Umxholo
Ewe, lonke usapho olungonwabanga alonwabanga ngendlela yalo, kwaye lonke usapho oluhlukumezayo lunezinto ezingenamda.
Wonke umntu unokuba lixhoba lokuxhatshazwa kusapho, nokuba ungakanani na ngokobudala, isini, inqanaba lemfundo, inqanaba lezoqoqosho- nokuba umntu unaluphi na uphawu. Ubundlobongela bondla imo ethile phakathi kolwalamano, kwaye inzima njengaye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.
Ezi zinto zitshintshiweyo zidinisa onke amalungu osapho, kodwa phantse kube nzima ukwahlukana nazo. Isizathu silele kumdlalo oziqhubela phambili wamandla nolawulo.
Umjikelo wentshabalalo
Nangona kungekho nosapho olunye oluhlukumezayo olufanayo, kukho iimpawu ezithile zolo lwalamano.
Ukuphathwa gadalala kuhlala kwenzeka kwimijikelo. Usapho ludlula kumaxesha okuzola phambi kwesiphango, xa, nangona izinto zinoxolo ngaphandle, uxinzelelo luyakhula kwaye isiqendu esibi sokuxhatshazwa kunye nobundlongondlongo ayinakuphepheka.
Idityaniswe namaqhinga atshabalalisayo okuqinisekisa amandla kumaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala kosapho, imeko-bume enje embi ihlala ikhokelela kubomi bokuzithemba, ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo, kunye noloyiko.
Umdlalo wamandla kunye nolawulo, (ngokungathandi) odlalwa lilungu ngalinye losapho, ugcinwa kukungazithembi. Bobabini ixhoba kunye nomxhaphazi abaziqinisekanga kwaye banesidingo esinzulu kodwa sezifo. Umxhaphazi woyika ukuba uya (kuboniswa) indlela angazithembanga ngayo kwaye uyoyika ukubonakala ebuthathaka. Nangona kunjalo, (s) ukholelwa kakhulu ukuba (s) akathandeki. Kwelinye icala, ixhoba lisoyika ukuba alithandeki ngokubanzi kwaye liyathandwa ngumxhaphazi.
Ke, bobabini bayakwamkela ukungalindeleki kolwalamano lwabo -ukungangqinelani kunye nothando olungahambelaniyo. Nangona kunjalo, ekubonakaleni okungaxakekiyo, kuyomelela ngendlela eyothusayo, kwaye sihlala sibona ezona ntsapho zixhaphazayo ezinamalungu abo abonakala ngathi akakwazi ukwahlula kunye nokuseta imida.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Abazali abahlukumezayo ngokweemvakalelo-Indlela yokuchonga kunye nokuNyanga kuXhatshazo
Udlalwa njani umdlalo wamandla kunye nolawulo
Umdlalo oyityhefu wamandla kunye nolawulo uhlala udlalwa ngumxhaphazi esebenzisa amaqhinga ahlukeneyo ukulawula, kwaye ixhoba linikezela kulo ngenxa yokoyika ukwaliwa nokungathandwa. Oku kujika kube kukusukela okungapheliyo ekuvunyweni nasekuthandweni, okuza ngendlela engalunganga, kudinisa onke amandla novuyo lwexhoba.
Ezinye zeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokuxhaphaza abaxhaphazi abazisebenzisayo ukumisela ngokuqinileyo ipatheni yehegemony zezi-
- Ukoyikisa: ukumilisela iindlela ezoyikisayo ezahlukeneyo, ukusebenzisa inkangeleko, amagama okanye izijekulo ukuvusa uloyiko, ucebisa ukuba uthando lubekiwe ngendlela yokuziphatha yexhoba "echanekileyo", njl .; Kananjalo, uhlobo oluthile lokoyikisa nokuxhaphaza lwenzeka xa umxhaphazi esoyikisa (ngokuphandle okanye ngokufihlakeleyo) ngokuzibulala, ukushiya, okanye ukwenzakaliswa nangayiphi na indlela, ukuba ixhoba aliziphathi ngendlela ethile.
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo: ukwenza ixhoba lizive linetyala kwaye linoxanduva lokuxhatshazwa, ukuthuka, ukuhlazisa, ukubiza amagama, ukwenza ukuba bazive bengakhuselekanga, bengonelanga, kwaye bengenakuzinceda, njl.
- Sebenzisa ulawulo lwezoqoqosho: ukusebenzisa imali nezinto onazo ukwenza ukuba ixhoba lingenise ("... ngelixa uphantsi kophahla lwam ...", "... ungafa ulambile ngaphandle kwentlawulo yam!")
- Ukuzahlula ixhoba kwihlabathi langaphandle: ayinyanzelekanga ukuba ibe lilolo elipheleleyo Ukuba sesichengeni sayo nayiphi na into ayixelelweyo ngumxhaphazi.
Ewe kunjalo, onke la maqhinga abandakanya iindlela ezifihlakeleyo zokuphathwa gadalala. Iindlela ezichanekileyo zokuxhatshazwa kunye nobundlobongela bosapho (ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwesondo) ziwela phantsi kodidi olunye olubanzi kwaye azihlukanga kakhulu kwisiseko sazo. Ezi zinto zibaluleke kakhulu kwaye zinokubonakalisa nokubulala iimfuno ezifanayo kunye nokungaqiniseki.
Nangona kunjalo, kwanokuxhatshazwa okungacacanga kungakhokelela kwingozi enkulu, kwaye akufuneki kuthathwe kancinci ngenxa yokuba ukwenzakala komzimba akwenzekanga. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele kwaye uzame ukuguqula iipateni ezingalunganga kunye nemikhwa yosapho.
Ukuhlala kusapho oluxhaphazayo kuhlala kunzima njengokufumana iindlela zokutshintsha.
Ukunikela ubungqina okanye ukufumana ukuxhatshazwa kosapho njengexhoba kunokuba yingozi kubantwana abakubudala obubonakalayo. Izinto eziguqukayo ezintsonkothileyo zibanzima nangakumbi kukuba phantse ayinakuba nje ngamalungu osapho amabini abandakanyeka kubudlelwane obungenampilo. Ilungu ngalinye linendima yalo ekugcinweni kotshintshiselwano lwezifo, uninzi lwazo oluneempendulo ezingacwangciswanga kwaye zenzekelayo. Yiyo loo nto ukwenza utshintsho kuhlala kungenakwenzeka ukuba ayingomzamo odibeneyo, uhlala ukhokelwa ngugqirha.
Nangona kunjalo, ngumzamo olifanelwe lixesha lethu namandla, njengoko uninzi lweentsapho lusenokutshintsha lube ziindawo zothando nezokhuseleko.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iindlela ezisebenzayo zokujongana nemiphumo yasemva kokuhlaselwa komzimba