Umxholo
- Singobani
- Impixano -Ukuqonda kunye nengqondo engeyiyo
- Ukufumana isiqu sakho sokwenyani
- Ukhetho
- Ukusondelelana
Umphilisi wokwenene uyonwaba xa achacha umntu ngamnye. ” UMarvin L. Wilkerson, CH.
Singobani
Umyalelo ophambili womntu kukucaciswa ukuba singoobani.
Ukusukela ngexesha lokuzalwa, siqala inkqubo yethu. Inkqubo yenziwa ngabazali, ootitshala, abantakwenu (ubudlelwane bokuqala bomntu), abahlobo kunye noontanga, uluntu, nokuba ngubani na ophethe isiseko.
Le nkqubo iba lolona lwimi lwethu lusetyenziswayo ukuchaza inyani yethu. Endleleni eya ebudaleni, sithatha amava eemvakalelo adibanisa neemvakalelo zethu neemvakalelo zethu.
Ngeminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala njengabantu abadala abakulungeleyo ukuthatha umhlaba kunye namaphupha ethu. Silungiselelwe ngokupheleleyo.
Inxalenye entle yamakhono ethu njengomntu kukuba ngumdali. Njani?
Nantoni na esicinga ukuba siyayenza. Eyona nto sigxile ekucingeni kwethu, kokukhona ingcinga iyinyani. Sonke sifunde kubaphathi abaninzi; singabadali bobomi bethu.
Ukuba ngumntu onamandla kangaka ukuvelisa izinto eziyinyani kuzisa uxanduva.
Ukusukela ekucingeni kwethu okanye kwinkqubo, kunye namava abonakalisiweyo, emva koko siyiprojektha yobomi bethu.
Nangona kunjalo, iingxaki zivela ngenxa yomahluko phakathi kwengqondo kunye nengqondo.
Inyani yile C, kwaye ingqondo engacacanga kulapho imemori yokwenyani kunye neenjongo eziphezulu zigcinwa khona.
Impixano -Ukuqonda kunye nengqondo engeyiyo
Iingqondo ezimbini zahlukile kwimisebenzi yazo. Ingqondo eqondayo kulapho i-ego yethu / ubuntu besiqhubela khona kulonwabo kunye nokuzuza.
Ingqondo engeyiyo ingqondo enamandla ngakumbi njengomkhuseli wethu, ukugcina imizimba yethu isebenza, kunye nokuchonga izoyikiso kubukho bethu. Kodwa ayipheleli apho.
I-subconscious kulapho umbono wethu uhambisa umyalezo kwamanye amalungu engqondo athi ekugqibeleni azise le fomu kwiminqweno yethu.
Kwi-subconscious, amandla omphefumlo ayasebenza, enika imiyalezo efihlakeleyo yesikhokelo esibizwa ngokuba yi-intuition.
Ezi ngqondo zimbini zinxibelelana ngapha nangapha zisebenzisa inkqubo, amava, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, kunye nokuqonda, okanye isikhokelo.
Ngaba umbuzo ke uba ngubani esiza kumphendula?
Rhoqo kunokuba kungenjalo, siphendula kule nto siyicingayo, ekhululeke ngakumbi kuba iyaziwa. Ukudibanisa konke oku kukuzibandakanya kwethu / ubuntu obunqwenela ulonwabo kunye nokufumana inkqubo kunye namava.
Ukungqubana koku kuyimpendulo kwizigqibo zethu.
Umbutho ngokuqinisekileyo unento onokuyithetha malunga nembono yethu yezinto. Ewe kuyanamathela xa sisenza ubudlelwane bobuqu kwaye sisondelelene, sichaza yonke inkqubo yethu yobomi kunye namava ethu anokubamba uloyiko, ukuziva unetyala, ukuthandabuza, iintloni kunye nomgwebo.
Bukela kwakhona: Ukuqonda kunye nokucinga okungacacanga
Ukufumana isiqu sakho sokwenyani
Sifuna ukucaciswa kuqala nokuphambili ukufezekisa iinjongo zethu zento esiyifunayo ebomini.
Ukucaca kuthetha ukuba kufuneka siqhubele phambili ukusuka kwiinkolelo ezithile kunye nemibono malunga nehlabathi kunye nezinye ezibandakanya uthando, izihlobo, kwaye kunjalo, amaphupha ethu ukuba acace malunga nokuba singobani ngaphakathi.
Ngokwenyani kufuneka sazi ngenkqubo yethu engaqondakaliyo, ephendula ngokuzenzekelayo ngendlela esifunde ngayo kunye namava obomi.
