Umxholo
- Ngaba ukwahlulwa kwesibonelelo kuyindlela efanelekileyo yomtshato wakho?
- Ukucwangcisa yonke into kwangaphambili kubalulekile
- Ukuchonga ukusebenza koncedo lokwahlulahlula
- Ukugcina ukugcina ukuthembana kunye nemida ecacileyo
Uluvo lokwahlulahlula okuphuculweyo, kwabanye, ekuqaleni kunokubonakala ngathi alungeni kwaphela.
Ukwahlula ngenjongo yokuphucula umtshato izandi ezichaseneyo. Emva kwakho konke, ngubani othi xa uhlukanisa loo nto awuyi kuhamba nje esikhundleni sokulawula kwakhona intlanzi eyayikho phakathi kwakho xa uqala ukuthi 'ndiyakwenza.'
Ewe ukwahlula okwandisayo ngokwenene 'kuyinto,' kwaye sisicwangciso esisebenzayo nesiluncedo sokunceda abantu baxolelanise, baphucule umtshato wabo kwaye baphephe uqhawulo-mtshato!
Ingcali ekhokelayo kunye nombhali othengisa kakhulu, uSusan Pease Gadoua weza nale mbono ngo-2008 ebesoloko enceda izibini ukufumana indlela yazo yokoyisa iingxaki zomtshato ngokwandisa ukwanda.
Kukho izizathu ezithathu zakudala zokuba kutheni isibini esitshatileyo singahlukana
- Njengenxalenye yenkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato
- Ukufumana indawo kunye nembono ngomtshato
- Ukwahlula okuphuculweyo; ukuphucula umtshato
Ngaba ukwahlulwa kwesibonelelo kuyindlela efanelekileyo yomtshato wakho?
Ngamanye amaxesha, izibini azinakuhlala ngokonwaba okanye ngokukhululekileyo phantsi kophahla olunye; abanokuhlala bonwabela ukubotshwa kwikhaya losapho 24/7.
Uhlala usiva ngezibini eziqhawule umtshato ezisebenza kunye nomzali, kwaye xa sele behlengahlengisile ukuba nexesha elithile bodwa, bayonwabile kwindawo abanayo. Ibavumela ukuba babe ngokwabo kwaye bazilungiselele kuyo nantoni na abakhetha ukuyenza ngexesha labo.
Ukwahlulwa kokunyusa kunika izibonelelo ezifanayo ngaphandle kokuba uhlala usemtshatweni, utshatile kwaye uzibophelele komnye nomnye. Ufumana nje ixesha elithile emtshatweni kwaye ufunde ukuxabisana ngakumbi.
Abanye abantu bathatha inxaxheba ekwahlukaneni okuphucula ixesha elifutshane, ngelixa abanye banokufumana indlela yokwenza oko ngokusisigxina.
Uyabona, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ukuba isibini esitshatileyo sihlala ngokwahlukeneyo, nangona ekuhlaleni kubonakala kuyinto engaqhelekanga ukuyenza.
Imiqathango osebenza ngayo ekwahlukaneni kwakho okunyanzelekileyo kuya kufuneka ukuba isonjululwe phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho kwaye kufanele ukuba ibe yeyokwenyani kwaye ibe yeyakho kuwe njengesibini kunye neemfuno zomntu ngamnye kunokuba uthathe indlela yokubhala yencwadi kukwahlukana kwakho okuphuculweyo. Njenge :
- Ukunyaniseka.
- Ukukhathalela abantwana.
- Niza kuchitha njani ixesha kunye kwaye nihlale nidibene kwaye nisondelelene
- Uza kuwusebenzisa njani umba wezemali kolu khetho lokuphila
Ukucwangcisa yonke into kwangaphambili kubalulekile
Ukuba uqinisekisa ukuba ucwangcisa yonke into kwangaphambili awuyi kuhamba nakweyiphi na ingxaki yomtshato ngexesha lokwahlukana kwakho.
Jonga iingcebiso ezinikezelwa rhoqo kwi-Intanethi malunga nendlela yokulungiselela naluphi na uhlobo lokwahlukana, iya kugubungela uninzi lwezinto oya kuzifuna ukuba wazi ngaphambi kokwahlukana okwandisiweyo.
Ukwahlulwa okunyanzelekileyo akufuneki kwenziwe ngokusesikweni ngokupheleleyo, wena neqabane lakho ninokuvuma ukuba usuku olunye ngeveki umntu ngamnye kuni uyakuhlala nezihlobo okanye ihotele okanye indlu eyahlukileyo egcinelwe le njongo kwaye ibe nye ubusuku ngeveki yexesha 'lakho'.
Ngelixa elinye iqabane ligcina ikhaya losapho kunye nabantwana. Abanye abantu abatshatileyo banokukhetha ukunika iveki enye ikhefu rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbalwa apho baya eholideyini iveki beshiya iqabane kunye nosapho ngasemva.
Uyabona, ukwahlulwa okunyanzelekileyo kunokuba yiyo nayiphi na indlela yokwahlula ‘ngokusisigxina okanye ngokungapheliyo ngaphandle kokushiya umtshato, nangona kunokuba kubiza kakhulu kwaye kuya kuba kukunethezeka kwezinye izibini.
Ukuchonga ukusebenza koncedo lokwahlulahlula
Nanku umzekelo wezinye zezizathu zokuba kutheni ungathathela ingqalelo ukwahlulwa kwesixhasi.
- Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho ninomgama phakathi kwenu enisokola ukubuya kuwo, kodwa nobabini nizimisele ukwenza umtshato usebenze.
- Ukuba elinye iqabane lityhafile, linokudakumba okanye uxinzelelo kwaye lifuna ixesha.
- Ukuba kukho abantwana emtshatweni wakho, ninokungenelwa ngamanye amaxesha ngokuzipha ixesha lokugcina izinto zintsha kwaye nizigcine womelele kwaye nizimisele.
- Ukuba ufuna ixesha lokucinga ngemeko yomtshato wakho, qaphela oku kungakhokelela kukwahlukana ngokusisigxina nangona.
- Ukuba nobabini nizinikele omnye komnye kodwa ninomdla ohlukileyo kakhulu okanye ukhetho lwendlela yokuphila.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, ukuba omnye okanye bobabini abatshatileyo baziva ngathi bafuna ikhefu kunye nexesha elithile, okanye ukuba uphulukene ne-spark yakho kunye ne-zest yobomi ukwahlukana okunyanzelekileyo kunokuba sisisombululo esifanelekileyo kuwe.
Ukugcina ukugcina ukuthembana kunye nemida ecacileyo
Ukwahlula okwandisiweyo kubandakanya ukucinga okuncinci xa ucinga ukuba loluphi uhlobo lobomi ngokusisigxina okanye olungasigxina onokuthanda ukuyenza nobabini kodwa nantoni na enokwenzeka ngokwahlulahlula-ukuba nje ugcina ukuthembana kunye nemida ecacileyo.
Ukuthembana yeyona nto ibalulekileyo apha ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho ninobunzima bokuthembana, ngesizathu esivakalayo okanye hayi, ukwahlukana okuphuculweyo kunokubangela ezinye iingxaki kunye nemiceli mngeni emtshatweni kunokuba wawusele unjalo.
Kubalulekile ngokwahlula phakathi ukuba wena neqabane lakho nithembane kwaye nobabini nisebenze nzima ukugcina ukuthembana kungenjalo akunakulunga kwaphela.