Umxholo
- Abazalwana noodade abatsha
- Umntwana wesibini uyala umzali wabo omtsha
- Umntwana wesibini uyala ukukhulula umzali wabo obazalayo
- Kuza kufuneka ukhethe
- Sukuphambanisa ukungqubana okuqhelekileyo kosapho kunye neengxaki zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo
Izinto eziguqukayo kusapho kwisibini esisandul 'ukutshata esinabantwana bokutshata kwahluke kakhulu kwinkcazo yemveli yabantu abasandul' ukutshata. Abantwana bomtshato wokugqibela ingakumbi abo badlulayo kunkwenkwana nangaphambi kokuba babe kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo baya kuyifumana iyindida le meko.
Abantu abadala abatshata iqabane elinabantwana, ngokucacileyo bayayazi into abayenzayo. Ubuncinci siyathemba ukuba bayayenza. Abantwana, ngakumbi abantwana abancinci, abayiqondi kakuhle le meko. Oko kunokuba nzima kwizinto.
Nazi iingxaki eziqhelekileyo zabantwana bokuzalwa kunye nendlela onokubanceda ngayo ukuba baziqhelanise nayo
Abazalwana noodade abatsha
Abantwana abanabantakwabo noodadewabo abatsha basisipho.
Kodwa ngequbuliso ukuba nabantwana bomtshato wesibini kunokubothusa. Ngaphandle kokuba bachitha ixesha elininzi kunye ngelixa isibini esithandanayo, ungothuki xa omnye okanye bonke abantwana bomtshato bengavumelani.
Oku akusoloko kunjalo, ngakumbi ukuba abantwana bachitha ixesha omnye nomnye ngelixa isibini sisathandana. Kodwa kuba ulapha, mhlawumbi ulindele okanye ufumana elinye icala lentonga.
Kuphela ngabantwana abanabazali abangenamaqabane abasetyenziselwa ukujongwa ngokupheleleyo ngabazali babo. Abaqhelananga nokwabelana nantoni na nabani na. Yonke into ukusuka kukutya, iithoyi, ukuya kumzali uqobo, iyaqondakala into yokuba baya kuziva ubutshaba kuye nabani na ngequbuliso unelungelo lokwenza oko kuthathelwa ingqalelo ngumntwana wakhe kwihlabathi liphela.
Bobabini abazali, ngakumbi owokwemvelo kuya kufuneka beqinile ekufundiseni abantwana ngeempawu zokwabelana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sisifundo sobomi ekuya kufuneka basifunde hayi ngenxa yabantwana babo abatsha, kodwa ngokwabo, njengoko bephuma besiya kwihlabathi.
Ukwabelana, ukunyamezelana, kunye nomonde kwabanye ziimpawu ezintle abantu abazakuzidinga naxa sele bekhulile. Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo njengayo nayiphi na, ukuyifundisa nokuyisebenzisa.
Umntwana wesibini uyala umzali wabo omtsha
Lo ngumba onzima, kwaye indlela ekusetyenzwa ngayo ixhomekeke kubudala nakwisizathu somntwana. Njengomkhuhlane, le yinto ekufuneka ivunyelwe ukuba iqhubeke ikhosi yayo kwaye inyamezele ngelixa kuncitshiswa iimpawu.
Zininzi izizathu ezibangela ukuba umntwana angamamkeli umzali wesibini. Uninzi lwazo alunakusombululeka okanye alunakwenzeka ukuba kujongwane nalo ngqo. Eminye imizekelo yile:
- Bafuna abazali babo bokwenyani babuyelane
- Banomkhethe ngaphandle komzali kumzali wesibini
- Abafuni ukwabelana (ngakumbi igumbi lokulala) nomzali wesibini
- Umona
- Bonwabile yimeko ekhoyo kwaye lo "mntu" uyayonakalisa
Ngenxa yemizekelo engentla, akukho pilisi yomlingo enokusombulula nayiphi na kwezi ngxaki umntwana akholelwa ukuba kutheni bemala umzali wesibini. Ukuba ucinga kuphela ngombono womntwana -yindlela uninzi lwabo olucinga ngayo, zonke ezo zizathu ziyaqondakala kwaye zinengqiqo, nokuba kubonakala kufanelekile.
Ngokombono womntu omdala, konke oko kuthetha ukuba umntwana kufuneka azilungelelanise neminqweno yakho yokuzingca. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba umntwana uyala umzali wesibini kwaye uqhubeke wabatshata, yeyiphi enye into esinokuyibiza ngaphandle komnqweno wokuzingca.
