Okanye ukuphuma kwezinye izizathu ezibini.
Kuba khange silufumane uhoyo esasiludinga rhoqo kwaye silulangazelela, oluvela kubazali bethu okanye kwabo basikhathalelayo, siba nobunzima kwaye sifumanisa kunzima ukuba sithambe kunye nalowo simthandayo.
Sifuna ukuba babekhona ngenxa yethu, kodwa akufuneki ukuba sinikezele kubo.
Abanye benu oku kunokubonakala kucacile ukuba kufuneka sibekhona kumaqabane ethu. Kwabanye oku kunokuba ngumzuzu wokwenene we-aha.
Ukufunda ukubona izinto ngokwembono yeqabane lakho
Zeziphi iindlela zokuqonda ngakumbi kubudlelwane?
Ngokuzivumela ukuba ngaphandle koloyiko sithathe inyathelo lokubuyela emva kwaye sibone izinto ngokwembono yeqabane lethu oku kuya kuqinisa ubudlelwane kwaye kukwenze uzive usondele omnye komnye.
Okukhona iqabane lakho likubona usenza umzamo wokuqonda izinto ngokwembono yazo, kokukhona uliqabane lakho okanye umhla uya kufuna ukwenza okufanayo kuwe. Ngokulandela iindlela zokugcina ubudlelwane bakho bukwimeko elungileyo, unokwenza ubudlelwane obunothando nobunamandla.