Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wakho useqongeni kwigumbi elinabantu abaninzi. Kuya kufuneka unike intetho. Kwisihloko ongazi nto ngaso. Njengoko abaphulaphuli bekujongile, uva intliziyo yakho iqala ukubetha ngokukhawuleza. Isisu sakho siqala ukuduma. Isifuba sakho siyakuqinisa, kakhulu ingathi uhleli umntu kuwe. Awunakuphefumla. Ukubila kweentende zakho. Isiyezi siqala. Kwaye okubi ngakumbi, uva ilizwi lakho langaphakathi lisithi "ufuna ntoni apha?", "Kutheni ungayivuma le nto?", "Wonke umntu ucinga ukuba usisidenge". Ngesiquphe, sonke isandi esincinci siyaphakanyiswa - usiba oluwela phantsi luvakala ngokungathi umntu ulahle isiciko sebhotile kwi-ceramic, amehlo akho ajikeleza egumbini njengokugcwala kwezaziso zefowuni kuvakala ngathi ligquba leenyosi ezinomsindo. Abantu bajonge kuwe, balindele ukuba uthethe, kwaye into oyibonayo bubuso babo obucaphukileyo. Umi apho ucinga, “ndingabalekela phi?”
Ngoku khawufane ucinge ukuba nokona kuncinci kwemisebenzi kukwenza uzive ngale ndlela. Ukucinga malunga nokuthetha nomphathi wakho, ukuthatha ibhasi enabantu abaninzi, ukuqhuba kwindlela ongaqhelananga nayo konke kukwenza ube novalo olunamandla. Nokuba ungena kwivenkile yokutya ukuze ufumane ubisi kwaye ubone wonke umntu ejonge kuwe-kodwa akunjalo. Oku kuhlala noxinzelelo.
Yintoni ixhala?
Ixhala ngumceli mngeni oqhelekileyo kwimpilo yengqondo. Ngokutsho kweZiko leLizwe lezeMpilo yengqondo, i-18% yabantu abadala bahlala nengxaki yokuxhalaba. Ukuxhalaba yimeko yendalo kwaye sonke siya kuba noxinzelelo ebomini bethu. Nangona kunjalo, kwabo banengxaki yokuxhalaba, inkxalabo iyaqhubeka ngokwaneleyo ukuba uxinzelelo olubangelwa luphazamise ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Banokuya kubude obude bokwenza iinjineli ebomini babo ukuthintela iziganeko eziqhelekileyo zemihla ngemihla ezibangela ukuba babe nexhala, nto leyo ebangela uxinzelelo kunye nokudinwa.
Ixhala alichaphazeli abantu abadala kuphela, kodwa nabantwana. Tweet oku
Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokuxhalaba, zininzi izinto onokuthi uziqaphele, kubandakanya:
- Ukukhathazeka okungapheliyo kunye nokugqithisa
- Ukubambelela, ukulila, kunye nomsindo xa bohlukana nabazali babo (kwaye abangabo bancinci okanye iintsana)
- Izikhalazo ezingapheliyo malunga nokuqaqanjelwa sisisu okanye ezinye izikhalazo ngaphandle kokucaciswa ngonyango
- Ukujonga izizathu zokuphepha iindawo okanye iminyhadala ebangela ixhala
- Ukurhoxa ekuhlaleni
- Ubunzima bokulala
- Ukuchasa kwindawo ephezulu, exakekileyo
Ukubukela umntwana wakho esokola ngale ndlela kunzima kubazali. Ngombulelo, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukunceda umntwana wakho aphathe iimpawu zakhe zoxinzelelo.
Fundisa umntwana wakho izicwangciso ezifanelekileyo zokubanceda boyise uxinzelelo Tweet oku
- Ukulinganisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo: qinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba wonke umntu uziva enexhala ngamanye amaxesha kwaye yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuziva. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba uxhalaba lunako zive eyoyikisayo (ngakumbi xa sisiva imizimba yethu isabela) kodwa ixhala alinakukukhathaza. Bafundise ukuba bathethe bodwaOku kuyothusa, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba ndikhuselekile. ” Bakhumbuze ukuba yeyokwexeshana kwaye neziqendu ezixhalabisayo ziyaphela. Umntwana wakho unokuthi kuye “Uxinzelelo lwam luzama ukundigcina ndikhuselekile, kodwa ndilungile. Enkosi ngokundikhangela, unxunguphalo. ”
- Yakha amasiko okuphumla kumhla womntwana wakho: mfundise ukuba enze ixesha lokuphumla libe yinxalenye yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla ukubanceda ukuba bakhulule uxinzelelo kwisakhiwo. Eli ingalixesha lokuphumla emva kwesikolo okanye ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba aqaphele umzimba wakhe ngaphambi nasemva, eqaphela umohluko kwimisipha yabo, okanye “kumabhabhathane esisu”. Zenzele inxenye yesiko. Abantwana bafunda ukuzonwabisa ngokwenza ukuba abazali babo baxolise kubo kuqala. Unokuba nazo emva kokuphuma kwesikolo, ixesha lokufunda, okanye unike umntwana wakho umyalezo othambileyo. Izinto ezibandakanya ukuphathaphatha, ukufudumala, kunye nokuthetha ngethoni ethomalalisayo zisebenza kakhulu.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukucamngca, iindlela zokuphefumla, kunye nokuphumla kwezihlunu: obu buchule bufunyenwe bunceda abantu bazilawule kwaye "baphile ngoku." Oku kuluncedo kubantwana abaxhalabileyo kuba bahlala becinga ngekamva. Bafundise ukuba baphefumle ngesisu endaweni yamagxa abo. Xa bephefumla, bafundise ukubala ukuya kwi-4 entloko. Banokuphefumlela ngaphandle ukuya kwisine. Yenza oku ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngomzuzu omnye kwaye ubenze bajonge indlela abavakalelwa ngayo emva koko. Zininzi iindlela zokucamngca ezingqiniweyo zabantwana. Inethiwekhi yezeMpilo yaBantwana noLutsha ye-Ontario yeMpuma inenkqubo entle ebizwa ngokuba ziiMasters zeNgqondo. Banikezela nge-CD yasimahla, enokukhutshelwa onokuyenza nomntwana wakho apha: http://www.cyhneo.ca/mini-mindmasters.