Kungenxa yokuba ngabantu abadala abakhethe ukwenza imeko ephikisanayo, kuxhomekeke kwisibini ukuba sibe nomonde kwaye soyise olo calucalulo ngokuhamba kwexesha. Musa ukuhlawula ngaphezulu kwetyala. Menze nje umntwana ngendlela oza kumenza ngayo, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha, abantwana baya kutshintsha iingqondo zabo. Ngethemba.
Umntwana wesibini uyala ukukhulula umzali wabo obazalayo
Kulula ukwazi ukuba ngunobangela weengxaki zabantwana bakho bomtshato wokugqibela. Uyakuva "ikhekhe lomzali wam ondizalayo lingcono kunelakho" kakhulu. Ukuba le ngxaki iphambili onayo nomntwana wakho wesibini, inokubonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
- Ukwala ukutya ukutya okulungiselele
- Aliphulaphuli naliphi na icebo okanye uqeqesho
- Akakuhoyi
- Rhoqo ufuna ukuya komnye umzali wabo wendalo
- Baphoxeka xa kufuneka begodukile
Sukukujongela phantsi ukudibana phakathi komzali wokuzalwa kunye nomntwana.
Kwakukho imeko apho umntwana akhulele endlwini yomzali wesibini, ohlawulela imfundo yakhe, kwaye umntwana wayehlala endlwini de babe sele bezotshata. Umzali wesibini uhlala engaxabiswanga ngalo lonke ixesha. Utata "wokwenyani" kufuneka avele kube kanye kwinyanga eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka kwaye umntwana ubuxabisile ubukho bukatata wokwenene. Ibali laphela xa umzali wesibini wenqaba ukuhlawulela umtshato kwaye wakhupha wonke umntu. Ibali lokwenyani.
Kuza kufuneka ukhethe
Ukuba akukho butshaba phakathi kweqabane lakho elitsha kunye neqabane langaphambili kwaye umntwana uhlala ethembekile kumzali wabo "wokwenyani", kuya kufuneka wenze ukhetho.
Ngaba ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bangoku bufanele ukuginya ikratshi lakho kunye nokuhlwaya, okanye uzimisele ukukrwela umgca kwindawo ethile emngciphekweni wokwahlukanisa usapho lwakho olutsha? Zombini ezi zikhetho zilungile, lixesha kuphela eliza kuxela ukuba wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
Ekugqibeleni, abantwana bomtshato wesibini ngabantwana nje. Baya kwenza njengabantwana, bacinge njengabantwana, baphendule njengabantwana. Njengomntu omdala, kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba usebenze phi, kwaye usebenze nzima kusapho okhethe ukulwenza. Oko kubandakanya bonke abantwana bomtshato wesibini kwaye kubandakanya iqabane lakho, iqabane lakho langaphambili, kunye nezihlobo zabo.
Abantwana bazingca kwaye abazi bhetele, abantu abadala abanasizathu, ngelishwa, nabantu abadala balindelwe ziintsapho ezixubeneyo.
Sukuphambanisa ukungqubana okuqhelekileyo kosapho kunye neengxaki zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo
Kukho iingcebiso ezikhoyo kwiingxaki zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo. Uninzi lweengxaki zosapho oludibeneyo ziyahamba emva kwethoni yomonde kunye nothando oluninzi kwesi sibini de abantwana bamkele usapho olutsha njengolwabo. Qiniseka ukuba awudibanisi ukungqubana okuqhelekileyo kosapho kunye neengxaki zosapho ezihlanganisiweyo. Ukuba nemicimbi nabantwana kwenzeka nakwiintsapho zesiko.
Nje ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho elitsha nibe nomntwana ozelweyo, iya kuvula yonke imibungu kwaye iphinde iqale iingxaki kwakhona. Okanye inokuba sisipho ngoku ukuba usapho lwakho oluxubileyo lunabantakwenu abaqhelekileyo begazi kwaye luzisa wonke umntu kunye. Ngumcimbi wethamsanqa kunye nobuntu babantwana bomtshato wakho. Nokuba zithini na, zonke iintsapho, ezihlanganisiweyo okanye ezihamba ngeendlela ezinamatye.
Ukuba neengxaki zabantwana besibini kuthetha ukuba usapho lwakho luqale ngonyawo oluphosakeleyo. Kuxhomekeke kuwe kunye neqabane lakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into iba ngcono ukusuka apho.