Umxholo
Uluthintela njani uthando lomntu ongatshatanga kuyehla ekuhambeni kwexesha? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukugcina amabhabhathane esasikade sinawo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane?
Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuthi, emva kwexesha elithile, buphume kumnqweno kunye nemisebenzi yomlilo ukuya ekunyamekeleni ithambeka elimdaka le-ho-hum kunye nokungakhathali. Ngelishwa, kwimitshato emininzi, lo ngumgibe ekulula ukuwela kuwo.
Ngenye imini ulale ecaleni kwesithandwa sakho uze emva koko uvuke ecaleni komntu ohlala naye. Kwenzeka ngobuqhetseba ungaqondi nokuba kuyenzeka.
Kwincwadi kaSusan Piver, Iinyaniso Ezine Ezihle Zothando, uthetha ngobomi nothando echaza ukuba asinakuphila kwiPasset Passion. Ucebisa ukuba sihambe siye rhoqo kwaye sichithe ixesha elininzi kangangoko sinakho apho, kodwa asinakuhlala apho. Ubomi buyadinisa kwaye imiqobo ayinakuphepheka.
Ukuba utshatile ixesha elide uqinisekisa njani ukuba unezixa ezaneleyo zokwabelana ngesondo? Sinezinye iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo ekugcineni ubudlelwane obumangalisayo nobusempilweni obume uvavanyo lwexesha.
Zama ukuhlangana, ibhalansi, kunye nengxoxo yokudala ubudlelwane obunempumelelo
Ukudibana
Ukuthandana kweqabane lakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukudibana kuchazwa njengokuthanda okuzenzekelayo okanye kwendalo komnye umntu. Ngamandla phakathi kwabantu abangela ukuba bangene kwaye bahlale bedibene kunye.
Ukunxibelelana kwaye ube nothando lomntu ongoyena mntu umele umthande ngokwenene loo mntu. Kufuneka ube nobuhlobo. Isitshixo kukuhlala ugcina ukudibana komnye nomnye kujongwa.
Nje ukuba ukudibana kuphele ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye kunzima kakhulu ukubuyisela. Akunakwenzeka kodwa kunzima.
Ibhalansi
Ibhalansi kubudlelwane ibaluleke kakhulu. Ibhalansi ichazwa njengokulingana ngokwasemzimbeni, ukudityaniswa kokuthandeka kwezinto, ukuzinza kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo, ukuzisa imvisiswano okanye umlinganiso.
Ibhalansi sisixhobo esifanelekileyo esenza ukuba umntu abe sisibini. Ikwayinto ebalulekileyo ekufumaneni ukulalanisa kwimiceli mngeni ejongene nabuphi na ubudlelwane. Abantu ababini bayazi ngokudibeneyo kodwa bagcina ubuntu babo egameni lothando.
Kuyinzuzo entle kwaye iyimfuneko xa ninokulingana ngaphandle.
Umzekelo, njengoko kuvela uxinzelelo, ibhalansi kuxa iqabane lakho liyayiqonda imeko kwaye liyazi ukuba kuthatha ntoni ukungenelela kwaye uncede ukuthatha uxinzelelo. Olu luhlobo lobudlelwane be-symbiotic kunye nendlela entle yokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokuvelisa unxibelelwano olukhulu kunye nemvisiswano.
Incoko
Ukukwazi ukuba neencoko ezisebenzayo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano. Incoko esempilweni kukutshintshiselana ngeemvakalelo, ukuqaphela kunye nemibono.
Incoko sisiseko sesibini esichaza ukuba loluphi na ulwalamano.
Xa incoko ingekhoyo, ubumbano kunye nokulingana kuqala ukwehla kukungoneliseki okukhokelela kwimvakalelo yokubambeka kurhwaphilizo.
Into yeNtetho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ye-ABC kulwalamano olwanelisayo.
Ukukwazi ukuncokola ngezihloko ezicelomngeni kubalulekile kwimpumelelo yobudlelwane bakho. Sebenzisa amagama akusondelelanisa kunye kunokukhuthaza umlo okanye ukubhabha kubalulekile. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho lenza into ekucaphukisayo, into yokuqala onokuthi uyenze kukubazisa ngendlela abakucaphukisa ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuhlala kukhokelela ekubeni bazikhusele, balwe umva okanye bashiye imeko. Akukho nanye kwezi meko eluncedo kwimeko.
Kuthekani ukuba kwelinye icala wabelana ngengcambu yomsindo wakho? Xa ungakhange uze kum njengoko ubuthembisile, indenze buhlungu kakhulu le nto. Ndive ngathi awundikhathalelanga mna okanye iimvakalelo zam. Amagama anje aya kunenza nisondelelane kunokuba anityhalele kude.
Yonwaba
Ingcinga enye yokugqibela kukuqiniseka ukuba uyonwabile ebomini bakho. Kunzima ukungonwabi xa ukonwabela ukukhwela. Inoveli kubudlelwane yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ke qiniseka ukuba ucwangcisa imihla yobusuku kunye nabanye rhoqo. Izifundo zobudlelwane zibonise amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuba endaweni yesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya onomsebenzi womhla obuqhele ukwenza awunakuba nawo wenza ifuthe elihle kubudlelwane bakho.
Ke phuma kwinkqubo yakho kwaye uzame into entsha enje ngeklasi yobugcisa, ubusuku be-spa ekhaya, izifundo zomdaniso, ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle kweskydiving, uyayifumana imbono.
Sonke siyazi ukuba nobudlelwane obumangalisayo buthatha umsebenzi kodwa kufanelekile kumandla kunye nomzamo xa ulungile. Ithemba lethu kukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nithintele ukubambeka kwisifo se-rut ngokongeza into entsha kwimihla yenu, ukuziqhelanisa ne-A, B, C's kwaye ngaloo ndlela niyila ubudlelwane obumangalisayo obuza kuhlala ubomi bonke.