Umxholo
- Wenza ntoni xa into ekuchukumisayo yajika yangumbungu
- Uyifumana njani inkululeko kubudlelwane?
- Zibuze, ngaba ubudlelwane bakho buquka inkululeko?
- Ukusebenza nzima kunomvuzo
- Akukho nto iziva ikhuseleke ngaphezu kokuba yinxalenye yomatshini oneoli eninzi
Emva kokuchitha ixesha elingcono kwezi veki zimbalwa zidlulileyo, ndisebenzela ukubuyisela ikhaya lethu kwimeko entle emva kwexesha elide ndililungisile, ndizifumana ndicinga ngenkululeko.
Ndichithe iiyure ndikhetha iikhabhathi zempahla, izixhobo zombutho wasekhaya kunye neebhaskithi, ndizidibanisa 'kude kube kusasa, ndifudusa izinto ezahlukeneyo zasendlini. Eyona nto ndiyifunayo kukuba ndikhululeke kulo msebenzi uziva ungenasiphelo.
Ngelixa ndisebenza kunye nomyeni wam, ndiphupha ngendlela ikhaya lethu eliya kujongeka ngayo xa i-crux ephambili yomsebenzi yenziwe. Kungcono kangakanani ukusebenza siza kuba? Ukufumana into esiyifunayo kwi-snap yeminwe yethu, endaweni yokukhangela kwisithuba esincinci esasikade sizicinezela kuso.
Ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba mnandi kangakanani xa yonke into inendawo yayo kwaye sonke sinendawo eninzi. Ndiphefumla ngesiqabu ndisazi ukuba ngelixa sichithe iiyure ezininzi kule projekthi ibonakala ngathi ayinasiphelo, ngoku ndiyayibona intambo. Indenze ndabona ukuba iintlungu zinokuba kufanelekile.
Xa abathengi bam ekugqibeleni befumene umntu abebemfuna ubomi babo bonke, baphefumla isiqabu. Yonke loo minyaka yokuthandana ekugqibeleni ikhokelele kulo mzuzu.
Xa babekwindlela yokuthandana (kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyabalisa), iintlungu zokuvula ikhubalo, amaxesha ngamaxesha, umhla emva komhla, waziva ungapheliyo.
Wenza ntoni xa into ekuchukumisayo yajika yangumbungu
Ukudibana nomntu omtsha; ungazi nokuba uza kuqhagamshela na; baziva bengaqinisekanga malunga nokuba babanike ithuba lesibini; bexhalabile abayi kufuna; utyalo-mali iinyanga zokwazi umntu-ngumsebenzi onzima ngenene.
Kodwa emva kwayo yonke loo nto, emva kokudibana kunye nokutshata, ungaqhubeka ufumanise ukuba zonke ezo zinto zazinomdla kuwe, ziyakucaphukisa ngokwenene!
Isimo sabo sokungakhathali ngoku siba noburhabaxa nokungakhathali. Umsebenzi wabo obalaseleyo ngoku ubizwa ngokuba ngumsebenzi. Iishawari zabo zithatha ixesha elide ukuze bamoshe onke amanzi ashushu, okanye bahlambe rhoqo kwaye iBO yabo Uyakuvukela.
Kwaye, kusemva kweenyanga ezininzi kunye neminyaka yokufumana iindlela zokuthetha omnye nomnye, apho uya kuqonda ukuba wonke umsebenzi owenzileyo ukuze niqondane uye wahlawulwa ekugqibeleni, kwaye ungaqala ukuphefumla ngokulula kwaye uzive simahla.
Uyifumana njani inkululeko kubudlelwane?
Into uninzi lwabantu lulangazelela ukuziva ukhululekile kubudlelwane kwaye ujonge iindlela zokugcina inkululeko kubudlelwane.
Ke, endaweni yokwenza umzamo wokuqondana ngokwenene ekuqaleni kobudlelwane babo, bayancanca indlela abaziva ngayo ngethemba lokuba izinto ziya kuziphucula ngokwabo. Banokukholelwa nokuba bacela amaqabane abo kakhulu okanye banolindelo olungaqhelekanga, olunokuba okanye lungabi njalo. Kodwa ukuba uziva ungaqondwa, ungaxabiswanga, okanye ungakhuselekanga, le ayisiyiyo imvakalelo ofuna ukuhlala nayo.
Zibuze, ngaba ubudlelwane bakho buquka inkululeko?
Abantu abaninzi banenkolelo engeyonyani yokuba ukuba umthanda ngokwenene umntu onaye, kwaye ukuba uyaqhubeka nokutshata lowo, yonke into kufanelekile ukuba iwele endaweni. Inyani yomcimbi kukuba oku akunjalo.
Ukuba uziva ngathi usebenza nzima, ndiye ndithathe umnqwazi wam. Kukho amaxesha ebomini bethu xa kunje. Ndikuthetha oku zombini njengengcali yomtshato kwaye njengowasetyhini otshatileyo phantse iminyaka eyi-19.
Ukusebenza nzima kunomvuzo
Xa iqabane lakho likubona usenza umzamo wokwenyani, ihlala ibakhuthaza ukuba bafune ukungena ngaphakathi kwaye emva koko iba bubudlelwane obukhululayo. Ubudlelwane obubonisa inkululeko kwaye abukuvaleli entolongweni ekubeni kule nto ufuna ukuba yiyo.
Akukho nto iziva ikhuseleke ngaphezu kokuba yinxalenye yomatshini oneoli eninzi
Ngelixa mna nomyeni wam singavumelani kuyo yonke into, ukukwazi ukusebenza ngokufanelekileyo ngenkqubo enomceli mngeni omkhulu kuye kwaba ngamava amahle okufunda kwaye kukwakhuthaze ukukhula.
Ndingathanda ukuva ukuba ulawula njani imiceli mngeni yakho ebomini. Kwaye kwabo bathandana kwaye ngethemba lokuba ngenye imini baya kutshata, ngaba uyakwazi ukugcina uluvo lwakho lwenkululeko ngelixa uxakekile ufuna esinye isiqingatha sakho?