Ukucaca ukuba kutheni sisenza le nto siyenzayo kuyingxaki, ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuba ingqondo yengqondo iphendula ubomi kwiimillisecond ezimbini ngelixa ingqondo ephilayo ifikelela kwisigqibo ngeemililitha ezingama-50.
Kwaye nje ukuba ithathe isigqibo, yinto ezaliswe yi-ego / ubuntu, uloyiko, ukuziva unetyala, ukungathandabuzeki, ihlazo, kunye nokugweba ukuba asiyifumananga inkqubo yethu ukuze sikwazi ukukhetha ukhetho olungcono oluya kubonakalisa ngokunyanisekileyo ngendlela zive.
Iimvakalelo ziyinyani; iingcinga zisenokuba ziyinyani.
Ukhetho
Eyona ndlela ilula yokukhetha kunye nokwazisa ukuba ungubani uqobo lwakho ngobuhlobo bobuqu, ngakumbi ngakumbi kubudlelwane obusondeleyo okanye bomtshato. Ngamanye amagama, uzama ukuzifumana ukuthandana. Kwaye ngoba?
Ngenxa yokuba sitsala esikudingayo ukuba sikhule, siqikelele ulwalamano lwethu ebomini bethu ukuba sibe sisiseko sento esiyicingayo nesiziva ngayo. Ngoku inkqubo kunye namava angaqhubekekiyo abonakaliswa ngokupheleleyo.
Ke sinomdla kwelinye ngesiseko sokuba bamele into esiyicingayo, okanye esiyithandayo. Ewe kolu mtsalane luphawu esiluthandayo kodwa kungabonakali ngathi sinalo.
Inyani yile, "esinayo kuthi into esiyibonayo kwabanye." Kodwa, sityikitya ikhontrakthi kuba iqabane lethu elizayo lisizisela enye into etafileni ukwakha ubomi bethu obulungileyo. Ukwahlulahlula kuqala.
Endleleni yokuzifumana usebudlelwaneni, ungquzulwano lwakho sele luqalile ngaphakathi kwenu, phakathi kwento ocinga ngayo nendlela oziva ngayo.
Ke into oyitsalileyo ngumchasi oza kukucel'umngeni ekucwangciseni kwaye ukhethe ukuba ufuna ukuba ngubani, apho ukucinga kunye nemvakalelo kufuneka ivumelane.
Ukusondelelana
Emva kokuba ulwalamano luqala, umngeni wangempela wokuzifumana ulwalamano luhamba ngokugcwele.
I-in-me-see ichaza konke ukucinga kwethu, iimvakalelo, ityala, ukungathandabuzeki, iintloni kunye noloyiko ebomini bethu. Umsebenzi wobudlelwane kukulungisa imodeli yethu yehlabathi kunye nathi.
Ewe, umsebenzi wayo! Akukho namnye owathi ukuvela kwezinto kwakulula kwaye kulula. Kwaye ukuza komntu osengozini kuye kunokwenza umceli mngeni ube nzima ngakumbi. Kodwa, ubatsalile ukuba bakubonise ukuba ungubani, kwaye bayakunceda ekufumaneni isiqobo sakho.
Eyona njongo iphambili yobudlelwane kukubonisa iinjongo zakho kunye nenkuthazo yokwenza nokuba ngubani oye kuwo wonke umzuzu wobomi bakho. Ke luphi uxanduva kwiingxabano kubudlelwane?
Inyaniso kuxa umntu etyhala amaqhosha akho. Ngunobangela wenye yeenkqubo zakho okanye amava angasonjululwanga. Luxanduva lwakho ukuqaphela ubunyani bengcinga yakho nokuba kutheni sitsalile ungquzulwano, oluthi, enyanisweni, lube kukungqubana ngaphakathi kwethu.
Isishwankathelo
Zonke iingxaki ziqala ngenkqubo yakho kunye nemodeli yakho yehlabathi. Zonke izisombululo zongquzulwano ziphela ngokuthatha uxanduva kunye nokufunda kwimpixano.
Ukucinga sisiseko sobunyani obenzileyo. Iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ziyinyani yokuba ungubani.
Ke, Kuya kufuneka ujongane kwaye wabelane ngento oziva ngayo kwaye uzame ukuba nguwe kubudlelwane. Ayisiyiyo le uyicingayo.
Xa iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zilungelelanisiwe, ume kwisiqu sakho esinyanisekileyo. Uvuyo luyimveliso yokugqibela.