Umxholo
- Iya kuba yinto engalindelekanga
- 1. Fumana inkqubo efanelekileyo yokuxhasa
- 2. Funa uncedo lweengcali
- 3. Yiba nobubele kuwe ngokuhlala ngaphezulu kwimpilo yakho
- 4. Thatha isigqibo sokuba "isiqalo sakho esitsha" siza kubonakala njani
- Uyakwazi njani ukuba ungaphezulu koqhawulo-mtshato wakho?
Uqhawulo-mtshato lwakho lugqityiwe, kwaye uqala ukwakha ngokutsha. Usenokuzibuza ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ngaphambi kokuba uqale uzive njengomntu wakho omdala kwakhona.
- Newsflash - Akukho xesha libekiweyo lokuphinda uqhawule kumtshato.
- Okwesibini iindaba-Ukunyanga akukaze kube ngumgca. Ngokukodwa ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato lukuvale amehlo.
Le ayisiyonto ufuna ukuyifunda, kodwa yinyani. Ukhe watyhubela kwelinye lawona mava abuhlungu umntu omdala anokuba nawo, ke kungcono uzilungiselele. Ukufumana uqhawulo mtshato yindlela ende enamagingxigingxi.
Ke, kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ngaphambi koqhawulo mtshato? Kulungile! Unokulindela ukuba namahla ndinyuka iminyaka emibini ubuncinci emva kokuphela komtshato wakho.
Iya kuba yinto engalindelekanga
Iimvakalelo zakho aziyi kulandela indlela ephezulu.
Uya kuba neentsuku apho uya kuqala ukuziva uqheleke ngakumbi, kwaye emva koko kukho into, njengokubona umfanekiso wakudala wobabini xa wawuthandana, unokukutsalela ezantsi kwinqanaba lokudakumba. Oku kuqhelekile kwaye kulindelwe.
Njengokulila, intlungu yakho ngenxa yento eyayiza kubakho iza kuza ngamaza. Njengoko ixesha liqhubeka, uya kuba neentsuku ezingcono, kodwa awunakukunyanzela ukuphilisa kwakho. "Ixesha liyaphilisa onke amanxeba" njengoko isitsho intetho, kwaye ngelixa inxeba loqhawulo-mtshato lisenokuhlala iminyaka kunye neminyaka, liya kunyamezeleka njengoko usiya phambili.
Ke, ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukufumana uqhawulo-mtshato, zinike ixesha elaneleyo ngokwakho kwaye kungekudala uza kuziva iintlungu ziyanyamezeleka. Zilungiselele, nangona kunjalo, ngamaninzi amahla ndinyuka!
Kukho izinto onokuzenza ukukhawulezisa izinto kunye nokunciphisa utshintsho lweemvakalelo. Ngaba uyazi ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba wenzakaliswe. Wawuthandana, wabelana ngobomi bomntu okhethekileyo, kwaye ngoku kuphelile. Kuya kuba nzima ukuba ungaziva ulusizi malunga noku.
Intlungu ohlangabezana nayo bubungqina bokuba ungumntu kwaye unenkathalo. Ngokwenene luphawu olulungileyo! Kodwa kuyinto engokwemvelo ukufuna ukugudla kancinane kwimiphetho ebuhlungu yosizi lwakho.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezivela kwabo babekhe bakho phambi kwakho ezokukunceda ukuba udlule kumaxesha alinga ngokulula-
1. Fumana inkqubo efanelekileyo yokuxhasa
Fikelela kubahlobo bakho. Bazise ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kwaye uyakudinga amagxa abo ukuba bakuthwale okomzuzwana. Kulungile, abahlobo bokwenene baya kuba lapho. Bathabathe kwisibonelelo sabo sokwabelana ngekofu, ukutya, ukuya kwiintshukumo, okanye ukuxhoma nje. Sukuba neentloni ngokuziringa kwaye ubuze ukuba ungaza kuthetha.
Ukuba wedwa kunokonyusa iimvakalelo zakho zokuphelelwa lithemba.
Zama kwaye ugcine ubuhlobo bakho ngalo mzuzu unzima! Kwaye yile ndlela ufumana ngayo uqhawulo mtshato.
2. Funa uncedo lweengcali
Kunqabile ukuba umntu aqhawule umtshato ngaphandle kweseshoni enye okanye ezininzi zonyango.
Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi ukuba ufumana ukuqonda (nokuba kuyinyani okanye akunjalo) ukuba abahlobo bakho bayadinwa kukuphulaphula ibali lakho lokwahlukana. Ukubonisana nengcali yezempilo yengqondo kunye nobungcali ekuncedeni abathengi ukuba bafumane uqhawulo mtshato yenye yezona mali zibalaseleyo onokuze uzisebenzise.
Bayayazi indlela yokukukhokela ngomsindo kunye nosizi kwaye banokuba sisixhobo kwinkqubo yakho yokwakha kwakhona.
3. Yiba nobubele kuwe ngokuhlala ngaphezulu kwimpilo yakho
Zimbini iindlela onokuhamba ngazo emva koqhawulo-mtshato- nokuba ungazijula kwisitya se-ayisikhrim, okanye unokuba nobubele emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho ngokutya okunempilo.
Ucinga ukuba yeyiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokufumana kwakhona? Ngelixa uzama ukunciphisa intlungu yakho ngokutya ukutya okuneswekile kunye nokutya okunamafutha kunokuthatha ingqondo yakho kwizinto okwethutyana, kudala enye ingxaki ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ekupheleni kwenkqubo yakho yokuphilisa, ngaba ufuna ukuba uhlasele iiponti ezingama-20 ezongezelelekileyo ozifakileyo? Hayi! Ufuna ukuhamba ebomini bakho obuhle uzive usempilweni kwaye woyike. Qiniseka ukuba uyokuthengela ukutya okunesondlo, ukutya okunokuphucula iimvakalelo zakho zokuzikhathalela, kunye nokukunceda ugqibe usuku ngalunye usazi ukuba wenze kakuhle emzimbeni wakho.
4. Thatha isigqibo sokuba "isiqalo sakho esitsha" siza kubonakala njani
Abanye abantu bathanda ukutshintsha yonke into emva komtshato.
Xa ubuzwa ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukufumana uqhawulo-mtshato, impendulo ikhawuleza kakhulu. Kubo, utshintsho luyabanceda ukuba balugqibe uqhawulo mtshato ngokulula nangokukhawuleza. Bahambisa izindlu, ubumelwane, nkqu namazwe ukuze imeko-bume yawo yahluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye inkumbulo yobomi babo bakudala ayibajikelezi.
Ngokwenene esi sisigqibo somntu ngamnye.
Ukuba uhlala kwikhaya obuhlala kulo neqabane lakho, unokufumana isibonelelo ngokutshintsha i-décor. Elinye ibhinqa lalisoloko liphupha ngokuba negumbi lalo lokuthunga, ngoko ke lathatha iofisi yalo wayesakuba ngumyeni walo, layipeyinta ngombala weroses othobayo, laseta umatshini walo wokuthunga apho.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, qiniseka ukuba wenza indawo yokuba yindawo yokuhlala. Isenokuba ligumbi lakho lokulala. Naphi na apho unokuhlala uzolile kwaye ubonakalise, kwaye apho uziva ngathi yindawo yakho ekhuselekileyo leyo, oko kukunceda ukuba ugqithise uqhawulo mtshato ngokulula.
Uyakwazi njani ukuba ungaphezulu koqhawulo-mtshato wakho?
Ngelishwa, akukho phawu ludanyazayo olubonisa "uMdlalo oPhezulu" xa ugqibile ngenkqubo yakho yokulila. Kodwa kukho izikhombisi ezingacacanga zokuba uphuma emahlathini. Phakathi kwezi kukho -
- Uneentsuku ezintle zokugqitha iintsuku zakho ezimbi, kwaye uneentsuku ezinde ezilungileyo.
- Uqala ukuziva unomdla kwakhona ebomini.
- Uziva ungaphantsi nangaphantsi kwesidingo sokuxelela ibali lakho loqhawulo mtshato kuye nabani na oya kulimamela. Ngapha koko, uqala ukuba nesithukuthezi ngebali, ngokwakho.
- Uyonwabile ngokwenene ukuba uwedwa. Akukho kulwa, akukho sidingo sokubuza igalelo kwiqabane lakho kwindlela oyisebenzisa ngayo imali yakho, akukho sikrokro sokuba uyakuqhatha, kwaye akusekho kuphoxeka kwizenzo zakhe. Ufundile izakhono ezininzi ezenza ukuba uzive womelele kwaye ukwazi.
- Uqala ngokwenyani ucinga ngokuthandana kwakhona. Amanyathelo omntwana, ewe. Kodwa ngoku ungaphaya koqhawulo-mtshato, lixesha lokuba ucinge malunga nokuba ufuna iqabane elinjani kwaye ufanelekile kobu bomi butsha.