- Ukufundisa umntwana wakho emhlabeni: ixhala linokuhlala liza neengcinga zokubaleka. Ukuzama ngamandla ukuyeka ezo ngcinga kunokwenza mandundu. Ukubuyisela ingqalelo kwi-anchor ngokwakho okwangoku kuphumelele ngakumbi. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angakwenza njani oku ngokubanika izinto ezintlanu abanokuziva ecaleni kwabo, izinto ezintlanu abanokuzibona, izinto ezintlanu ezinokuziva nezinto ezintlanu ezinokuziva. Ezi mvakalelo zijikeleze thina ngalo lonke ixesha kodwa sihlala sizikhupha. Ukubuyisela ezi zinto kuthi ukuba ziqwalaselwe kunokuba yinto ezolileyo kwaye isebenze.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokuqonda unxunguphalo emzimbeni wakhe: Umntwana wakho usenokuba uyazi xa enexhala eliphezulu. Into anokungaqondi ngayo kukuba ixhala lakha njani. Banike umfanekiso womntu. Bacele umbala kuyo ukubonisa indlela abaziva ngayo ukuba banexhala. Banokufaka umbala ekubhaleni ngaphezulu kwentliziyo yabo, okanye emanzini aluhlaza ezandleni zabo ezintendeni ezibilayo. Thetha malunga neemeko zoxinzelelo ezisezantsi neziphezulu kwaye uphinde lo msebenzi. Bafundise ukuba babone xa benamaxhala emizimbeni yabo kwaye ubancede basebenzise iindlela zokulwa ngaphambili inqanaba loxinzelelo lwabo liphezulu kakhulu.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukubopha nokukhulula: Abanye abantwana basabela kakuhle xa bexina yonke imisipha abanayo ngokuqina kangangoko banako, bayeke oko. Bacele ukuba bakhame izandla zabo kwelona nqindi liqinileyo kangangoko banako kwaye bakhame! ..... khama! ......... cwina! Buza ukuba ziziva njani izandla zabo. Emva koko yenze ngeengalo, amagxa, iinyawo, imilenze, isisu, ubuso kunye nemizimba yabo yonke. Bameme ukuba bavale amehlo abo kwaye bathathe imiphefumlo embalwa emva koko kwaye uqaphele indlela abavakalelwa ngayo imizimba yabo.
Ngexesha kunye nomonde, umntwana wakho angafunda ukuphatha xa uxinzelelo luziva lukhulu. Kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha lakho kwisicwangciso ngasinye kwaye ungadimazeki ukuba ezinye azisebenzi kumntwana wakho. Xa ufumana isicwangciso esifanelekileyo kuwe, siya kusebenza njengekhubalo! Sukutyhafa ukuba awuyifumani "imbumbulu yomlingo" ekuqaleni kwenkqubo.
Elona candelo libalulekileyo kwezi ndlela kukuba uziqhelanise nomntwana wakho rhoqo. Ukuze umntwana wakho adibanise ukufunda, ukuziqhelanisa kufuneka kwenzeke xa beziva bezolile. Xa sele bekwazi kakuhle xa besiva kakuhle, baya kuba nethuba elikhulu lokuxhomekeka kwizixhobo zokulwa xa bengaziva mnandi.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kubalulekile ukuba uvelane nomntwana wakho. Ungaze unciphise iimvakalelo okanye iimpendulo zabo. Ukuba uhlala uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba "ahlise umoya," umyalezo osisiseko kukuba impendulo yabo ayisebenzi, ukwandisa uxinzelelo ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye ubafundise ukuba abanakuthembela kubo ukuba bazilawule xa ubomi bunzima. Yithi kubo, “Ndiyaqonda ukuba inzima le nto kuni. Ndiyazi ukuba usebenza nzima ukwenza ezi zinto zibelula. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba ungayenza. ”
Ukuxhalaba kunzima, ngakumbi kubantwana abancinci. Kodwa abantu abaninzi bayaqhubeka nokuphila ubomi obunempumelelo kwaye bade baguqulele unxunguphalo kwidrive eyomeleleyo yokufezekisa njengabantu abadala. Ngexesha kunye nomonde usapho lwakho lunokwenza amacebo anokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba oyise uxinzelelo kwaye omeleze usapho lwakho luphela.